LIFE = Applied Sciences

Life if basically quite simple.

If you want money (so called wealth & prestige) you will need to confront cheating lying and insincerity at every stage. The world as it is now, is run by occult forces that have for now tied the money domain with the lowest propensities of humankind. How much of it are you prepared to take?

If you want sex you will need to subvert your persona to another's and beg for it with insincere acts of praise and blowing up the other's vanity. How much of it are you prepared for? You may even get entrapped in an endless payment schedule of wanting and retribution.

All your efforts will need you to ask for help and involve give and take and unwilling associations. Are you ready for it?

You will neglect your body and know sickness and yet without it you are "not even here". Thought of it?

You really will be selling yourself and your Soul.

How much of your life is your "real wish"?

Think. Use your mind.

To grow even a little into greater manhood like Hanuman (Indian God that transcended into Godhood by sheer power of sincerity and devotion to Godhead) we have to go from being a slave mentally to a commander. The mind has to be disciplined and brought to serve as a tool of our Soul.

The idea to speak on these subjects is mainly to help the mind open to new "Questions". But the mind is too clever. It won't allow it. It wants the human mind-state to stay within limits and find rationale to let life be. Life is basically bearable. What is the problem? We have to first learn to see the mind as a separate instrument from us.

The human mind is part of the mental World. It is as huge, borderless, and as infinite as you can make it. The human mind is mostly grandiose, wishful and a great artist; it can imagine, create wonderful images, cook up ideas, perceptions and even build statues in the mind and call them "real". It is also clever and cunning and keeps on embroiling itself and others in shady projects. It is a fun place really. It really is a fool's paradise. Illusions and delusions and reality live together in this domain. When this mind is not trained and brought under the stick of self-discipline, it is a great deceiver. Most of the time it fills its human container (recipient/persona) with illusionary thoughts and grandiose self-assessment parameters. No wonder humans are happy with their state. They don't see their follies and infirmities at all. The mind makes sure that they see only their greatness.

From the way I see it is that by normalising all critical thought you start accepting what is. There is a great virtue in acceptance but it also closes doors to reaching to higher consciousness levels. It is equally easy to be rationalizing every bit of our character and behavior as it is of changing it but rationalism removes all need to think of change. If being silent, calmly existing is the aim then humanity's attitude to not rock the boat is perfect. Everything and any subject can be rationalised one way or another to make existence comfortable. How will becoming aware of the larger world beyond the mind help in living down here? Nobody is really genuinely interested. It is understandable.

In this book I relate from personal experience the life and lies that we humans are living. We may pray, study philosophy and psychology but do nothing to improve our basic character. We pride and console ourselves by oft-repeating that god made us in his image. This collection is 2 books in one. In the first I bring up the points of lies that we live in. In the second I show how parenting perpetuates the errors and how this can be corrected.

I have a request before you get into the book. I would like you to think that; 70 active and conscious years have gone into realizing the words I am putting down here. I have put a great deal of perfecting, study and effort in my knowledge of language and delivering messages. I feel I have done a good job of saying accurately what I wished to say. Please start with this premise that I know what I am talking of and let your mind accept this as a start to a new wave of thinking. Kindly don't be in a hurry to interpret, rephrase and explain it all away. If you find the ideas new to you, do let them sink in. I say this because all the major religions have had centuries of time to embed many concepts and postulates as truth and the time has come to go further forward into the evolutionary future; a little against the old grain. Best Wishes

Where do I start? First let us see how this world is: "I want peace and quiet" .....And to obtain these, first we have to make a decent place to gather in the market-place and this would first require some lying, cheating, fibbing and spending hours hooking-up with people we don't like and drink coffee distastefully with people we would rather not.

People opting out of the rat race are rarely recognised as of any worth because in this world even though wanting to be living within a higher consciousness the fact is people still do regard worldly monetary status that is visible as indicative of worth.

Note: To this has been added the letters that indicate diplomas and awards. Everything has become superficial as if people have lost all ability to discern and judge anything on their own.

Today's education, life-style, commercial world and training has resulted in people getting into protective cocoons. It is as much a wave of not needing others and an Egoistic movement to protect one's goods, privacy and unbelievably a need to be alone due to a spiritual awareness growth that is being seen. What shape things will take in the future is any one's guess. But one thing is certain. Egoism is not going to take us far. We need human spiritual interaction, exchange of energies (like nutrition for growth) otherwise we shall stagnate and dry-up. We have to stop ourselves from over-protecting ourselves or hiding behind our possessions. There is special need today to find our childish openness again and let destiny, chance and providence do their thing. There is nothing to fear although yes, there is a lot of stuff out there to damage us but we should counter this by educating ourselves and not by closing doors.

We are basically a dishonest race. How humans weave insincerity into their lives. The first and foremost is this need to manipulate others. There is this great need to create a favorable impression. We are very conscious of our abilities, the impression we may be making and totally aware how limited are our abilities. We have almost very thoroughly compared ourselves with many others and found ourselves wanting but instead of improving ourselves by learning and retraining ourselves we get into the act of "charades". As an example look about and you'll the inordinate care we place on our branded clothing with the "brand" showing prominently, our hairdos, our purchases that would be visible to others are always more expensive than we can afford or need. Our cars are our first line of "Impression" and we make sure that we get one or more to make an impact. The second factor is how we hide ourselves under the carpet by straight lying.

Another lie that is deep in our psyche is the use of the word love. How many say I love you to women when all they want is to play with her luscious body -- often they even marry so that a woman is available when they want one. But inside, they all know that a charade is being played out for convenience for the married couple. The woman knows is equally well but it suits her. And before parting let me ask you how many people take a job and execute it honestly keeping the interests of the company in mind and how many employers care a whit or their employees considering the company depends on their grit? How many companies really want to enrich their shareholders and how many loans are taken with a sincere need and intent to pay? There is also this insincerity in showing effort to be spiritually oriented and inclined. Too much effort is put in Personal Effort towards attaining Enlightenment.

(PS: this holds good even if we want to become a good manger and leader of men.)

Enlightenment is a state that is active and as a process it is forever flowing towards humanity outwards and is simply waiting at the gates to be let in. One little crack and it will come flooding in.

But humans have put up heavy sluice gates that they keep closed.

Life has taught them that everything from boiling an egg, taking a bath and hunting an elephant requires personal effort. In the physical domain this is true. All the books on yoga/religious literature demand that you sit in such poses and silence the mind and get onto the mediation bandwagon etc and this education has convinced the human spirit that enlightenment is another state, another world and like a missile we got to fire it away to reach the heights.

I think this is a total misadventure. Most of the time the humans remain in the mental domain albeit in a very larger circumference. It SEEMs like enlightenment and one may easily delude oneself that they have crossed over but it is not.

What is needed is to train the mind to be objective, impartial, honest and sincere along with "learning" all that one can to show the mind what life is all about. Until one has not experienced Life in all its hues personally one does not become aware of one's functioning and the subterfuges that are employed by our mind (ego) to avoid the real work to look into oneself and our utter lack of sincerity.

So first become grateful for all there is and then be sincere enough to look at yourself and your machinations. Call it respect or whatever I wouldn't call it self-respect though.

It is the absolute need to protect one's aura.

When one is trying to concretise one's being into an INDIVIDUAL with spiritually understood positive vibrations, the whole world around us tends to turn around on us to not let it happen as it disturbs the status quo of the dominant beings. This is why it is so difficult to be honest, live and work honestly - the rest of the world will impose in such a way that it would make it impossible

PS: this hold good even if we want to become a good manger and leader of men.

Technically from the intuitive mind level everything is undefined.

Everything is swimming with everything as a gel and no definition that will hold for long exists

We are not free and never shall we be. There is nothing like freedom. It is a concept managed by our limited mind and ego trying to pose as something special.

We are bound physically which is bound by genetics and history and limitations of the functional material needs.

Our life is bound by destiny and fate and karma and whatever you call it, specially the subconscious and we are rarely fully aware of what is what.

At the spiritual end the whole story is different and we are not even sure what it all is but we have a connection. When we explore this end, things happen.

We are very tied down but because our bodies are not literally tied down to a post, we think we are free - yet let us not forget that hunger and our need to empty the bladder keeps us verily tied down to Earth.

So dont talk to me about freedom but yes we can talk about how we can improve and better our condition.

If we don't use our mind, the knowledge that we have and in a very pragmatic way the will to live by a certain discipline, we end up being one of the herd. To the herd I have nothing to say. But one thing can still be said in general. There is a simple guideline of behavior that will take you straight down the perdition road. I call this the list of HOW NOT TO BE: Here is the list......{width="4.0in" height="4.950740376202974in"}

We may read a lot, listen to lectures and spend time with sages. But is the knowledge being imbibed and put into practice? It would be a bad mistake to suppose that one has made progress simply by having read the books. For one, human memory soon gets over written and starts fading too. So to truly internalise the guidance from a book one has to re-read it often.

I did this with two books. First I read them. Then I read them again and underlined the portions that touched my being. Then on a regular basis I would open them randomly and read whatever portions I had underlined. This went on for 30 years. This kept the teachings "live" and slowly over time they got embedded into my subconscious mind and into my general behavior. My changed behaviour brought in the change in my material/physical life as the responses changed. My subconscious patterns changed. Life changed gradually and began going in the direction I wished it to go. More in the line of the teachings of my Guru.

What ails us in the present? Let me paint a general picture: The Assuming Mind

A great lot of our thinking is founded mainly on our personal likes and rejections which in turn is based on whatever our mind has been fed with in our growing years. When we are unhappy alone because we are dependent on being happy as the center of attention from others we automatically assume that the world is also suffering in the same way. The people who are used to luxuries of bath tubs and running water easily tend to think that all those who have never known this must be miserable.

Thoughts, behaviour patterns, psychology etc are not something created by our minds. They have a basis in actuality. It cannot be a few concepts stringed together by our minds and then adopted as the truth or abandoned for newer ideas whatever. Ideas that birth in the mind, have rarely much of a foundation or connect with REALITY and the existence of Earth Consciousness.

If you open their minds and laydown the assumptions that fill the heads of humans, you will see a list of "assumptions" picked from the passing winds. It is mostly a list of personal preferences that never match the assumptions of others around.

One of the greatest fallacies is based on the need for harshness. Why teaching and administration is based on "harshness". This also translates into our need for war.

This understanding that harshness is the only way to make people behave, pay attention to rules and this will result in order. Wars early on in human evolution laid down the need to destroy opposition seen as the enemy. This is partly true but should not be necessary if we raise the kids correctly. This concept is still working insidiously in the human consciousness. Even in the democratic process which I don't believe in they are not prepared to listen to the public and regularly send in armies to control crowds. The crowd itself has totally forgotten that it was responsible for the government being what it is. Irresponsibility on one end of the spectrum and harshness at the other. And this is life today. Not to forget that the kings we choose are people from amongst us. But we talk of Peace without ever practicing one word of it. Hanuman or for a that matter Hercules would have been sorely tempted to bash us up.

The schools are not places of learning but institutions of rules and timetables. The children are not learning by experience and not growing naturally but being indoctrinated in obeying and their minds are being hammered to memorise the data on which all this harshness is based upon.

Life is therefore a harsh place for most of us. When the individual is hurt beyond repair and shows disturbing behavior he is sent to psychiatrists. I don't understand why applied psychology is not used "before" this state is reached. Why this great need for harshness?

Human love is never without an element of control; their personal space is felt as invaded. Humans are still very ego-centric and are best left to fend for themselves. The human psyche needs trials and tribulations to become aware.

Love is what will solve the problems agreed but it is so foreign as a "thing".

Certain basic disciplines that also add to the growth of the consciousness is all that early education needs. From there on the mind will learn to be objective, learn from experience and happily change track when needed for the good of all.

Our entire concept of life is faulty; encapsulated in terms of "good/bad, right or wrong: and some of these concepts are coming from way back in times which are not of any relevance in today's times.

For instance I was talking about the concepts of child marriages. 500 years ago this was a necessity of the times. Life span then was average 40 years. Wars and natural destruction was rampant. To keep the tribe growing children were needed in great numbers. Is this relevant today?

But all modern changes are not automatically good either. With less to fear from natural circumstances we have become lazy. less courageous lacking in initiative and are not battling life so our consciousness instead of taking advantage of this peaceful living has shifted stance on pleasures which are always short and require continuous repetitions and has created a new wave of depressions in their wake. This is destroying the body and pushing us into the greedy and ever ready hands of the medical industry and the religionists. The food industry has also joined hands with them and we have royally messed up the brew. All this is based on the concepts that we readily accept what is worded "good, pure, natural and truth". We assume truth is prevailing, read and believe the label and adverts; never using our minds and our education at all.

WE are suffering from undigested knowledge with no training to apply it, connect it with living.

Strategic thinking.

To be able to develop the faculty of thinking deeply and working out strategies needs a lot of both education and experience. Experience thru trials and efforts that usually end up as failures due to lack of wisdom are the best teachers. Every failure then has to followed up by deep analysis and learning/research.

Intent to deliver effectively, seriously and great personal commitment goes into taking good strategic decisions.

I don't think just talking about it will do any good. PS: I have seen people talk a lot, attend seminars/conferences and read and all but the intent is lacking. Focus on this.

Now we have reached a stage that Humans need to unlearn all and start anew with more positive objective thoughts based on their understanding of applied psychology and physics/chemistry/ natural sciences.

Humans are not rational. See the advent of the motor car and the use of the telephone. The car represents speed and comfort and exploding accidents. The speeds and the crowd of cars are the problem but do we reduce the engine power of the car to fit into the new scenario? No we add sensors and more technology in the name of safety. The telephone made life a lot simpler and easier to get much done. But its evolution today is visibly destroying more than it is achieving. The human has become addicted to his phone, talking all the time, creating noise pollution and mental fogginess and refuses to engage with other humans. Can human life on earth survive without our cohesive togetherness to live in unison without letting selfishness and self-centeredness take this upper hand? Our health already not so good is now being joined to bad mental health. People are more perturbed by the loss of their phone than the news that their father has died!!!

Institutionalised thinking is only "Good" for academic debates.

Life is what we need to look at and not definitions of it trapped in words and mental constructions. I give here a simple point to ponder (Note how selectively we pick up notions but expect wholesome results).

- People who look inwards and take up the way of self-discovery, by following certain philosophies and sects or study on their own and experience "understanding" of the way this Cosmos works somehow also create a rather specific image of the accepted image of a seer which separates them. But why? The idea should be to become master of the life you lead. Your mastery over this life should, IF AT ALL, in the way you move, handle exigencies, react and the words you use to convey your attitude. Otherwise you should be one of the crowd. What one should aim for is:

- The poise of an aristocrat,

- The analytical powers of the scientist,

- The confidence of the warrior,

- The grace of the athlete,

- The communicability of the actor,

- The charm of the romantic,

- The ruthlessness of the businessman,

- The language ability of the professor,

- The prowess of the mechanic,

- The perfection of the engineer,

The humility of a person above it all.

Technically an ordinary person but on top of it all.

When you look at life and the way people are conducting their lives, does what I say vibe and sound true to you?

Do we or not, all of us, without exception, do we not have in a hidden corner of the heart this feeling that our "GOODNESS" be recognised?

And with this as an end we use subtle methods. Like prayers in public, prayers beads, certain dresses, writing the name of the Lord everywhere even in our posts on FB, preaching on FB etc.

WE USE certain methods to show our piousness and virtuousness and hope that The Lord will be fooled and if not at least the people around us.

Lately there is a wave of assertion in the media from all sides that has been going around that we choose our life's plan before taking birth. It is true but only as part of the lore for highly realised sages in the occult plane and tantric tradition and not at all applicable to the normal working of the Cosmos for the common man but it seems to make the western mind feel to be in control. So be it. It gives such false sense of being superior and knowing what we are up to.

Steve Haag

I had what to my mind appeared as a recall before this life, choosing to come back here. I apparently didn't have to.

PK:

- No. The Karma of consequences is so well integrated with every move being made in this Universe, we really don't need to bother our heads but our ego likes to think it knows and can do and also is convinced that it is the "doer". The play between the forces of blood suckers and the opposite camp of Beatitude do get into a quarrel and then we have to bear the consequences but even in this we then create more consequences that eventually as the end product always help us surmount some of our elemental weaknesses.

To those who would look for a better, more wholesome life I can let you in into some of the practices I used. I lived by 4 strict measures: 1) No adherence to strict time tables over which I had no choice. 2) Not be where uniforms are required 3) Not trapping myself into the sexual trap by getting married and devote therein my life to a woman and her brood. 4) A no is a no. Not to be afraid to say no and stick to it Till the age of 40 I kept myself strictly aloof from these strangleholds. Because once into this set-up there is rarely any easy escape. And whatever for? At 20 I was intensely wondering at what this life is at.

The basic principle of life was the Zen way: sleep when sleepy, eat when hungry, read and listen to music when so wished and listen to the body. No hurry, no fuss and pay attention to the thoughts and emotions taking birth in you. Learn and educate yourself on all questions that can beset one. Be master of the situation. Prepare to be master in any situation and subject. Make the world come to you. No compromises. I managed to survive in this dog-eat-dog world by mastering about twenty trades and becoming seriously educated in applied physics and applied psychology and become a teacher and also a consultant to industry in marketing and negotiations at the international level specially in consumer products. The trick was in first mastering my language command in English, French and my mother tongue Hindi. This made communications effective and learning speedy. Command of the language is 90% of the story. It wasn't that difficult. Just needed the mind-set. I simply refused to accept that I would allow anyone to consider me second to anyone and see me as a serving diminutive. I used my pride constructively and my self-respect to dive within into myself and observe my weak points that would hinder my growth and do something about them so I would not be caught out.

The head-gear. The Head-Gear humans sport to indicate their status is another subject of interest connected with their instinctive arrogance. The humans who can always show of their position by trying to look bigger, more imposing and "Taller". Just look at the head-dresses of the captains of religious bodies, queens and even the bourgeoisie. Earlier even the trades had a specific caps to indicate what work they did. And to this you must pay attention to the paraphernalia around the neck. The medals and glitter that they wear around their necks. This is mainly to show-off their wealth and the amount of money they can lay their hands on. Now the question we should be asking ourselves is why this basic need? It seems pride and arrogance (a lot of arrogance and nothing to be arrogant about) is built into the physical-mind nature given to humans with the basic mind that comes with the human form. This is what we need to understand and grow out of and evolve into learning about the character of the mind and use it, control it like super humans that we can become. As luck would have it we have also been given a heavy dose of INERTIA which translates into laziness and shows in our natures as procrastination, refusals to take-on challenges, avoid studying/education, excuses, silly explanations and when confronted we counter with arguments and quarrels. There seems to be some crude intelligence which dictates us the fact we can shout-down, hurt and kill others for our benefit and to get our way. It never seems to occur to anyone that two can play at the game. In short what is needed to become conscious here is about how stupid we really are.

Allow me to give you a very important quote here: "To go within one must first understand the principal thing: which is to be terribly honest to oneself, so that there is no deception whatsoever. We deceive ourselves so easily! We would not look. We would rather talk about something transcendental: God, theories, Atman, anything." - J Krishnamurti

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Once again I'm amused by the number of people who are outraged over something they think "businesses or churches" should do to improve the community, but none of these outraged people are willing to volunteer to help make things come to pass.

- Just read this sentence in a comment on FB: "Incredible: we are godlike in our creativity".

> PK: Holy smoke; how grandly, pompously we blow the horn of our > arrogant thoughts about our stature.

The mind needs to be individualized at least to the extent where it knows what is good for its person and what is really needs and what takes it to perdition (waste of time, waste of resources, wastage of energy that brings in ill health and such + wishful thinking).

This would be a great step to begin with but what we see is a mind under the influence of every Tom, Google and Harry that is able to convince that life will be easier by following what they are saying. The logic that has been behind this attitude is that third party comments are usually reliable; after all when somebody praises his own self or his product, it is bound to be suspect. We are conditioned since ages to listen to far away noises. How can you help or do anything for anybody who is going against his own interest and avoiding the discipline required to first separate the good from the bad using one's intelligence and then using one's will to deter oneself from taking the wrong path which we usually do by excuses that we cook up. People will put all their energies in arguing but not learning/adopting new thoughts -- not even listening. Rather they end up by adding a lot of noise of their own.

Humanity has found the mind but does not as yet understand or know what to do with it. For now it is being used in a very basic way just above the animistic level and human reason has very little power over it as it is totally under the influence of the "Desire" center in us. The invisible world of spirit forces is able to play with us thru our minds and the humans are more acutely their tools now than ever.

This collusion has to be broken.

Humans will need to learn to master their minds, use their will and goodwill and act discerningly then alone some sort of heavenly establishment will flower on earth.

When attempt is made to direct the minds of others towards a newer way of thinking, the more intellectually active ones specially... instead of quietly listening...... automatically instantly reword, rephrase and re-reference the words to bring things back to their own plateau of knowledge and thereby miss the point and the opportunity to a new gateway. There is an element "Oh I already know"! And sad to say there is a lowering of the consciousness levels too automatically. ( for example: Take the saying of any of the greats like Buddha, Confucius, Nanak......when an average man-of the-street explains and reinterprets it will always be within the context of his experience graph, interests, education and personal inclinations)

This remark is not for the basically sheep class who are here on earth to provide us with wool.

Why would you want to get involved in the narrative of others? 99% of the times when we interfere we worsen the situation and bring hurt to ourselves.

Have you ever seen any good coming out of "Helping"?

The idea that we can help is a misconception of our mind. Even at home when I try to help I get shouted at. For some reason every time I try to improve things I only make it worse.

The expression "leave well enough alone" is a very wise one.

Learn to live with the minimum if life situation so demands but never settle for it. Keep working for the maximum and expect it as your due.

My personal realisation is that the activity of sex is the predominant energy now active on earth. The lure is the pleasure quotient in-built into it which is very potent.

But the price one has to pay for it shows in later life. It is a serious burdensome system of repayment that never stops.

Humans have a mind. Wish they would use it.

Some individuals for some reason, unhappy with life look for answers out of the ordinary way of life.

Mostly after a long life of going against the grain they do find many secret corners that are not obvious. They then speak about it.

But does their speaking about it help the people?

I don't think so. The subject is treated as experimental spirituality and the words used are reinterpreted to become meaningless. And that is that. A lot of discussions is all it develops into.

It was a golden rule with people who realised certain aspects of this life that they spoke about it only to people that they considered ready for it.

The saddest part is that people just go about repeating the adages and all it does is to agrandise their egos as being superior which rather stops all possibility of further spiritual growth in them.

In short it does the opposite of the intended gesture.

What a beautiful fortress. When I see the watch tower and the mini tower on top of it so that the watcher can look very far in the distance........I imagine myself in that watch tower, thinking of life. In the year 1500, what was I looking at? The fear of being attacked. The fear of nowhere to run. The fear of death and the fear that the family will never know. The great fear that battle will hurt me and that the "butchers" (doctors of those times) wouldn't know what to do with me and leave me a cripple. Today in the years 2000 we have at least come this far that we have little fear of being suddenly attacked. We are rather assured of a safe return home every day. If hurt we are easily found and the repair technology of our surgeons is fairly advanced and crippling effect of life is cared for and made easier. There is easy communication, and in warfare there is great advancement in equipment to protect its soldiers with backup. There is no doubt we have come far but we have also allowed our compassionate side to slide. And it is this fact that will now write our future.

Humanity ignores malevolence when judging itself: this is an error. In its manifested form on earth, the Divine spirit is neatly and deeply hidden under layers of ego-centricity, brainless mumble, the subconscious and the instinctive running of the planet by Mother Earth. Humanity is giving itself airs and misleading itself so it can continue with its idiotic stance. Its love for its own "Dukkha" (as the Zen people would say) is superimposing itself on everything. Given the choice of instant heaven vs their Dukkha, not one will opt for leaving life for heaven. Just look how we bring up our children: We don't want courageous progressive thinking individuals; we want submissive idiots who will dance to our tunes. And we keep on the onslaught even in later years by shaming them, criticizing their efforts and also using the method of reverse psychology to control their reactions to get them to care for us and run around us for our gain. The adults perpetuate their miseries, talk of god and greatness but make sure that pettiness prevails on Earth.

How the powers that be (religionists) want us busy, stuck and isolated. You are free to do the breast-stroke or the crawl as long as you stay in this swimming pool assigned to you.

This is all the water there is. The ocean is a myth. Anyone claiming otherwise is heresy.

Why do we equate "YOUTHfulness" with a body of our 20-30s and activities that we did at those ages?

This is more a matter of MIND. A mind that is growing and maturing always feels young and is ready for more. It is the enquiry quotient and need to learn new tricks that keeps the mind young. A mind that is beset with new questions cannot grow old.

The youngest mind is the one that lets the past go easily, acquires new talents and childishly looks for new problems to solve. A young mind is not bothered with pride, showing off, attracting attention but looking for new creative ventures.

"This has to be done this way" - is a death sentence to the child in us. In the name of tradition, custom and laws all spontaneity is bashed out of the spirit.

Right from day 1 the lives of children are regulated and instructions piled on them. All spontaneity is systematically killed. They are frightened, coerced and educated in a way that suits the parents and society in which they move. How can humans flower as individual thinkers in these conditions?

What is keeping us from instituting a more positive atmosphere in the bringing up of children? I come from the Sri Aurobindo Ashram where I was encouraged, praised and allowed to experiment, make, even waste as long I showed this tendency to "try". Our attitude should be to teach patience, analysis, research, contemplation and to take calculated risks. This is how humanity will progress but NO we do exactly the opposite and shoot ourselves in the foot. Humans are perverted. We start showing signs of distress and fear whenever somebody talks of change and progressive positive attributes.

When a Guru tells all (too early, too much), the quest is killed prematurely. The world is not advancing spiritually because there is too much sermonizing and spoon feeding. There is no spirit-hunger.

Most companies, employers manage on the philosophy that they are doing the runt-class of people a favor by giving them employment. These employees for them are expendables; of little value and easily replaced.

I now see clearly the persona of the mind so distinctly separately active in people that I just don't fit into the whole anymore. It is like another person attached to the name we know. The mind has taken a persona of its own. How did this happen? By language and audio-visual exposure. The is laden with so much information that it has become arrogant and touchy if errors are pointed out -- for one thing it hates to even consider the point that it can ever be in error.

If we pay attention to this mental being we shall be far more accurate in fathoming the person, his predictability and choices.

This kind of knowledge is so essential to happy togetherness.

I feel I have matured well but I still get irritated and angry when somebody is trying to pass on some BS.

I still have to learn to not be affected and lose my temper by the elemental dishonesty that is all around us.

Yet life in its basic character is a process of opening up to greater acuity in perception. Mother Nature neither gives rights nor is kind. And even so we cannot forget that malevolence is a thing and exists.

But behind our minds is hovering the ever sensitive ego - better term being amour-propre. When hurt comes from a "person" the resentment is personal and it hurts more because we expect "appreciation" from other humans. It is the expectation of a smooth and wishful life that makes us weak and depressed at the tiniest spill.

Is it a criticsing mind (In cahoots with the mouth) or a critical mind? At the criticising level all minds are at low consciousness levels. The evolved mind observes, notes and analyses but accepts it all as part of the game and keeps its conclusions to itself. At best it may write a ponderous book (to avoid arguments and direct confrontations).

Why do I like so much to shake things/thoughts/established patterns so much?

Because the time has come to renew the energies that have taken hold and established themselves in the earth's atmosphere and a change is sorely required otherwise the old energies are busy consuming their own selves and will soon consume the whole creation.

There will be vociferous objections as the status quo is quaked. Mother earth has called I must obey. Whatever we may pretend, things are not alright.

Technology: good or bad

Normally this kind of talk is reserved for the discerning class. The world today is in the hands of the mindless class and this class knows not what is good or bad; it knows only that it "wants" something and it will use all and any tool available to it to get what it wants. The intelligencia has not been very intelligent by making sophisticated tech simple and easily available for the inept; for whatever reasons. All I can see is that thieves and crooks are having the time of their lives with such aids now available to them.

- Most things can be said in one sentence. But we love paragraphs.

- Slow down and make your life last longer.

- The future is going to be ruled by cellphones (AI). How exciting things will be! Most of us will be baffled.

- Like Butter goes to Waist, Money-power goes to the Self-important selfishness. Only great old souls escape.

- You are assuming that anyone is even seeking to grow. How naïve can you get? They may speak about it and even dream but look into their subconscious, the bedrock of the foundation of our character -- you won't see any movement there except of inertia and laziness and smug-satisfaction. Until this aspect of the human character is fully understood there will not be any change -- not even an iota.

- All pain ensues from trying to make the moment last.

Life games.

Now supposing I am in it and refuse to play or play but not really get involved?

Could this be behind that sentence told me a long time ago by a young lady "With you I don't feel needed". I have been thinking about it for all these years. Was she giving out the natural subconscious image of a woman who expects to be adored above else and see her man make a fool of himself in abject drooling subjugation? No this I could never be and no wonder no-woman ever said "yes" to me. Though I had 6 serious affairs but they would not agree to marry.

The couples are not a team. Uptil a century ago the heart was playing a dominant role in the forming of couples. The women were trained from childhood to use their hearts and acquiesce to men. They didn't always like it but it kept the quarrels within the walls of home as society would not be a partner to it. Laws were such, those laws that were made by men to subjugate the women anyway but the women had the say in the home and psychologically without their presence a home could not run. All this said it can be noted that couples tried to live together as a team. There were two persons in the formation of a couple; one using the mind and the other the heart and eventually in time they would merge into a cohesive team. Today the scenario has changed. We are no more a couple of two. We are rather 6 persons trying and vying to make it together. We have the body, the heart and then the mind with its ego component. The bodies have no complaint. The hearts also have no complaints up to a point but habits can grate on nerves and make people desire separation. But the problems starts with the mind. Now that it is educated, legally freed from earlier constraints, it is no more afraid of the big bad wolf or the world at large. It has its own particular view of life, the world and things and the mind is dominated by the ego which is in love with itself first. It has very specific wants and will become terribly unhappy when not being accorded its pound of flesh. This unhappiness now reigns. Availability of money to both the men and women in equal measure has not helped at all. It is like fuel and match lying together. When the demands are not being met, it soon becomes war. To the mind life is war, love is war, getting job is war, keeping the job is war and leaving the job too is war. Compromise, compassionate grounds are not in the reckoning. A relationship goes according to each person's mind or not at all and it will fight for it. It soon involves the body into the fight. The heart follows suit by habit. Conundrum reigns and like the referee in a boxing match the opponents have to be physically and forcefully separated. The days of loving couples is gone. No quarter taken or given. Like in a war, the only way a team can survive is when one of the partner permits himself or herself to be subdued and this often happens when economic considerations are predominant and there is no help from society. The love of children often keeps people together but mostly this last generation is a generation of kids from divorces having to live with 4 parents if not more and getting thoroughly disturbed in the process. The psychiatrists are having a terrific time. Trauma has become the operative word. Anti-depressants the common denominator. It is listen to me or else!

Essay on people.

What makes us act reach for the better? Our "questions". Most people don't have any.

Can people be? : Always vague & evasive. Always argumentative & non-committing. In the name of helping always intrusive. Very self-praising and critical of others. Almost in continuous verbalising mode. Love noise and great show-offs with nothing to show really. Frog in the well and happy to be there. Basically dishonest. Primarily due to lack of exposure to the wider world outside their village. All the signs of a lowered level of consciousness which the digital age has helped enhance.

We can describe is the basic character of humanity as..... I have often talked of this subject by giving the example of a some-one coming from the low economic income group where even owning a bicycle is considered a privilege; when this person buys a cycle, which for him is comparable to buying a RR by the king. And he compares himself and behaves uppity wherever he may be - totally forgetting his place or understanding the situation. In his mind he is upper class and that is that and his arrogance becomes a standing feature. I think the basic human character is this primarily due to lack of exposure to the wider world outside their village (whatever their small area of operation is).

Question: When we put out words, obviously it must have been with some thoughts backing them using the usual logic of some commonness of meanings accepted universally and when we respond then we are told that what we understand has nothing to with it all and that our understanding is all in our head.....so the words that were sent out were they sent meaninglessly by the sender?

Humans think arrogantly, prejudicially, superficially, egoistically and always in error

Once we enter the intuitive mind the answers come automatically and you learn because the Universe supplies the answers/explanations in a continuous stream. Every time we hear or see or interact or do anything, the intuitive mind opens a window and all the possible answers can be seen thru it to any question that may rise in our enquiring mind.

But the basic is an Enquiring mind or the journey never gets started.

In ZEN schools it is said that to teach humility toilet cleaning is part of the assignments. Maybe. I think most students would take it as a "JOB" and as it is considered to be an activity that is namely assigned to the most capable students, it may actually go to their heads as honorable.

I think real humility comes when you are down in life and social status and you have to bear the tongue-lashings of your superiors. In real life derision from your wife can impact your ego more than any other tragic event in this word.

Conclusion: Taking a lowly job and marriage are tougher/better schools.

The problems are always centered in the Pettiness and Narrowness of the mind's lack of growth.

Aim for the Intuitive Mind arena where you see the Creation in its panoramic spread and everything is connected and in place like white to black thru gray.

But humans are never "quiet" enough to know of its existence. In the present moment in evolution the Intuitive Mind is a Gift where we see geniuses popping among us. Theses geniuses are people like you and me and have learnt to control the rampaging physical mind and use it as a tool.

Most of the humanity is usually the tool of their mind which is under the control of the Emotional Being and sees life as meaning full only when desires are being satisfied.

I have just returned from a week's holiday attending a family gathering and got the chance of meeting many old friends too.

I cannot describe my sadness to see the shallow limited lives that these multimillionaires all of them lead.

Not one is open to a new thought pattern. All trying to impress by showing off what they have and exposing their thought patterns in such a way their personas shine thru and the light bulb shining behind them is like a mild 0.5 watt bulb but the halo they create around them is huge in their minds and understandably all others around them praising them.

Our prejudices about ourselves block us into flowering fully.

Dreams on being stuck and often.

These dreams are trying to remind you of the spiritual agenda you have forcefully pressured yourself to NOT let go forward. You are not stuck but do not wish to move forward from the comfort spot you have made for yourself. You are self-excusing in many ways and holding on. Please allow your deeper self to come forward. Don't fall into this trap: Most consider themselves living at a level that can only be termed "Best in its class" and secretly wonder why people can't be a bit more like them. And this blocks them spiritually. The dreams try to warn but this is easily waved away.

Imagine being churned like a "something" in a bowl and being proud of it.

This is what most human personalities are.

The average Joe is following and knowledgeable about all the subjects TRENDING. He is IN.

His opinions comes from the single approach of SEEMING good but this is what makes him feel good, great and spiritually virtuous. No thinking for oneself. No external influence thru words can make any difference in his thinking.

They consider themselves living at a level that can only be termed "Best in its class" and secretly wonder why people can't be a bit more like them. In their kindness they are very free with advice and constructive criticism.

This person is an extension of the TV/Media culture of today diligently crafted by the masters.

People who are energetic and will try their friendliest most to bring you down to their level of the general populace and destroy the individualism you have built up.

What can you do? Nothing except run away and shun them.

Incidentally, this morning I chose to meditate on the broken relationships within family friends with me. I analysed one by one the very close friendships I have had and which suddenly disappeared from my radar. In all of them I realised the moral compass was that got the relationship into trouble. The focus mainly being how relationships should be between the sexes was on top of the list. The IQ of course being important because the ability to adjust to newer ways of looking at things comes only with a broader mind. I saw how humanity has bound itself up in knots from this issue which is at the center of all things.

From the philosophical angle, on the question of destiny, it seems the relatively best course of action occultly is to just sit in the boat. Forget the oars. Yet Sri Aurobindo says that our effort is written in our destiny. For effort we need wisdom. To garner wisdom we need to row the boat.

What a bothersome, troublesome infuriating enigma.

Forget others. Forget the world. Forget karma. Where are you taking yourself to?

[We are what we repeatedly wish.](https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=10163600827342925&set=a.10150815907582925&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZU2lAIhu6GfKOJykXxOeQUXos9ezieFGGCAKK1j-Vg6sWGJtwZSaF55N4MRyIHXdWzN9wJinknGicDuZZYqesC7MVlQzisUcCLpfnfE1KTrdKk4ioxXEBWxTNsdBHveV9uvf0aNxeMUOoMcm83ctkZdfJzKsCh0ZzUz9E3TGs6lmg&__tn__=EH-R)

Yes the point is that it is the Intention and NOT the actual act that creates the karmic pattern

Reduce your Greed-vulnerability temptability to avoid being cyber-scammed. Run a tight ship

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My father's main conversation starter cum killer was: It would be better if....

I wonder why people, the moment I open my mouth and say two words, want to immediately change the subject to an alternative.....

I am convinced though that they do not wish to encumber their minds with new anything.

[Steve Haag](https://www.facebook.com/groups/479654735428950/user/683236311/?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZU03h6ZoMuKLUPw3mTkOwowPLNhmRvhSHkyxu9AnOfyOLBlveBRzbgv0PA3BDkr4aqvuzcbjwGjn6w_GiP4NjO96pZPTvqMN8oE_wwTwn9EKCGPksUBROPx0QNEbk4qnk2AuvAafFG7XG3sQkSXPRxL7I2tlaWS-YEg4qfpMpBAIQ&__tn__=R%5d-R)

People protect their own story lines and filtering.

[Pradeep Pk Maheshwari](https://www.facebook.com/groups/479654735428950/user/838157924/?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZU03h6ZoMuKLUPw3mTkOwowPLNhmRvhSHkyxu9AnOfyOLBlveBRzbgv0PA3BDkr4aqvuzcbjwGjn6w_GiP4NjO96pZPTvqMN8oE_wwTwn9EKCGPksUBROPx0QNEbk4qnk2AuvAafFG7XG3sQkSXPRxL7I2tlaWS-YEg4qfpMpBAIQ&__tn__=R%5d-R)

This is it and they are so much into a defense mode that they start before even they are attacked. The subconscious is active long before any exchange has begun.

I am reaching a point where I see our lives will be so digitalised that when I reach somebody's place the opening of the door will be remotely controlled and the sofa will come and offer itself "please be seated" and take me where I am wanted to sit and wait for the person to come over. Of course the table will offer me drinks while a small screen keeps me entertained with song and dance.

Do you realise that your personal consciousness level may be high like you genuinely want the best for everybody and are instinctively kind and careful BUT that your mind may be existing at a lower physical-material level of existence, full of lowly, petty, greedy, inertia-filled small-minded thoughts collected through the world around you?

Your persona maybe good but your conditioning may be bad.

Think and mediate and do some deep analysis on yourself.

Music as a healing element.

When the nerves are taut the body cannot be in a good state. Let music help to remove the distraught vibes. And I mean music; not this shrieking high decibel gymnastics of the senseless exciting of the nerves.

Knowledge and wisdom are always general. We need to broad base our thinking which is contrary to self-centered particularism.

We are grumblers. Not doers. And then there is always KISMET to back up our laziness.

Humanity gives glorious sounding reasons for its scandalous behavior. For instance wars. I am not sure if these should be called "wars". Can Ashoka's destruction of Kalinga be called a war? What did he achieve? The whites went into tribal territories with their gunpowder and MASSACRED the defenseless locals. Great victories they wrote in their history books.

All these wars were massacres. Monuments to huge Egos and the work of demonic forces working thru humans

I read somewhere a judge saying that procreating is a human right and therefore so is copulating. Think: (The implications of these words if interpreted legally)

What BLOODY NONSENSE.

Mother Nature gives possibilities but NO RIGHTS.

And if this thinking is not stopped, we shall tear THE MOTHER EARTH asunder for sure.

There is very little that humans are doing right anyway. It is the magic of the physical world as organised by Mother Nature that we survive even with all the abuse we unleash and the lies we live with.

The quality of your life depends on how you plan to die.

Look the other way for a change.

The whole world is drifting in its illusion. The same bleeding year will slyly shift into the next. Happy mass hypnosis that a happier newer year has come.

Telling anyone that they live in self-deceit and/or ignorance needs great courage and readiness to be thrown out the door to the wolves.

My new word for:

The Soul's attitude towards the Creation in repentant adoration with appreciation for all things and beings and the way they move about in this Creation

COMPASSIASMA (compassion as a miasm)

The word love is a total misnomer. It has become meaningless in today's parlance. Its time to represent the Soul's attitude towards the Creation - is long past. We need a new word to convey this state of spiritual attainment. The word love from the earth level has become a single common vehicle to encompass the words appreciation, like, passion and physical intimacy.

There is another level where the Universal Divine vibes of non-calculated giving, generosity and compassion becomes the intrinsic basic nature of a being (The nearest example I can give is of the Dalai Lama). This character is not being given importance and no attempt is being made to encapsulate it into our character, education and parenting; therefore the human mind is in a way being kept out of the loop (so to say). But there are beings hidden amongst us who have this as their Basic nature and everything they do and say stems from this automatically. It can be very incomprehensible to most street-wise, skin deep superficial humans.

How do we play out our lives!

Let me etch out a picture. Here is a home. A big comfortable home made with great care and customized to the last nail to bring amalgamation between your physical needs and the needs of the spirit. This is the cocoon where you are COMFORTABLE and AT EASE. This is your castle and hide-out. The rest of your life is dealt with as you behave and approach the delivery-boy. You expect him, you wait for him. You need the product he brings BUT you do not want to have any relationship with him: not even a casual one. Once the product is in your hands you actually wish him gone. This is exactly how people, goods and spiritually speaking how good thoughts new Thought patterns are received. Meet them and let them be. More or less a nuisance if at all. Our lives are not big enough to accommodate any of them. Our show of camaraderie is only as long as the words are flowing about. After that it is back to square one into our castle homes.

PS: It is though a wonder that with all this being our aim, we fall prey to Nature's bait and start a family that by the age of 50 for most becomes a grind-mill-stone around one's neck. But I hope it will be realised that when we make a home we do get restricted to accomodate others somewhat which may actually be good for our growth

The Information Tangle. People are complaining that Fb, Google, all internet giants are into information gathering and selling and on that basis selling products or/and services ARE Manipulating. But that is the nature of mankind. No-one without exception can survive without hiding some facts and some secret elements of his life and the only way to maintain a sane relationship is by manipulating the data that we allow to go out from us. What is so surprising in this? Remember your courting? How many lies did you utter all along? Today if married do you speak the truth with clinical precision and neatness? Come on let us not fool ourselves. This whole life is a charade. By the way how much info do you really need to live properly within the bubble of your existence? How does it matter to you about the cat of the prime minister and the conjectured thoughts of the Chinese Premier? Does the President consult you or anyone in your circle? Will you ever know what decisions were taken in the Pentagon? NO! Relax and enjoy your life. We don't need all that info and staying away from these digital bots would be the wise step. Listen to music and go to sleep. How much attention are you paying to your health and all the stuff you are ingesting? This is what should be worrying you. The SANE thing to do is stay away from gossip-news and info that they feed you to condition your mind. Do your own research and consult people you trust and who have proven to be reliable and knowledgeable

If everything has come to a stop, it is because you have stopped learning. Your mind is stuck in its narrow comfort zone. Do something outlandish to take your mind out of its stupor. Break the laxity that has entered your life-style. Travel to places that could be uncomfortable. Let your doubts and fears and all those thoughts that you have been sweeping under the carpet surface again.

Some ideas: go on a safari or rafting or visit a village in Nepal or go and have some wine in Greece and taste the new cheese that has come in the market. Let yourself be seen as foolish.

Humanity is hiding itself behind a deliberate and deftly woven smoke-screen of patented assumptions and downright lies to paint-over a sordid picture of selfishness and cruelty and it considers anyone who points this out as "bitter" to avoid looking at itself.

Once "Certified" meant that you are one for the Asylum.

Today now we have certified teachers, yoga instructors, Nutritionists and what not.

The commercial world has taken the mind in its embrace/control too. The commercial world first is giving out the CERTIFICATES in which it brainwashes the candidate with what it wants them to know and then advises them to go forth and multiply and produce good customers.

As usual the humans don't see how they have been led by the nose. But at the same it aspires to Divinity when it can't even be considered street-smart.

Understanding the "love" between couples. Valentine day is on us. The men see the allure in her eyes, the soft embraces and the willingness to melt in their arms. They notice she has eyes only for them and they are pleased out of this world. Nothing else matters and they are in love. They are sensitive to her every need and treat her delicately like a china doll. Only the best is good for them and so on and so forth. The women see that they have never been treated to so much attention and are pleased to high heaven. This is being in love. Wow. So, you have seen the love in her eyes and promises are made for life. It is certain that you and she are made for each other and this will last as long as time will be. So be it. But then comes "tomorrow". The question I pose to all of you. Have you seen in each other's minds? What do you know of each other's aspirations, dreams, wishes and goals?

What selfishness lurks in the hidden corners of their hearts? Is the man looking for a love or just looking at a beautiful female form? Or even just a trophy wife? Is the woman looking for admiration or security, a home in later years? Look into yourselves sir now and try to fathom what is hiding in the other's subconscious. On this will depend the equation of your later years, achievements, prestige, honors and depressing episodes, disappointments and heartbreaks! There is more danger in what irritates her than standing in front of a coming train. There is more anger in an act of not understanding or listening than a sinking ship. If your goal is just an object of your desire, then you are on the wrong ship. This kind of vibes bring nothing but misery in the form of rejection as in the physical domain nothing lasts very long. The entire process of longing is born in the hormones that are working under the guidance of Mother Nature. The mind simply follows and helps by thinking about how to conclude the affair to its satisfaction. It is true that the mind as an instrument is quickly bored and seeks change and soon starts looking for superficial change and seeks different looking partners with newer habits. This is unending as a process and those who do not learn to contain their minds suffer throughout their lives from a dissatisfied life and get lost in the adventure of trying to find excitement that they never will find by focusing only on the body's momentary pleasurable sensations. All men and women are basically the same. This realization comes sooner or later. The difference if any is in the mental set-up and emotional maturity (EQ). The trick to get something out of relationships lies in knowing one's limits such as what we really want, what are our "real" aspirations and focus on these factors. Being grateful for what the Cosmos has already provided is a good place to start. Building up from here is easy and has a more permanent possibility. Never take anything for granted. Understand your mind and its tricks. Acknowledge your temporary itches and do not allow them to over-power you. Contentment is possible with patience, thankfulness and by looking at oneself and life squarely in the eye. If you are loved, accept it. If you are rejected, accept it. Know when your mind is blowing up excuses to justify its constant need for exciting new changes which do not exist. (example: Changing into a new colored shirt does not change the fact that you need to wear a shirt, that the shirt does the same job and feels the same and that your looks have remained unchanged -- of course there are cosmetic changes but they impress only for a few seconds). The worst part is that the subconscious rules your preferences. The Ego operates from here and creates most of the hurdles in allowing an understanding to evolve. If one looks at oneself critically, one will see that the changes and choices are always nearly 90% of the time very similar. We as humans have certain tendencies that play a prominent role in our decisions. We must learn to identify these tendencies and rise above them and not allow them to run our lives by influencing all our decisions.

Let your true love show for this life as a whole and be sure to keep your promises because when you break them even the gods get angry.

True love is there but eventually once the mind's desire for excitement is saturated, some selfishness surfaces. The mind and its presuppositions along with vanity can keep people apart - and this is one day regretted late in life.

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Many people have a false self-image of themselves and believe that they are unattractive or undesirable. This skewed self-image can affect every part of their life from their self-esteem and self-confidence to their job and relationships. If you have a poor self-image, it affects how you feel about yourself across the board; you can even feel less important than those around you.

There are many factors which can cause someone to think that they are unattractive, but all of those factors essentially come from one issue --- comparing yourself to others.(passage from a book)

Reply by PK

Sharon because I have noticed how interested you are in what I have to say, I would like to tell you this: This thinking trend that people have low esteem is the average mind's false superficial way of interpreting and looking at life. In reality these people are fooling the world. Their mind is affected by certain feedbacks but at the source they have a good idea of themselves and see themselves as great and expect to be admired. This self-effacing attitude is a strategy to garner sympathy & exclusive attention and get away with a lot in this world. These people should be told that "they can", given the opportunities and then left alone. After that it should be between them and their soul and their maker. When we try to help them overmuch we are disrupting their destined goal and promoting their self-centeredness. Occultly/spiritually we are supporting their self-destruction by making them weaker in spirit.

The need for the moment is to help humanity realise that they are not using their mind at all. That they are being used by the energies from the mind domain; not always with good intentions. All their (humanity's) actions are reflexive; the subconscious rules and this is the domain of habits - emotional and mental. The joy and freedom, release from drudgery will come when they base their actions on "thought-out" decisions. The goal of life is to eventually move into the Intuitive mind which is the domain of knowledge and spontaneous knowing in alignment with the truth of the Cosmos. (This is the point where morals and religions drop off as cloaks and become redundant).

False can take only those in its grip who are not knowledgeable. Ignorance is its pot. So recognising false knowledge is in itself a stupendous goal and not given to humans generally who are perfectly content with their nutty-minds. There is identity needed to latch on to; how can it be done? With what element of anything can the False be recognized except perhaps enlightenment and for this the beginning is in getting into the Intuitive Mind state?

Sold to the highest bidder.

Humans and other life-forms have been here on earth for millions of years. Yet today suddenly the humans think that without their intervention the human body and the entire natural system of life will collapse. The thought is so comforting that we are in "control" that we can stop infections and illnesses and continue without fear with our stupidities. After all we vaccinated. We use anti-bacterial soap. We live in wonderful protected buildings/homes. What can go wrong? The general populace is so snug about it while the industrials pollute and chemically poison the environment but this worries no one because what is important is their little comforts and magical gadgets (small and big...example: Alexa and SUVs). Whatever lies or misinformation the populace is given, we lap it up. It is a mutual effort in fooling ourselves into blissful feeling of safety and being above it all. I am so depressed about this thought wave that has gripped the world. Even the most intelligent and well informed ones among us are going with the official versions of things without questioning any of it. I can understand play with gadgets but allowing them to INJECT into us whatever they want in the name of whatever reason is the height of stupid warfare against ourselves. Why does it not ever occur to anyone that we may subconsciously colluding with the enemy by fooling ourselves into a false sense of protective custody? We have totally outsourced our thinking. We have given up our sovereignty. Just think till year 1900 our water was clean. The air was free of exhaust fumes. There were no taxes. People were living to ripe old age even without the magic of modern medicine. And then what happened? Why did we give away our rights to naturally clean water and air? And why do we not take into calculation that this dirty water, and dirty air and processed dirty food Is what is making us sick; we are actively helping the enemy by reducing our ability to defend ourselves from Nature by staying away in our artificially conditioned homes. The germ theory of sickness has well gripped us as if there were no germs before. Germs make great scapegoats that we need to live in blissful communion. Our natural immunity has expired due to over stimulation. Small things that would have ended as a cold now turn to pneumonia. Cancers are erupting. Heart attacks in children are being reported. And we are highly proud of it all. Of what? The fact that we have sent a Rover to Mars. That we can dive 2000 ft into the sea. We can do London to New York in 3 hours. Yet we are floored by a cold! Humans need to ask: what will be the value of their coffins?

That's all they'll get to call their own.

We are burying the intelligence of Mother Nature and superimposing our very desire-focus on life which is the certain route to pain and misery. We need to adapt technology to get the max out of nature AND more specially try to rise above our sex-based pleasure seeking laziness bound psychological state.

This inordinate amount of stuff that was buried with the last remains of people....What is this obsession with Life after Death. More attention is paid to it than to real living. Why? The burial is done by the living who should understand things that the dead cannot be revived. We have millions of years of past experience to prove it

[Debra Gambrell](https://www.facebook.com/debra.gambrell?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE2MzcwMjU3MjM2NzkyNV8xODUyNzQ1MTExODY1MzU3&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWSrQ1obycvZaMDHPmHuL0euKm68_8lCAnIOw7_uUmfU80ZUWRIJk1CHKor4sNmt81My0iBa3dCM7lF-uaniUERazusq8rghBith7X1tJhNCcnT8N2XWyKrfZ7rskejNMw&__tn__=R%5d-R)

Yes, and also, maybe the point is not to revive the dead but to let an object "die" with the person who had the living relationship with it.

[Pradeep Pk Maheshwari](https://www.facebook.com/PK.pradeepmahesh?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE2MzcwMjU3MjM2NzkyNV85NDQyNTgzNDcyNTg5NTI%3D&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWSrQ1obycvZaMDHPmHuL0euKm68_8lCAnIOw7_uUmfU80ZUWRIJk1CHKor4sNmt81My0iBa3dCM7lF-uaniUERazusq8rghBith7X1tJhNCcnT8N2XWyKrfZ7rskejNMw&__tn__=R%5d-R) to [Debra Gambrell](https://www.facebook.com/debra.gambrell?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWSrQ1obycvZaMDHPmHuL0euKm68_8lCAnIOw7_uUmfU80ZUWRIJk1CHKor4sNmt81My0iBa3dCM7lF-uaniUERazusq8rghBith7X1tJhNCcnT8N2XWyKrfZ7rskejNMw&__tn__=R%5d-R)

True but you are missing my point that this is all the "thinking" of the living. Why are they thinking this way? What is the fear? For example: afraid that the ghost will come back to trouble them? There is a body of occult knowledge that went into this thinking but as usual as happens in the interpretation of the spirit world by the people in the material world things have gone terribly awkwardly in the wrong direction. Resulting in so much wealth of the earth being trashed and wasted.

From the millions /billions of people on this earth, some thousands excel, wish to go further and make something of their lives. They keep the Mother Earth's engines humming. Thank the lord for these exceptions.

Otherwise the reality is very banal.

The generally called good people are the masses with no good or bad - just plain Mother Nature's mass produced humanoid creatures. Just neutral idiots interested in their food, roof, pleasurable pursuits, laziness and sex. If it does not disturb their existence they let everything happen around them as if they are inert as if no serious consciousness is active in and around them. The Evil element in this Universe uses these people to foment its own agenda. A game is being played of the Lila, Karma & the Sub conscious and there is not much we can do about it.

The Middle East

It is not only the center of occult vibes + it has been the route for east and west to mix and pass thru. It was a very happy place full of cheerful nihilism. Then the mohameddans gave birth to Allah and the wars began.

Cyprus and the lands around it are the places where the initial thoughts from the occult world started manifesting into the human psyche. There is a very deeply dug-in layer old vibes. The clash is with these old vibes and new layers that have been adding for at least 15-16 thousand years. (Many of the notions from those times can be seen in India even today: example the cult of snakes- Nag Devta, the Nandi Bull, the entire concept of Shiva).

This area's subconscious and inconscient patterns are not easy to see or understand. They would attract and disperse occult vibes and affect just about everybody there. It sort of gives a unique effect of every single person operating and spreading out some clashing vibe but also common ones. It has made it an area of great complexity. Humans there today behave in very eccentric and unexplainable ways both as they borrow from the past and manage the future. Intrigue is palpable in the atmosphere.

As for the present times, they need to detach themselves from the past to move ahead and the adamant subconscious is not helping at all.

Information is swirling around us but we live so unaware that we notice nothing.

{There is nothing to be learned from the second kick of a mule.-- Mark Twain.}

Humans never open out and give of themselves in any way (our hearts and minds are kept well hidden in a smoke screen). This word love is an utter lie. We open our corporal arms; that is all - and that too momentarily, mostly in need or when vulnerable....to the above sentence I received the answer: "That is often the case".

My ears perked up. See how pleasantly the human answering has evaded the point by stressing on "this is often the case" - in a way he has accepted but making this acceptance the exception. The truth is: This is the regular fact and fully loving humans are the exception.

This is how humans fool themselves; hanging by a thread in an illusionary age pretending to be a "super" race and deliberately missing all the signs to a better life/world. And creating a solid foundation for their "Dukkha"

Why do people avoid discussions on preventive medicine and general good health practices? Because they know they are not living well and their conscience is not ready to accept it. It is a subconscious safety maneuver. Not in one's interest but who cares; "enjoyment is the priority, comfort Zones are cushy and the bread earning program demands it." Then ignorance and fear combine and people run to what they have known -- whatever it is. You think I'll dump the impressive world and persona I have created for just a fear of the unknown that is likely not happening?

- The issue is that you take everything personally and as an attack. We all do & mess it up.

- The desires are floating around in the atmosphere and they swoop down on those showing a weakness for them. The answer is in rising above the need of them by expanding your consciousness to find pleasures in higher vibrations like music, calm, poetry and such. Look deeply into yourself: when you have fondled flesh a hundred times doesn't the feeling come is this all? This effort of wooing a willing partner and then all the energy spent and then what culminates? Soon the need to start all over again to repeat for the same result. Until you reach a point where it all seems a drudgery you will not be free of it.

- the impossible is just out there

- Bringing God into a conversation kills it. It takes the conversation out of the realm of humans and there is nothing left to say.

- Why is it taking so long for humanity to understand that you don't need explanations; you need to be LIVING it.

Start with one adage that strikes you as important, relevant and alive as if written specifically for you. It can be from any author or source.

And see how life flows from thereon.

It is a sad commentary on ourselves that everything we do remains an intellectual exercise with rarely any ripple showing into our habits, notions and duties. Nothing seems to budge us out of our automata and very narrow tube of what we call our lives.

- Santa and the concept of good and bad is the western mind's simple version of "Karma"; quite right too.

Most humans need words to grasp every variant of a thought. Their thinking is like laser beams; stuck in a straight line on the word.

Seriously speaking one needs to go beyond thought to understand anything.

But then we have to go to the basics and learn to use the thinking mind which is way different than living in the instinctive mind as we are doing now.

[Victoria Beales](https://www.facebook.com/victoria.beales.3?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE2MzU4NDc1OTA0MjkyNV8xODAzMzA0MDMzNDYyNjY0&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZUpi6pVFGvV8nwa2qYZtiPAvgDYDq0_BHqgK8jrEecgQChnZEeMYvMABwBSG2Zl8wR1W4e9hmsCHJRVb2KqOf-qJMw1TJbTqsrUQpi0Fzw5qXQ2cYr-VXcVwdiMtmWF6ErWxtAK8v1XzUIoTIv36FxpUquN_uAqbKIVZd9MJcP7zQ&__tn__=R%5d-R)

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[Pradeep Pk Maheshwari](https://www.facebook.com/PK.pradeepmahesh?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE2MzU4NDc1OTA0MjkyNV83NTA2ODk1ODMxNTMwMjE%3D&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZUpi6pVFGvV8nwa2qYZtiPAvgDYDq0_BHqgK8jrEecgQChnZEeMYvMABwBSG2Zl8wR1W4e9hmsCHJRVb2KqOf-qJMw1TJbTqsrUQpi0Fzw5qXQ2cYr-VXcVwdiMtmWF6ErWxtAK8v1XzUIoTIv36FxpUquN_uAqbKIVZd9MJcP7zQ&__tn__=R%5d-R): I aim to please this morass of collective blubber called humanity.

On a deeper and serious note let me share with you this note written by with quotes from Sri Aurobindo and The Mother included: By Bernhard Guenther

"Men are being constantly invaded by the hostiles, and there are great numbers of men who are partly or entirely under their influence. At the present moment, they are very active all over the earth.

The struggle between the psychic (soul) and the hostile forces goes on mostly behind the veil or, so far as it is on the surface, is not understood by the mind.

The apparent freedom and self-assertion of our personal being to which we are so profoundly attached conceal a most pitiable subjection to a thousand suggestions, impulsions, and forces.

Our ego, boasting of freedom, is at every moment the slave, toy, and puppet of countless beings, powers, forces, and influences in universal Nature. All life is the play of universal forces. The individual gives a personal form to these universal forces.

But he can choose whether he shall respond or not to the action of a particular force. Only most people do not really choose -- they indulge in the play of the forces. It is only when one can make oneself free of them that one can be the true person and have a true life -- but one can be free only by living in the Divine."

-- Sri Aurobindo

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The War is Through Us

There is a spiritual war that acts THROUGH us with occult [hidden] forces that influence us and humanity at large, and it is intensifying. We are transducers of hidden forces while the ego-personality that is only focused externally lives under the illusion of "freedom" and "independence."

We are subjected to the suggestions of occult hostile forces of the vital world, but we also receive insights, creative and inspirational impulses from Spirit, the Higher Self, and Divine forces, which also manifest as thoughts.

We all receive a mixture of these impressions/thoughts from the whole range of lower to the higher realm depending on many factors. Based on our level of Being [soul individuation], our intentions and aspirations in life can either be guided from the lower nature, or we can choose to align them with higher ideals.

The direction we bring our awareness towards determines which realm we tune into and the forces we align with. As long as we live on the surface of the socially conditioned [false] ego-personality [which is also the result of unconscious trauma, childhood wounds, past life karma, etc.], the majority of this will be unconscious and mechanical, living under the illusion of "free will" while we are guided and/or manipulated by hidden forces outside our five-sensory perception.

During this intensifying spiritual war, it's important to understand how the hostile/deceiving forces, some even demonic auric demi-gods, operate and use, abuse, and manipulate humanity from non-physical realms. I've written and spoken about this topic for over two decades in various articles, videos, and webinars.

This article is a very basic overview of the main aspects of how these hidden hostile forces (which have been given different names throughout the ages) operate. Humanity is not on top of the food chain

Malevolent entities feed off of specific emotions and frequencies, predominantly reactive emotional turmoil that is projected externally, such as violence, anger, hate, envy, jealousy, lust and sexual energy of the lower nature, fear, anxiety, shadow projections, pride, self-importance ("feeling better as...") as well as self-pity ("feeling less than..."), victim/blame consciousness, self-loathing, to name a few.

These occult [hidden] forces also tempt humans with greed, power, and sex working through them, implanting thoughts, suggestions, false spiritual & religious ideologies, and beliefs (such as the religious "savior program"), and desires that are not their own, but humans mistake them as their own.

These negative forces can also appear as "positive" beings in highly deceptive ways that are hardly distinguishable unless you can "see the unseen" and notice the ego temptations they target within you.

How do these forces influence humans? In other words, how do we open ourselves up to their influence, even unconsciously?

They need an entry point to come in.

What are the entry points? (We ALL have them to varying degrees unless you are fully enlightened):

1. Shadow, Trauma, Ego Temptations, Lower Nature

Unconscious blind spots, Trauma, childhood wounding, unintegrated shadow aspects, giving in to the temptations of the lower nature: lust, greed, power over others, mechanical reactive behavior, ego blind-spots, pride, arrogance, self-importance but also self-pity, victimizing yourself, blaming others -- all serve as entry points for other forces to come in through the cracks of your un-integrated being,

2. Pharmaceuticals and Illegal Drugs

Entry points can be created via pharmaceutical drugs, especially psychiatric drugs, anti-depressants, SSRIs, benzodines, etc., or illegal drugs, fentanyl, heroin, and amphetamines like Cocaine, speed, and meth, open doorways to demonic entities.

3. COVID mRNA vaccine

Vaccines, especially the recent COVID mRNA vaccines, contain Soratic hostile entities, as Thomas Mayer showed in his research and book; "COVID Vaccines Form a Spiritual Perspective: Consequences on the Soul, Spirit, and Life After Death." These vaccines also have the potential to dislodge the soul from the body, which opens up a doorway for other malevolent beings to come in.

4. Alcohol, Cannabis, and "medicine" plants

Entry points can also be created via alcohol and so-called "medicine" plants and psychedelics like cannabis, ayahuasca, psilocybin mushrooms, LSD, and others. It's not black and white; however, notice how psychedelics are being popularized, normalized, abused, and romanticized as if there are no adverse effects.

Strong pharmaceutical drugs, illegal drugs, and high doses of cannabis/medicine plants can rapture the aura/energy body and have the potential to dislodge the soul from the body (getting out of the body) so something else can quickly come in and attach.

5. MK Ultra and Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA)

On an occult level, satanic ritual abuse, the notorious MK Ultra program, child sexual ritual abuse, and all kinds of initiation rituals the powerful elite engages in behind closed doors are purposely done to open the doorway to powerful asuric hostile entities who take possession of the traumatized individual and to gain more occult powers via making an occult agreement of entrapment.

6. Psychopaths in power, murderers, rapists, and the death penalty

Most of the powerful psychopaths in power are nothing more than empty vessels of powerful evil asuric occult beings.

Killing their human hosts won't change anything, for the occult hostile entity that is riding them will survive and attach to or possess a new host. For example, people cheered when "evil" Kissinger died, but from an occult level, nothing changed whatsoever.

Many murders and other violent crimes (including pedophilia and rape) committed by psychotic individuals (be it individual killers, rapists, or psychotic politicians in positions of power giving orders to kill or engaging in sexual ritualistic abuse) can be attributed to these occult malevolent entities who possess or work through them to feed off the "loosh" of suffering, a very "delicious" frequency these beings feed off of.

The death penalty and capital punishment won't change any of that. It will only give satisfaction to the demonic being (and to the human ego living in the illusion that "justice is done"), which will then look for another suitable human vessel to use.

Hence, as Sri Aurobindo noted:

"...From this point of view, you will see that capital punishment is absurd. The man who murdered was, most probably, under the possession of the impulse of some [occult] being. When the man is executed, the being takes possession of another. Some vital beings want to have their play here...."

Humans are too embedded in a tunnel vision of the dogma of material reality, so they mistake symptoms for causes and don't recognize the spiritual reality with countless beings acting on and through them.

7. The Trauma Installment Program

From an occult level, humanity was purposely traumatized over the past three years to create more entry points for these entities to come in and take over humans. It's the "alien invasion through our bodies."

The psychological repercussions of the lockdown, stay-at-home orders, mask-wearing, and social distancing will be and are already way worse than the so-called "virus" itself.

It has already created and will create immense Trauma for generations to come. The vast majority of people don't recognize this because they are already "checked out", out of body, and disassociated, which is a trauma response.

It is psychological warfare and a massive global Trauma Installment program at works -- by design -- for people who are traumatized are always easier to control.

From an [esoteric] occult perspective, the inevitable Trauma of the past three years has created more entry points for the occult adverse forces to tag in from unseen realms, feeding off of all the suppressed emotional pain of [forced] submission [based on lies].

Most humans have already been disassociated (out of body) for decades and can easily be manipulated by these forces without their awareness.

8. Traps of Agreement

Entry points given access to hostile forces can be made via trap of agreements via engaging in left-hand path/black magic or sex magic practices. Many New Age and popular self-help teachings are black magic practices in disguise. They are based on self-deification (believing to be a god or goddess), worship of ego and egoist will, and wanting to become God, feeling entitled to any desire.

Many so-called manifestation rituals can create these agreements in exchange for a manifested desire or more power, knowingly or unknowingly. It is the classical "Faustian Pact with the Devil," selling one's soul for power and riches. These agreements can also have been made in a past life and carry over to the present life.

How can we protect ourselves from the hostile forces?

As long as you are grounded in your true Self and essence and are soul-embodied, they cannot touch you.

They cannot touch your true Self/Essence. They can ONLY tag into what is already there as part of our unconscious and false Self (or you fell into the trap of agreement); hence, utilize them as teachers!

The BEST protection is ongoing psycho-spiritual work (trauma work, shadow work, embodiment practices, spiritual work with sincere aspiration to the Divine, etc.) to bring forth the true Self and close off any entry points, not use any substances or drugs, and watch for your weaknesses and temptations of the lower nature (EVERYONE has them).

Most "entity removal modalities" are useless unless the entry point is closed/healed. Lots of questionable stuff out there, too.

Ultimately, it is about engaging in the Great Work to anchor the soul firmly in your being ("living in the Divine") and make it the master instead of your conditioned ego-personality running the show, which these forces can easily manipulate.

The Teaching Function of the Occult Adverse Forces

"The hostile forces have a certain self-chosen function: it is to test the condition of the individual, of the work, of the earth itself and their readiness for the spiritual descent and fulfillment."

-- Sri Aurobindo

From an esoteric perspective and in light of the evolution of consciousness, the occult hostile forces serve a teaching function.

So, be VERY careful of the victim/blame trap, i.e., blaming entities or these forces (or anything or anyone for that matter), for that gives them more power while you disempower yourself. There are still many misperceptions and misconceptions about this "topic of all topics" as it has become more popular over the years. Also, be careful of making assumptions. The vast majority of entity interferences are very subtle, nuanced, and oftentimes hardly distinguishable from your own childhood trauma, triggers, shadow projections, or many other unconscious psychological causes.

It is necessary to "know thyself" and your psyche and be strongly connected to Self to discern what is what, for there is the trap of making assumptions regarding entity attachments when the cause could be way simpler.

"Attacks from adverse forces are inevitable: you have to take them as tests on your way and go courageously through the ordeal. The struggle may be hard, but when you come out of it, you have gained something, you have advanced a step.

There is even a necessity for the existence of the hostile forces. They make your determination stronger, your aspiration clearer. It is true, however, that they exist because you gave them reason to exist.

So long as there is something in you that answers to them (which are your wounds, Trauma, shadow aspects, and lower nature), their intervention is perfectly legitimate. If nothing in you responded, if they had no hold upon any part of your nature, they would retire and leave you."

-- The Mother

Suffering is part of the earthen atmosphere. In the past, if not in the present and afeared in the future. Charlatans understand this well and profit from it without scruples.

Our external mind is always trying to rationalise and lays itself open to be fooled. In fact intuitively all feel there is a Creative Power at work and the earth, sun moon waters, mountains other creatures are alive due to it. This is the starting point.

The issues arise when the mind tries to work it out all within its mediocre knowledge base but also has a powerful base in the material manifestation (example: a King decides that "Jupiter" is the God running the world and makes the whole population follow it because he says so on pain of death).

I think all problems arise from the basic fact that we do not recognise that there are different perceptions of what is true and real at different levels of awareness and consciousness and each human is at a different level. So when we assume that all humans are at the same level of intelligence, cleverness, cunning and understanding things are definitely going out of balance. And the permutations and combinations change with different areas giving rise to different cultures. Most people assume that the world thinks like them and lives like them. The error is obvious. Worse is this thinking that our thinking is the most superior even if it is different.

The human mind is basically an ignoramus. It is an informed idiot. Just see how parents bring up their children. Most scold children assuming that children are mini adults. If this is the level of understanding humans show, what can you expect?

This Christmas Day. And Peace descends on the House. At the age of 7, I wanted to know all, do it all. AT 17 I could see myself understanding all. But still with all my knowledge I could rarely get all things done. There were blocks and unreliable people all around me. The parents and family were not much of a moral support and no way could they find time to explain or educate me about anything. At 27 I put my nose into all I thought I could do. Often the consequences were disastrous but I learnt. The lessons were always valuable. But I was not discouraged. I ventured further and as far as my thoughts would take me. I went all over the world. Soon I realized that I was not alone. A spirit walked alongside. I felt protected. It saved me from many disasters too. I was intelligent enough to have learnt from my readings how important it is to travel and that one travels fastest when alone. At 37 I found that life has hidden pleasures to provide but you have to sell your soul. Now I wondered wasn't there a way in which I could have my cake and eat it too. Did not seem likely. At 47 I began to feel tired and thought a companion would do me good. And this was my most valuable mistake. I found stability but my Ego could not stand it. I wanted to run but my Spirit companion had other ideas. Then one day it dawned on me perhaps I might as well let go and let the Spirit Companion do all the work. At 57 I knew I had to let go. The Spirit companion was laughing at me. It was galling but the truth was glaring. This was not what I had wished for. Then, what had I expected? At 67 I learnt to let go and slowly let things be run. I could not win over the Spirit Companion to my bidding. So nilly willy I let go and smiled at the world inviting it to do its worse. And it did. But every blow only taught me to avoid further mishap. At 77 the giving was complete. And PEACE descended upon me!

Assertions are just that. Assertions. Of value only to the person who is making them. Everyone's image and understanding of life is based on the expansiveness of the life and education one has lived. So there is nothing to question. But yes there is much to understand.

For example, I promote homeopathy and most people are comfortable only with the methods of Modern Western medicine. All I can say is "so be it" even though both focus on health or do they? IT requires a very broad education and deep understanding of Nature, the different values embodied by the systems etc to really make a proper assertion. The man on the street making assertions as I see many making it that Homeopathy is bunkum - is he speaking from knowledge and experience or from the stand that he is comfortable in his presumptions ( as born into it) like following a religion without knowing why.

This conversation is personal. If not then why are we having it? We could as well ignore each other.

And to assert that all assertions have to be considered at the same level of value is like saying that what the 4th grader is saying is of the same value as the Master - that there are no differences; what an arrogant stand!

Beyond the Me and Mine

It is the nature of the Mother earth. The mind at its best in the humans is still at the nascent stage. This is why you will see we are unable to go beyond the "me and mine" and "my choice" levels. As an aside I bring your attention to the obvious phenomena of considering who is a brother/sister. Think: Why only are we able to open out to blood related people as relatives/brother/sister? Why I cannot be the blood brother even though from another woman than your bio-mother? I may be close to the family, living with them but I will never get the gifts the others will get unless I marry the daughter then I become one of them? Why can't we be patient and wait and watch instead of jumping to conclusions and then get totally blocked by them and refuse to budge on our stance?

Why is "one particular" man a child of our god and his life is valuable but those of another faith automatically become kafirs? The physical mind (the part of the mind that operates in the physical domain) needs a circle drawn and only the things within that circle can it own. For the rest it is afraid of and its first reaction is to annihilate all else and think later if at all. This narrowness gives it a feeling of safety. From this sense comes the notion "MY & Mine" and worse - lack of need to learn more.

Essay on the MIND as ME. Some say the mind is not me. The mind may not be me but at the physical level the ego soul and mind are intertwined so closely that this message would go over the heads of the general populace. So for 99% of the people it is more mesmerizing than helpful. We need to first educate them and make them understand/realise the difference between the ego soul and the mind or the mental world of thought and how the Occult forces can use them directly and take control of the human persona. I have seen and learnt from trial and error that we need to first develop and evolve the mind into a disciplined awareness and from that starting line it normally realises on its own that the ego soul is using it and therefore it breaks away and looks for something greater. From there on it reaches the intuitive mind and it enters into direct touch with the divine forces. Initially it looks as if the mind is getting more arrogant and stupid. It looks like that for a while. But once the mind develops and evolves it starts learning the Real aspect of the Universe and draws nearer to the Creative Divine Forces

Most people drag you down. This business of being kind and polite and all needs to be restrained. People living at a higher order of consciousness or even trying to are a clear and present danger to the established lower forces now in this world. Most people come with very selfish agendas. It is not willful. Their vibes are such. That it is up to you to not let it happen They tire you out if given the opportunity. This philosophy that we need to listen to all, be open and receiving and all is the advice of the devil. Being kind does not mean that all nonsense that comes our way has to be tolerated. I personally advise to respond to the vibes you feel coming from the other person....if you are sensitive you would see thru immediately and avoid the moment.

Anxiety medicine is another "support" for our weaknesses. The demon industry is taking every advantage we give it to fleece us and makes us weaker and dependent. And we go into the trap with eyes open - the weaklings we are. What is the better way to fight anxiety? Learning and knowledge. Becoming aware of all that is surrounding us. Grapple it all with intelligence. Throw light on what is not understood and it will stop frightening you.

The universe runs on a creative law inbuilt into it. Humans are just a speck in it. God is doing nothing, not in the picture at all. The human mind would like that God or a being was sitting at a console and running everything. It is so ridiculously improbable. Events have a chain and go on and on and the story continues like the flowing river - no beginning, no end. There is no sin, no forgiving. Things are and there is "learning". Every event teaches us something. This is the way I see it. Religionist can make all the stories they want. Moralists can make lists of good and bad. For example how we make a mess of understanding life: When I kill somebody it is murder but when a policeman kills somebody it is in line of duty -- he is expected to! So beware how you see and classify every happenstance.

The digital world is trying to impinge on my sovereignty by pushing AI onto me thru various means. Lock me up in their stabilised structure of authoritative monarchy. FB, Microsoft, Google all want me to allow them to do my thinking. Good heavens no! Come on fellow intelligent humans: DONT fall for this. Align your minds with a higher consciousness than this. Connect with the intuitive mind if you need to but don't let AI do the thinking for you. Watch out. Why do the humans want to KICK OUT themselves is not clear to me?

The problem with tolerance is that you may end up promoting the wrong elements. It certainly is a virtue as it denotes a strength. But this question of what to accept, leave out, ignore and stop is a very broad-spectrum question and this CANNOT be judged by our human minds with its judgment levels based on moral protocols and preconceived standards which have nothing to do with how Mother Earth is running her domain. I who belong to the 1950s have a very intolerant view of tolerance. I have seen the standards of excellence plummet in the last 70 years. In the 1950 meeting people knowing three languages was common. Today meeting somebody who speaks his mother tongue well is a rarity. Behaviour and consideration for others has almost disappeared. Dishonesty and, cheating and stealing is not considered a moral problem but a social mis-fitting episode. People with real abilities to help growth are pushed aside to accommodate minions for nicety's sake. No. I don't think we should tolerate anything but the best.

What we need is a bigger and broader mind capable of a wider view and this only minds with intuitive abilities can see. The first step has to go beyond one's own prejudices. This by itself requires widening of the mind by knowing about how others live, their issues and all that compels them to be what they are. A broad based education and travel into different cultures is the first step.

The human mind is a very simple instrument in its basic character. It needs labeling otherwise it would grind to a halt. And as the labeling is for its convenience, the men complicated life by labeling more and more and everything; most often erroneously because they did not know and worse DID NOT want to know so any personal-profiting concept was good enough. One of their inventions The Gods and then religions based on them has been ruling the minds and administration of the human world since ages.

It works well for some and some complain but still love to fester in it because taking responsibility for their lives is even less of interest.

Do we want to know? Thousands of sages have come and gone. Not one is lived by the examples they set. People call themselves their disciples, form groups and become adherents to what they said. In the end this is what happens. The teachings become a religion. Sayings are learnt by rote. Nothing is practiced. The arrogance of being followers and disciples of the true Lord fills our minds and the needle gets stuck there; all it ends up doing is making the persons impervious to change, new thoughts, learning from experience, are all stopped. The persona tries to live in a routine whereby new experiences and learning are avoided and the person is so smug with what it is a disciple or follower that stops seeing further ahead.

The mind totally ignores new questions and possibilities and it is so sad to see these people so glowingly following a few men who become their coaches, teachers and gurus and nobody going anywhere spiritually.

The entire life becomes a theatrical episode, with no depth or substance that should have elevated the Spirit to new heights.

Pride reigns supreme along with total ignorance perpetuating itself.

[Brad Hercina](https://www.facebook.com/brad.hercina?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWBuBITrcRp4anBOXqK1PJvl7FuJona3D4QHK6U8YqjAp0bGXz3okGrdk7UyxLHoh6N7Svsz9i5UZVa2xXZhSfkR84VqcfMJDcLwDbPTCWNzeeK8txHcVlCqWuWwWAZOAzE1PvASE3Ds920SRgjbRFP&__tn__=-UC%2CP-R)

Change itself isn't that difficult, it's only our Resistance to it that makes it seem that way. Our Resistance generally comes from a self-inflicted "story" we have conjured up. Then when we believe this "story", we start to think we now have a "problem", because of this "change" we are resisting.. But the problem, like all problems, only exists as a story in the brain. Life is always unfolding in some sort of Divine Harmony, it's only by believing the thinking mind that we create a mirage of chaos and problems.

PK:

I would put it this way: We have already decided that we know the Truth and have understood this life and reality. We have gloriously gone about announcing this as our truth and making others see the light. Then suddenly we are asked to change perspective. But this would be a collapse of the entire persona we have created. Nothing but resistance can emerge out of it. Was it then our whole life a chimera? For a long while most people hang between the old thoughts and the new ones pressing on us and it is all so confusing, demeaning and problematic until some generous calamity opens the door wide open.

Study this new way of looking at people. They embed some info, thought patterns and habits which serve as algorithms which in later years run their lives.

Everything around them shapes their lives but subconsciously. There is no awakened curiosity running the show; no conscious effort - the case is worsened when they start looking down on others around them.

This would be why we have this old system of thought in India where we ask, advise and exhort people to mingle with wiser, sager and more capable people than ourselves like in sports we get better when playing against better opponents. (In reality I have seen people do the opposite as being with people of lower capacity than them is so comforting to their ego and makes life easier).

The Souls knows. The mind does not want to know. The immediate is so alluring. The game of words is sparkling and we easily get lost into it. Reality even if told does not seem real. There are so many impelling reasons not to pay attention or not be bothered.

Mistaken judgments of the moment are taken and regretted later. But can we trust the words that come to us?

Whenever I spend long hours with people, join in the conversation and such, I am left with one thought: How staid and old these people are! Specially the sadness that grips me with my younger clan members; thankfully we don't meet more often. Where has the dynamism gone? Spend half an hour with them and you can place their personas by plain and simple categories. Every time they open their mouths you can see their locality and restricted lives speaking out. Their language, attitudes, dressing, subjects of interest are all so fixed. You meet them after a few years and nothing, not an iota has ever changed. They are stuck and simply now here for the duration. You can place them in a neat slot like Prof Higgins would say. Am I the only young one around? Perhaps this unpredictability about my persona is what makes me "not one of us".

This fixation with The Useless is such a strong attraction to the human mind. Just stick to your mind and mind what you are thinking.

For everything today, even minor jobs, Diplomas and grand sounding qualifications are required. But the management is full of people who are in that position by virtue of being the financiers. Most of them prove to be bullies and idiots of the first degree. Why are these people not required to have some certification? The first place I would say Certification is required is in some basic training to rear and bring up a family; some basic knowledge of psychology, home-cures and todays' gadgetry and not leave it to the wind to take care of it all by instinctive growth rooted in ignorance and lack of interest in learning. Just look at the new trend to glorify one's bump. This is ridiculous. What did the woman do that is so special? What did the man achieve that makes it all so great? This is one way to promote one's senseless desires and give this nativity a sheen by making it sound like some great reaching of a difficult pinnacle in the history of this earth. Why can anyone just pair-up and have children just because they need the sex and someone to cook and wash. Has anyone considered how much TRAUMA we are generating and adding to the burden on Mother Earth with unrestricted indulgences? Shall we start worrying about the consequences of our actions, thoughts and purpose and go ahead only when it is incontrovertibly good for at least 100 years to come?

We are not going fast...we are not even going anywhere... just doing things the same things faster. So now with extra time we indulge in more activities and do it faster too. This keeps our monkey mind busy and self-importantly occupied. This allows us to explain away our stupidities as important and requiring our attention. It permits us to be careless about things that should really be mattering. It gives us the excuse to ignore and neglect our responsibilities. It is a beautiful sham to cover up our pettiness.

This sentence is the key that all is vanity:

Remove the frame of mind that I am indispensable and without me the house will suffer.

The graveyard is full of those who thought that they were indispensable.

We start life with many worries and many ponderables. All good questions to get you started in life.

But also too many notions and prejudices. So if you try to sort the prejudices out first before you worry about more things, you will give yourself the pause and relaxation that your monkey mind needs.

We need to go back to star-gazing. The silence and the dark are revival-of-spirit technologies. Our turbulence can subside only when external stimuli changes to "QUIET". Our cells need this quiet to regroup and stabilise after a day of terrible consequences.

Yes. We are unfortunately unnecessarily unkind. This ego thing can be very convoluted. It has to prove itself and this it does best when oppressing, hurting, castigating, abusing and all others games it plays. Appreciation even when there is obvious legitimate occasion for it comes with difficulty from the ego. Expecting kindness from this BEING is difficult to visualise.

The mistake we make is in thinking others be thinking of us. Why would anyone be interested in us? We need each other so we have some utilitarian interest in knowing each other and even form close friendships that often last a lifetime. But nobody needs us enough that they will not manage or survive without us. Don't ever think on the lines of being special because then we put ourselves in a special light and we may not be that special or at least nobody is seeing us that way and this kind of thinking leads to being miserable. Just be. Live your life as wish to. Life will bring people and events into your life; accept them.

A large group is possible only because of stupid people in abundance. The indiscriminate populating of this earth has done the humans no good. The meek are inheriting the earth now. Don't complain.

In English when we say there is no polite way it means there is no kind way to get to the mind of people who are determined to not listen or have strongly made up their minds.

Oh you may say whatever you want but it is not going to pierce their ivory skulls.

The outer ears you see are only for decorative purposes.

The only way to reach them is by shattering their illusions. And in this only Mother Nature and God can do anything if at all without breaking constitutional laws and getting into trouble. All is not as it SEEMS. The big question is how to make the populace aware? How do we make a child understand the adult world?

If we have to understand each other and try to live together as one family, one thing we need to do is to have a simple understanding of the subconscious influences on our mind in our mind's way of working.

The first thing to accept is that between the act of the sounds or words from another leave their origin and reach our ears and then penetrate the mind, there is a long enough intermission for contamination to take place. For example when I speak to someone, my word-sounds leave in a straight line. Then it gets shaken up a bit by other sounds around if there are any. Even if there are any the listener's mind is already active with thoughts like "Oh now he is going to clarify or justify and try and change my mind". Preconditioned thoughts surge from the hidden corners in the listener's mind and say "people don't change" "Don't trust him". When my words finally touch the listen's ear the sound is in the form of a spirally thing. Some judgments are also being passed in the listener's mind as to how good or bad I am and how I should be treated. By the time the words have hit the listener's ear, the question has been raised like "Am I being criticised and more attention is being given to this question than what I am saying. Finally what enters the listener's mind is not what I have said but a garbled message which the listener will not acknowledge that he was not listening properly, accurately. This will be followed by arguments and real accusations and finish with quarrels quite often (married people would understand this easily). This is just a trailer of how messaging works. Half the messages never reach. People are too engrossed in themselves. The rest reach garbled totally. Then the language itself is with gaping holes in it. The different levels of conditioning and experiences, education all make messaging with language a dicey affair. Humanity needs to learn to keep the mind silent so that in the silence clear messaging is possible. Humanity needs to tame itself and be patient with itself. Quite often when someone says something to me and I have not heard the sound clearly, I wait, silently focus on the sounds received and let my mind work it out and usually I get the full accurate message in a second or so. When there is something important to say, choose a private silent moment. This is why we take the ladies out to dinner! Got it?!!!

Does the Universe really care or does it matter how you label yourself? - It cares for you but not for what you do. Pk

[Pete Apte](https://www.facebook.com/groups/479654735428950/user/100031469860271/?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZXtum185mAKEilQ_aHG7opJ92evvmYtoQDaVN41Xv16J1TSnBmdIukTM2GO_hyJ5tPAoRh-JIrOaIJClil_KcaUiE9oYa0pwLTpMcc_AA-i5-R_RiRlmqVvqo-NBgGJrXpkDL1XoDOYtZ3fn2T7w5Pe8Gr9kaEKbrdnSHvVS-j3nQ&__tn__=R%5d-R)

What we do and say reverberates though, don't you think

[Pradeep Pk Maheshwari](https://www.facebook.com/groups/479654735428950/user/838157924/?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZXtum185mAKEilQ_aHG7opJ92evvmYtoQDaVN41Xv16J1TSnBmdIukTM2GO_hyJ5tPAoRh-JIrOaIJClil_KcaUiE9oYa0pwLTpMcc_AA-i5-R_RiRlmqVvqo-NBgGJrXpkDL1XoDOYtZ3fn2T7w5Pe8Gr9kaEKbrdnSHvVS-j3nQ&__tn__=R%5d-R)

Yes but you bear the consequences but people prefer to blame the universe for everything and I don't see the universe caring for that.

[Kathy Glover](https://www.facebook.com/groups/479654735428950/user/1623441156/?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZVWY9aJiumIqIbc_QlO1tAOGdi__qPw9pYORNNed4147yxrUPM8pafGjkazfAmMpQnEg_A1jBj-uGtqx_4OVmsjV7yMPfzuXDFN_jMNdP548D9bYKJS7xWZ0BbTajo1Nkz1EQyWqKb_Sw3vzN8XVDwI4Q2m-4NwKhtj-aSxnmKpVQ&__tn__=R%5d-R)

The Universe does not practice the attributes associated with humans. Attributing human characteristics to the universe is akin to attributing human characteristics to rocks. Although I do believe that the existence of our universe does affect how humans live and exist, in the same way that a rock thrown in the water causes a ripple effect in the water.

[Michael Prater](https://www.facebook.com/michael.prater.18?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE2MzQ5MjEwNzE5MjkyNV83MjMyNzY0MTkxMzMxMTg%3D&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZXVpqa749NjOo34FWDc_z5212ZTOP6nvp_YRA_O-sfavUzJOzbO086e3mIqCAVayp8_8UOzBQv9gw_Ov-4vQJNciOBhZZiZAdvB_xriQ0po88m9EIO6G8F_2C4aF3V60pY&__tn__=R%5d-R)

Would you call it caring PK? "It's" not indifferent, for sure, but to say "the universe cares for you" doesn't ring true to me. In my experience it's been just as caring for me as it was the flower I stepped on, or the mosquito I swatted. Is all pervasive caring from omnipresence considered care for the individual? Or just an all-encompassing care, something like a "blanket statement" so vague its meaning isn't discernible anymore.

(Of course I'm excluding the beings and intelligences that embody the various forms of reality like Durga or Kali. What I mean is something like Maha-Durga or the ephemeral source of reality. Obviously they give personal care. Or is that what you meant to begin with?)

[Pradeep Pk Maheshwari](https://www.facebook.com/PK.pradeepmahesh?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE2MzQ5MjEwNzE5MjkyNV84NTkxMTQ2MDkwNDI4Njc%3D&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZXVpqa749NjOo34FWDc_z5212ZTOP6nvp_YRA_O-sfavUzJOzbO086e3mIqCAVayp8_8UOzBQv9gw_Ov-4vQJNciOBhZZiZAdvB_xriQ0po88m9EIO6G8F_2C4aF3V60pY&__tn__=R%5d-R)

This would make a lovely argument.

But just for keeping the conversation and thought process moving, I would say look at the river....it cares for every drop in its formation. As much as the placid drop and the one rushing over a stone. The human mind moralises and judges from the angle of what causes pain and what causes pleasure or joy.

In the final analysis: meaningless.

[Parris Ja Young](https://www.facebook.com/parris.young.3?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE2Mzc2MDA2MjA1NzkyNV8xNDE0NTM0MDUyNzYwODY1&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZV3G9qvjhUyu6LkWyXNhKBFUX-NWTAuRyH56UIyhdOtQBkDz_MSGSqeEDDz5fvH3-_hbtjkKqN9UOoAV-eLrrBBqHxpBgfJosbyMpW-d5O1YKICgi9c72VVuM6hkAnNVq8&__tn__=R%5d-R)

It is possible to get off the Wheel?

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PK: Yes. All we need to be is honest, sincere in every part of our being - specially the hidden parts. Life takes on a very different hue when we start with the simple act of speaking, thinking and acting and acknowledging our feelings sincerely and being honest about it all. The pretense is what keeps us anchored down on to the Wheel. PS: The hidden problem is that this world as it is, is formed on the foundation of violence and insincerity. Even the honesty portrayed in this world is totally dishonest and this whole thing becomes a monster and bites back to stop you from going that route. Only a handful of humans are able to take this back-lash or see any need to. There is a lot of evidence that one arrives at this state of wanting to get off the wheel because one has suffered enough in past lives and are not prepared to take anymore. People who take this route are quasi sages already and refuse to buckle.

.....and I have realised that no one is listening. They are hearing but very actively not letting anything register in their minds and memories. There is also this fact that only those pay attention whose livelihood depends on it. At the boss level the listening is rather negative as all inputs from other sources are seen as an irritant to the ears and as there is nothing worth listening to from others it is seen as a waste of time and energy and best shut out.

Full stop.

The entire world economy and our personal luxuries are running on the basis of taking from Mother Nature without paying her a penny. Take oil; It is Mother Nature's property. What do we pay her when extracting it? Take coal and iron ore. What do we pay Mother earth for take it away. We have developed a whole way of business based on raw materials that we are not paying for. We do not have the intelligence to see that we are destroying all possibility for life to exist.

Attachment anxiety is a type of insecurity that leads people to feel anxious about relationships and worry about abandonment. Attachment avoidance leads people to feel uncomfortable with intimacy and closeness. ------------------------ PK: The first thing to understand is why this great focus on having a partner. Why does the western mind focus so much on happiness thru a partner? Why has fear been instilled in them of being alone? The entire education of the child has been to become a member of the society and this is where they want the individual to be. The correct approach to life should be to promote individuality. A strong mind that can self-determine, be purposeful and steadfast in what it wants and is not afraid to pursue itself which means it may not be suitable for society as a whole or in a group and this I think is anathema to the social mind. I wonder if this does not scare the kings of the world as it denotes an independence that I feel they do not wish to promote. To me this need to have a partner at any cost otherwise the thought of being incomplete starts eating us is so rooted in the primitive jungle mind. The evolved mind is bound to be independent and happiest when on its own. Partnership only shackles it. The Ego is definitely involved and the ego can be controlled only when the mind itself has evolved enough to recognise it. If the world wants to evolve into a greater humanity it must promote individualism and self-determination. When the stupid ego is recognised as the villain and the mind is strong enough to combat it, then alone peace and joy will reign on earth.

It is an occult fact that the level of Divya status is not one can become by a mechanical process. It is not a manufacturing process. It is an evolutionary process and this process cannot be jump-started by wishing by the mind (which as an instrument good to make omlettes but not much more) or by following certain rituals.

The mind may help you get started into the evolutionary process by making you sit down, calm down and contemplate and that by itself is half the way which most never arrive at.

But if you do everything with the express "goal" of becoming a Realised Being because your mind told you to do so or your Desire for power motivates you then you may end up sitting by the lake for eternity.

Living in the present After a good fifty years of savoring the joys of this world I was sitting alone for a moment and thinking of the moments passed. The people I have lived with and specially the encounters with the opposite sex. The mind it seems wanted to go back to these moments. Whatever happened to my training to live in the present? The present it was now a dull pain with the major number of people from my past life gone back to their Maker. The body was not competent to handle the stress anymore and most of the activities of our younger days would only land us up in the hospital. Why was my mind going to things that had totally evaporated? That time, those moments are gone. Pooof.

You know how we like to think back on our life and start wondering when we shall see our brothers and sisters/ cousins and friends again and repeat the fun we had. But then I had this sudden revelation. Haven't I grown up? The things I am thinking of are just "repeats". Most of the people I am thinking of have most probably not thought of me in the last few years. They may not even be happy to see or for that matter as things are now a days, they may be quite comfy and not want to see anybody. Why can't I think of doing something new?

So many of our dear contacts and associates have long since passed into the dust of history. We were so close and so fond of each other. Yet here I am thinking of reliving the past. Why? Whatever for?

In thoughts I wasn't really following my own philosophy of doing and living in such a way that new activities and experiences fill our lives so that we can learn more about ourselves and use the moments to check if we have learnt or/and changed in any from the last time we interacted with the world?!!! Let us never forget that our interactions are the "feedback centers" of our lives; very necessary to keep us aware of our growth and change into a more superior human.

A heavy cloud that was on me sudden disappeared. I felt light. Yes like when I was young, I should be thinking ahead; not rearwards.

The Unsafe Humans.

Life is a collection of APPREHENSIONS that we try hard to hide. We really have no options but to play the game of life so we have to put up a happy front denoting successful achievements.

What a life we have made that we wake with apprehensions instead of creative thoughts and feelings. A life made on a foundation of lies and total insincerity of purpose, method and unreal ends.... But who gives this a thought? In our minds we are all living full lives, doing our duty honestly and blaming god for the rest.

What is in store of us? What will I have to suffer before this day is through?

God is speaking to us thru many different pens, mouths and means. It is a continuous process. But we have this tendency to ignore all messages that do not go with our personal private agenda. We prefer our "smallness" and would like things to simply go the way we wish them. ARE WE IN ANY WAY PROGRESSIVE? The why do we always shun new thoughts and change? How many sages have been killed by authority because they did not fit the current narrative? Like Socrates for example. How saints were burnt on the stake by the theological rulers? How many sages were crucified or beheaded because it was expedient to do so for the ruling class's creed? Can we trust the religio-theocratic narrative? Are they telling the truth of their experiences or cooking up the narrative as expediency demands? And why are we so eagerly so dependent on them to do our thinking for us?

It is rather "surprising" that MAN in all these millions of years has not been able to conceive of a greater goal in life than to claim a pretty female; and females to have a male partner.

And yet as my experience, goes, there is nothing special from one to the other. They feel the same. They claim you and hound you the same. And eventually become the same bores. I honestly conclude that it is more of a utilitarian goal. Both looking for prize catches to show off and have a good life together too. And they never give themselves fully and completely. The major part of their persona stays way out of the reach of anyone for that matter.

I wonder over and over.

Compassion, Care and Medicine

Nothing is being said against drugs or surgery or modern medicine or any medical systems.

The point is against the attitude to maintaining or not caring to maintain willfully good health by living in a way that is known to the body so that medicine or such may not be required + our attitude to death. In case medical intervention is required in a crisis situation like heart attacks, strokes, burns or car accidents, only modern medicine can help - it is then what must be must be.

If you counter by saying that you have seen people helped, I have seen people being unnecessarily operated upon, given treatment when the doctors knew well that they have no cure and often people who would have been declared dead at home are kept so called "alive" by artificial machines.

The question is do we know and are we honest enough to know when to stop and stop abusing our bodies.

Also it is my deep feeling that modern medicine practitioners are not open to ask or take help from other long established curative practices and they are not wholly truthful in admitting when things are beyond them so that the patient can try something else for good or bad -- after all death is the final event anyway.

Keeping people alive by all means fair and foul is not in our philosophy and that is how we see the western medicine doing things. The caretaker's job is to alleviate pain and allow the patient to meet to meet his maker happily. If treatment causes pain then I don't like it.

We see people being amputated, cut and drugged and made to linger on support in the name of treatment and this is not our way.

I hate the word "battle" used when illnesses like cancers erupt. As it is the body is mightily abused are not being nice and responsive to their bodies, then when the poor body is near collapse they push it thru an obstacle race to prove what?

Our duty is first to listen to our bodies. Only a fit constitution can take the burden of self-development to any length.

People use others (those making themselves available) as crutches. This is to be avoided. Both by those who are misusing the help they are getting and those who think they are helping. The helpers must understand that they are being used because their vanity is making them feel great.

I see empathy and compassion as the natural spiritual level at which a soul is. It can only be that. Once you have reached an understanding of the working of the Cosmos you can only be kind because you understand what is happening and how the show is being run. You do your little bit wherever you can. Good sense keeps you detached mostly. The professionals (like in nursing) have a hard time not being touched by the vibes of suffering AND the (this is what causes the burnout) negative, selfish and irresponsible vibes of the patient/people they have to continuously be associated with. The working of the Cosmos is relentless, unending and mostly tragic. It does get on one's nerves and deeply saddening. Pity is totally a mind made concept based on morals and mostly religious teachings. The ego soul uses this to show itself as generous.

"I like to solve problems". ..........

Can you? Do you have the requisite knowledge? What powers have you to change the path taken by the world.... in small individual episodes or things in general? Why do you see yourself as somebody who can and is the right person to do so? This is your vanity speaking; the human mind can conjure illusions of greatness, of capabilities and valor which exist only in the imagination and when put to the test, always collapse in a heap.

Governments want to help and do so by passing laws for everything. How can passing laws solve problems? The Cosmos is it under obligation to human thinking and laws or sense of morals?

We need to learn to NOT get too embroiled with the state of affairs of this world although keeping tag on things is advised. The wanting to change the world is simply not possible from the human consciousness level. It is too open to devilish thoughts based in selfishness. It is like a mouse living in the coat pocket of a man..... Inviting the man to come to visit him.

Living long and forever. Death comes when the soul is not learning or evolving anymore in this lifetime in the given body so the mental development is more important to create the right consciousness for the Soul to continue to exist in this body. It is not simply a physical thing. Life spans can be extended but not indefinitely. PS: Most of our pleasures that make life superficially worth existing becomes unavailable as the body ages and even the mind gets bored. So why this hankering to live on and on? Simple answer: The Ego Soul does not wish to start all over again. The process of rebirth and growing up to regain this power to enjoy the physical pleasures of this earth is a great strain and rightfully deplored as extremely tiresome.

How I managed. My strength of knowledge of English and French helped steer a clear path in the international waters and my knowledge of applied physics, design and marketing psychology allowed me to start representing companies from Europe as their Country manager. I think I created a bit of a wave of envy too.

But people around me never understood or even tried to and of course were not expected to - was the fact that due to health considerations and lack of vitality I had to tread very carefully in expending of my energies and pursuing the regimen of nutrition that I followed by necessity. Additionally I needed rather as a medical necessity certain basic comforts to survive the strain of everyday life. In addition a strict mental discipline was maintained to not disturb the body's functioning. No excesses and no stupid extravagances.

This is where the magic of The Mother's hand showed. Troubles on one side and solutions magically appearing from another sort of became a routine in my life. Things and people that I needed would just drop in. Sincerity of aspiration for a better atmosphere around one can be the magic potion.

I was seen as a difficult, very demanding, critical and a forever show-off person of my deeper knowledge of things. So the divide with family/friends grew bigger and wider with every passing year. At that time I did not understand that it was NOT my job to correct others or help them know better. Essentially let us focus on our lives; help other but not forcefully.

Which was good. It is this separation and distancing that turned me towards examining my status and made me look back and analyze and put in correcting measures in place. Retrospection and turning towards the writings of The Mother and Sri Aurobindo became my base of all future planning. I also got interested in all writings by the great sages the world has known. I read whatever I could lay my hands on.

Later on I used all my talents to create a niche in the world for myself which allowed me to rest my back and control my food intake so as to maintain a reasonable level of good health. But I achieved this only by staying away from family and living alone.

In their defense I must say that they really have no knowledge of me and life but the funny thing is that they still judge me and interfere if they can. So be it. What could I do?

But one thing was continuous -- every time I resolved one situation, out of it another one would evolve, more complex, crucial to my life and requiring answers without an option. But I would be given every opportunity in terms of book, people and possibilities to get over it. Of course given not much support from anywhere, I depended greatly on libraries to become invaluable in industry as a person who could find answers and solutions and this kept me alive, independent and working at my own pace.

I am suddenly reminded of my sick days with Tuberculosis in my spine. As it is wont to be, it was well advertised in the family. From the gossip angle my parents became the epitome of angels taking care of a sick child like me with a terribly contagious disease and keeping me home. The cost was not a problem but accepting me amongst the other by the others was but no-one dared to say or show it in front of my father who was the eldest of the clan and well regarded. I wonder if all my youngsters have any idea of how this notion of keeping me at a distance was born.

It was not pleasant for me and I showed it in good measure to anyone who would act uppity with me. My reputation of a not-so-nice, unmanageable and disrespectful person was born and remains to this day. My stance was simple; now that I have been given this reputation, might as well live up to it and take advantage of building my life in the way I want it -- which being to live in quiet isolation and meditative mood without any jostling from any side -- master of my time-table and pursuing to the letter the Zen philosophy of "sleep when sleepy, eat when hungry" with silence as and when I needed it.

It was and still is a charmed life. The choices I made was the BIG Question and as I can now see is the main ingredient of everyone's life

What bothers me is that I was being thrown curved after curved balls relentlessly and at the same time I was also being given grand opportunities to better myself, learn and grow. Whatever the Cosmos offered I would sincerely look into it. I was also being tested as to see which way I would run. Obviously there was a bigger hand behind my life. Finally I started seeing how some unseen hand which I concluded was that of my Guru/Mother Divine, was shaping my life and spiritual destiny. Soon my questions started getting answered more and new ones cropped up but did not scare me - It is now that I realize how all these curved balls made me intensely, intently go looking for answers as along with the questions came situations that allowed me no options but to rise above it all.

In a normal comfortable life I would have never done so.

Humans are so lazy, so averse to make the effort of saying no, living alternatively, with less. The human's focus on pleasure is absolute. It is prepared to pay for it - poisons, self-destruction - whatever it takes.

Humans are so ready to bargain their soul away for a few apparent pleasures. I had clearly understood the character that lives for small pleasures, small satisfactions and is not prepared to plan, work, put in effort to broaden his mind by education and effort to create an unshakable foundation for his own life normally ends up as fodder to rich parasites.

I am not pontificating - I lived my teachings. Examples from my life:

- A job meant: Sitting 10 hours days in, days out in conditions not okay by me. Being with toxic people I would have to obey and compromise with all the time till it would swallow me whole.

My very first job was a very highly paid one with a UN body but I could not tolerate the working establishment and gave up in a day.

- I had three offers to run the business in my family but I refused because that would impale me to a permanent seat and I was not ready for it although I would have been rich from day one but also dying under the pressure of business worries and stuck to my office.

- I wanted my environment designed for my comfort like lighting, noise from family members, food of my choice to suit my health needs etc. so I moved away from family and made it on my own. Very difficult but doable with the help of Grace.

- I found laptops and smart phones too much of a strain on my neck and spine so I refused to have one.

- I divided my time of day in two. Half for making an income and the other for creative pursuits and looking for new subjects to get involved in. Reading was important so indulged in it for at least 1/4th of the time.

- I refused to get married till I was ready, having done what I had set myself to do first. I touched my first woman at the age of 37 although I flirted with many to test the waters - nothing to go gaga about.

- My very first purchase of my life for my personal use with my money was a comfortable chair to support my neck and spine and proper support to legs. I could sit in it and read for hours.

The truth about me is that I am a Sufi, not yet arrived but on my way. This zone is the area between the land of humans of animal origin and the Gods. This lifetime I am trying to correct 2 deficiencies in my experience/development. I am also carrying the Seed of Change and wherever I go it starts working. Most people react negatively to it because the general populace avoids change and it disturbs their equilibrium and status quo.

Frankly I don't really think that the populace is really very unhappy.

A lot of sensationalising seems to be a general ill of the mind. Accuse, criticise and judge, even get angry, often ending in revenge activity - the mind in torment due to something or other and tires the body along with.

The desires are floating around in the atmosphere and they swoop down on those showing a weakness for them. The answer is in rising above the need of them by expanding your consciousness to find pleasures in higher vibrations like music, calm, poetry and such. Look deeply into yourself: when you have fondled flesh a hundred times doesn't the feeling come is this all? This effort of wooing a willing partner and then all the energy spent and then what culminates? Soon the need to start all over again to repeat for the same result. Until you reach a point where it all seems a drudgery you will not be free of it.

Keep a check on the mind's simplification process which is comfortable only in routine and eventually reduces everything to automata without feelings.

This is how love affairs pale into insignificance.

This is how medicines overtime stop helping.

This is why overtime people become redundant.

This is why every day the mind craves new excitement

Every different vibe at the Being level tries to find corresponding vibes in the food source.

What Sri Aurobindo called the VITAL (the emotional being that people know & term as the soul) needs to sustain itself and the body it is using. It always chooses the food that corresponds best to its state + its companions: the mind and body.

The Vital as it is said can be purified of its violent and negative side with the enlightened mind and then slowly it is seen that it starts favoring lesser quantity-wise, easily digestible food that is easy to assimilate causing lesser stress to the body and more nutritious. The corresponding change in the character will be something like less fuss, adjusting and more smiles.

The converse that by going vegetarian or avoiding harmful substances one helps with the process is also true but not always effective.

For example: someone who is easily angered, thinks of revenge by physical assault will usually opt for solid meat and alcohol but if he can be influenced to think in terms of more philosophical terms of kindness, gradually he will start enjoying bread and butter more.

Gurus become gurus because the lamentably stupid public wants them to become IT and it becomes a very attractive proposal. Most publicity searching Gurus are clever enough to take advantage and profit from it all. Most gurus are clever intelligent people at the lowest chakra level. The professional line of guruism has money and glamour and free fun. There was never any inclusion or advent of spirituality; they are not working for your growth. It is all at the mind level beautifully choreographed and good drama. You might as well watch a movie. It is the association of certain images and words that you are responding to and fooling yourself to be spiritual. If you fall for the image of dress/words and building or the organisational front etc you are the one at fault.

Pride, arrogance and stupidity

Once "Certified" meant that you are one for the Asylum.

Today now we have certified teachers, yoga instructors, Nutritionists and what not.

The commercial world has taken the mind in its embrace/control too. The commercial world first is giving out the CERTIFICATES in which it brainwashes the candidate with what it wants them to know and then advises them to go forth and multiply and produce good customers.

As usual the humans don't see how they have been led by the nose or look at it this way: HOW HUMANS are fooling themselves into a tight knot and of course they then complain to high heaven for their plight.

You know most aspirants have to battle thru this question: If I find God will I still be my individual self?

At the mental level we may surmise whatever we want but the truth is wildly different and no amount of discussion at the mental level is going to reveal it.

But one thing does look plausible to me is that to create the right vibes to meet or see god, we have to nurture the same level of vibes; and these in His Presence would merge into him.

PS: Like you know an electric bulb in sunlight!

From day one to today, I have met hundreds of people in my different activities and travel. And I can assure you that I have not met one who can be called searching. We all are and are just being; living out our place in the sun. Our shortcomings keep on popping up but these can be explained away by blaming others, circumstances and outright lying. Every individual has a mental world of his own in which he is comfortably ensconced and wonders why people don't do things his way. It is a contented world really......just a little unhappy that others don't listen to him or look up to him

The essential view is that we are a complete entity on our own. So we search for meaning and support in the world around us that can be reached via our physical senses with our mind presiding.

But we rarely succeed. The core remains untouched. We exist with layers of sheaths and in a mystical sort of way lost to ourselves. The more we try with more activity, the more we become more distanced and dissatisfied -- a clear delusional state. We get lost in the labyrinth of the mind and this will show in extreme cases as depression and schizophrenia. Modern education with digital false world is abetting this state and I warning you to avoid it. The illusionary aspect of life should never be forgotten. Whenever one feels that one has arrived and reached the pinnacle of thought that is when the warning bells should ring and be heard. Pray to Hanuman to help get out of it.

Watch out for the female energy. Even at the lowest level of consciousness a woman can irritate you into a higher level of conscious behavior by making you conscious of your wasteful activities. Often it is too overwhelming.

What is your gift?

Every individual is given one strength out of four possibilities; everything that happens and comes to one in this life will then come from this strength.

The converse is also true. Everyone is given a weakness via which one incurs losses.

The strengths are: Intelligence, Physical Strength, Affectionate disposition, Sheer luck coupled with a large heart and brains.

I learned this from some writing in our ancient texts long ago. For instance all solutions come to me from my use of my analytical ability. I am given great opportunities to learn. Info and education comes easily to me on a silver platter. But nothing else ever has come with ease or even comes at all. Another factor I have seen with people destined to live by the brain is "ill health" which limits them in the physical material world.

Whenever I show laziness and let things happen as a matter of course as I see it happening with others around me, I suffer. For instance how do I always match up with the right person and product? Because I pay great attention to what my analysis of all the small pieces of info - bells and whistles - that are coming to me. Whenever I have ignored these signals out of some wishful hoping I have incurred failure and heavy losses both in purpose and reputation.

Others for instance are destined to have everything from the dint of their labor. They have strong bodies and good health to boot. Nothing will ever come to them by chance. Work and more work will come to them and they will flourish only if they do it well. Every time they try to use their experience of life on the arrogant sense that they "know" disaster befalls them as they fail to register the nuances behind things.

Lucky people with lovely positive vibes are given nothing but a supremely kind disposition. They just don't have the critical judgmental attitude to create irritable vibes. They trust and go along with others always helpful and kind and are even taken advantage of but they take it all with a smile without a grudge. Thru luck everything falls into place to benefit them.

Until you have gone beyond the mind into the intuitive world, you will never know the connecting threads between anything and never understand why certain things are done or not done; specially by the masters.

The first step is to step out of your robes and labels and knowledge-box.

They say "have patience with others. They are all doing their best". No Not at all. Not one is doing the best possible. Look at this way: a playing marble is rolled with force on a floor. It goes on and on till its momentum dies and then it stops. While moving it has no idea what happened to it, where it is going, how to stop itself or change direction. Nothing it flows as the floor takes it. Its passage is dependent upon the floor. This is the life of humans. The tapestry of human nature is a mix of strength, energy, a mind, laziness and inertia, love and sometimes dreams of getting out of this uncontrolled routine. Then there is this need to assuage hunger every now and then. So like the "marble" it simply rolls, completing each day with the momentum given to it. It is an automatic movement with not much planning or knowledge how to stop and change direction; mostly there is no need felt to change directions at all -- things are tolerable and mostly manageable. Just existing the 24 hours cycle with expenditure of the energy available is the goal with of course all needs being satisfied on the way. If hopes are dashed, tomorrow is another day.

[Parris Young](https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100010868082894&comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE1OTI0NzEyNzQ5MDcyOF8zMTI1Nzg2Mzk0MjMyNTgz&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWEsAXFSj4C-1szQzR1QVHXzemome8RE9S9tt4qSWVen7cOy_MbID8rQ64_-Hw1y6y9v0zircbOJyORAhiThLO7oV9SrkQLxba_j9YZehHZuxzm5Ith5yAh38l7vDSxfq8&__tn__=R%5d-R) to [Pradeep Pk Maheshwari](https://www.facebook.com/PK.pradeepmahesh?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWEsAXFSj4C-1szQzR1QVHXzemome8RE9S9tt4qSWVen7cOy_MbID8rQ64_-Hw1y6y9v0zircbOJyORAhiThLO7oV9SrkQLxba_j9YZehHZuxzm5Ith5yAh38l7vDSxfq8&__tn__=R%5d-R) that was poetic.

How does one introduce light into such a dark bubble?

[Pradeep Pk Maheshwari](https://www.facebook.com/PK.pradeepmahesh?comment_id=Y29tbWVudDoxMDE1OTI0NzEyNzQ5MDcyOF8yMDE5Mjc0ODI5NDgyNTQ%3D&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWEsAXFSj4C-1szQzR1QVHXzemome8RE9S9tt4qSWVen7cOy_MbID8rQ64_-Hw1y6y9v0zircbOJyORAhiThLO7oV9SrkQLxba_j9YZehHZuxzm5Ith5yAh38l7vDSxfq8&__tn__=R%5d-R) to [Parris Young](https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100010868082894&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWEsAXFSj4C-1szQzR1QVHXzemome8RE9S9tt4qSWVen7cOy_MbID8rQ64_-Hw1y6y9v0zircbOJyORAhiThLO7oV9SrkQLxba_j9YZehHZuxzm5Ith5yAh38l7vDSxfq8&__tn__=R%5d-R)

The mind has to be shown this side of LIFE before the Ego comes into prominence. Introduce these ideas as practical way of looking at life to the children between the ages of 5-15. This is the when the mind is awakening and before the ego awakens. (Normally we protect the children by hiding things from them. For example when she wanted to buy cards for her friends I gave her the idea of being original and personalised by making them herself which she took on with gusto). This is why in the simpler days of old children of aristocrats/royalty were sent to Guru's Ashram, away from indulgent, ignorant and possessive parents

I did with my child by talking of it with others in her presence, by writing and posting extensively on FB and slyly asking her to write/read/correct/post it for me. This influenced her indirectly and then I let her be an adult, going along with her in all activities in which I became the junior partner and we discuss how to correct the mistakes etc.

No spoon feeding but doing. No recriminations but problem solving. Today she does not see life as a bed of roses but manageable - only if she puts in the effort.

[The Mind and the mental domain if seen as a separate entity but attached to our Ego Soul would give a clearer idea of things. The mind can wander off on its own - way away from material reality. Too much play with products and events that help it run away can disturb its stability vis a vis the now at the earth plane.. To be short and to the point just see the inmates of a Mental Hospital.](https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=10163631330932925&set=gm.7122935631100794&idorvanity=479654735428950&__cft__%5b0%5d=AZVlv4hfRr6Mk02sOExSXXLeffmSA9TOHYWIF-5R08W89Rek2j2os6CTMGM2_qTk5i0h4pJN1vHw59Kn8Xhb4Z0MzpR-p7FbpjGQXXRFSEpQbln-1F1tLaTBZlqQtr6YS9jI47qwro_nMXOurEGGt1bxeotg-x_Ga3UrBz7RxJdO7R2_riHpFqyqMYVfnqnCW0Y&__tn__=EH-R)

The assertion that "I am doing my best" is a lie. A sentence uttered with no sincerity; and most people know this deep at the bottom of their hearts. But all accept it and the drama goes on.

Humanity keeps itself trapped in misery by denying that there is any misery. They have imagined their state of being and by repeating these illusionary statements they keep their illusions alive:

- People are not mentally deficient, they make only childish errors.

- People are basically honest and kindly; what happened to you was an exception.

- How does it matter as long as my gold is safe with me?

You want something. Fine. Ask: Why. Look deep into yourself. Is it a spontaneous bit of attraction to a pretty thing? Do you really need it? Will it really solve an on-going problem/issue and help you to live happier? Have you thought where exactly you will place it, is it high maintenance or do you have the means to maintain it? Or is it just a momentary flash in the pan desire and you go for it because you can afford it. Or worse you wish to show it to friends and neighbors just for the heck of it?

5000 different communities all over the world have different gods all with different characteristics and Name. From this I conclude that gods are a figment of the imagination and not worth spending time on and as a subject of discussion totally valueless.

This does not mean there aren't gods and Powerful Beings that influence things on earth. They exist but not as they are being pictured and presented.

BOOK 2

How to ensure that the future can be changed? We have to ensure that children are raised right with positive growth oriented subconscious patterns. But the parents don't know how and who will teach them and how can they be taught? This is the entire problem. But let us study the subject anyway.

Parenting and The Subconscious:

So what are we finally teaching the children after all?

....that we continue to exist with all our contradictions is really a miracle.

Let the Child play.

Letting the child play is the first lesson in raising a well-balanced and rounded personality of the child.

A very important point is that everything is play to them. Whatever they will see us do they will want to do both at home and in the playground. This is one reason I did not agree to have nannies or servants bring up my child. I tried for a few days when fatigue was overtaking me and sleep deprivation was seriously affecting my health but within four days we found that the child had become silent and the eyes had lost the sparkle. Then we observed closely how the servant maid was behaving with her. Not only that we also observed how the other children in the park were being chaperoned by their maids.

It was the same story with all of them. They would take so much care of them and protect them so much that they would keep the child in their arms and refuse to let it get into any activity lest it get hurt or dirty the clothes. I asked one of them why they were denying the child the freedom to play and explore and they said quite logically that they would be blamed if anything happened to the child. They could not risk their own job as no one is going to listen to their side of the story in case of a mishap so they had no choice but to be careful and play safe.

The result was a constant barrage of "You will fall down" -- "you will hurt yourself" -- "I said NO" -- "Come here, play with this ball" -- from what I could see there was a focus on disaster as if we were inviting it. And what were the children learning from it? The way I see it they were instilling fear in every word an action as they would simply not let the child do anything for himself. If he wanted to climb on the slide they would pick him up and do it for him. If he ran they would hold him lest he fall; and many other idiotic reactions that I could never agree to.

Then there is the possessive attitude that we end up inculcating in children. I could hear parents and/or their maids constantly warning the children NOT to play with the toys of other children with sentences like "This is not yours. Give it back" -- "Play with your toys" -- "Don't cry, we will buy you another one" and often comments like "You have all the toys of similar kind at home" as if trying to tell everyone around there that they were not beggars. The parents should not feel ashamed for the actions of the child and simply laugh it off when he does something that we in the adult world would consider improper.

I wonder why these parents with no time for their kids ever have them. Seems they have children more out of tradition than love for a child. Or is it an accident that happened. I talked to many of them and they all replied that they were not really aware what child bearing would entail and one of them was candid enough to say that she was just raising them up as a responsibility thrust on her and did consider them a nuisance although with time she learnt to love them and be attached to them but as I could see it was more as an extension of herself. They knew fully well that all their capers would result in a child but never expected that it would be downright slavery to the little imp.

I would advise to all would-be parents to think well before having a child. Because once you have one, you are on the burner and if this does not appeal to you, don't have one. What has the child done to you to merit a fate of neglect?

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I delight in my child. The smile on her face transposes me to ecstatic heights. I am her friend and assistant. She recompenses me with kisses and embraces and of course with cries of Papa whenever the world is not going her way.

I just love it. Whatever this word means in today's world.

I had a very pleasant experience the other day. A neighbor stopped me in the park and complimented me on the time and effort I was putting in the raising of the child and said that it was visibly paying off because it was there for all to see how smart the kid was shaping up.

Cuddles and the security of your presence are more important than all the wealth of this world.

When I see her romping all around us, supremely happy with her condition and smiles at me, tears of contentment well-up in my eyes.

Essay. Parenting and the Sub conscious.

My father (lordly type with the old landed gentry arrogance where the hookah was more important than the servant; but otherwise for his highly educated and educated in classic and music, photography etc and my mother a childish narcissistic bright clever personality. Towards me he wanted to the best and did even rise above his nature to do so but was terribly short tempered.

His wife was making his life hell and using me as bait.

So his brilliant solution was to send me to the Sri Aurobindo Ashram as he was already in touch with the Ashram.

There with the love and affection I expanded into a good curious young man. But circumstances of illness and accident got me back into the family and all the problems came back to haunt me. So much so that all I wanted to do was to be away from the family members and which I finally managed to do so. Seeing the quarreling around me and the narcissistic behavior of most women in our household I was totally put off people and family life seemed like a war zone. There was no attempt to improve or correct or rise above the situations. It was automatic living with the subconscious in full charge. Everything was so contradictory to what I had experienced in the Ashram. Not a single value for betterment was in action in the world around me.

As a teacher, professionally and as a manager in industrial production units I too realised that I had a streak of short temper that easily tended to hurt by my sharp tongue and I did not compromise easily. I do not know where I had picked it up from but I was very sarcastic. As a bachelor I was studying myself and trying to improve my behavioral personality. It was not so easy. I married at the age of 46 as a challenge hoping that by then I would have learned my lessons. But no. the tendencies were still there. Then my child came. I left everything and every interest in the world and started focussing on giving the child a loving and understanding atmosphere so that the child may grow into its persona with negative characteristics minimised thru good parenting instead of becoming me or its mother. Not an easy job if both the parents are not equally conscious about it. As luck would have it my job was made difficult triple-fold as my mother was living with us.

But I was determined to give my child the best version of me. I kept myself in a heightened sense of awareness, analyzing at every step how and why I was behaving with a conscious effort to control my reactions of temper and jumping to conclusions. I made myself go on the path so that the development of the child could be complete in every way. This became my most intense period of sadhana and self-evolution.

Raising a child is about the best opportunity made available to us by the Universe to look into ourselves and our subconscious patterns, our thought patterns and our behavior patterns that we have imbibed although not our fault. Bringing up a child and interacting with his instinctive behavior without being able to explain anything to him can be a daunting task and I must say that most of us fail at it rather despairingly. When we are required to take on a child and the child's logic how many us can stop our minds for a moment and try to grasp what is behind the child's thinking and demeanor and follow it up with controlled non-aggressive understanding responses?

I cannot relate in words the pleasure it gave me when teaching my child to ride a cycle, swim and roller-skate. The attention, the focus and the patience I had to exercise. The need for me to forget myself and focus on the need of the child in terms of time, attention and pace. If done with sincerity, this is what the yogic character is all about.

PS: We raised our child with the conscious thought that our subconscious patterns do not get transferred. Only the vibes of love and affection and care/kindness. Anxieties should never be passed on. The child came first. Changes in the house were made continuously to fit in with her needs. There was never any imposition of thought patterns and forced acquiescence to anything. We focused on good food, play and activities. We made every activity (like painting, photography, model making and such), toy, game, sports, travel visits to friends all over the globe etc available to the child and followed her inclination.

Sandra Giacomino

Pradeep Pk Maheshwari thanks so much my dear friend for sharing part of your life and your love for your lovely daughter, it would be so nice, I should say such a better world, if we all would be much more conscious and responsible about bringing a child to birth, and giving all of our Best to that soul. 😍

The Pettiness in our thinking. Pettiness in our thinking comes due to lack of exposure to the world and its myriad ways and possibilities. Every corner of the world has different thought patterns and age old subconscious patterns and today in our digitally connected world we cannot afford to be petty and iconoclast. Religion, language and traditions are the source of quarrels and misunderstanding. Many predetermined thoughts on what is good, charitable and kind behavior, especially to save one's soul are worldwide the greatest blocks and precursor of negative thought patterns of hate and differences. We should not teach our children that we are exclusive and our way is the only way as this makes the rest of the world enemies and foreigners (kafirs). We have to insist to ourselves to broaden our minds. Broadening our information and talent base allows us to see greater connectivity between things. Our judgments become comprehensive. Our feelings become more tolerant. Our attitudes become more emphatic, kind and compassionate. And best of all our minds open to the intuitive mind which connects us to the Cosmos and we start becoming one with the Universe.

Can you be otherwise just because you want it?

Does meditation help?

Meditation doesn't change habits or mindsets because these come from the subconscious and meditation does not touch that area without ardent practice, repetitive reinstruction and very conscious awareness and vigilance to achieve a desired end. For practice we need to be up and doing.

It is a good thought to leave behind happy memories in the minds and hearts of others. But it misses out on one essential fact that people don't see you as you think you think you are being seen. There are egos, prejudices at play and the need to put others down because there is a need to show off and such. We start with lies, maintain bad memories, relate wrongly and even spread the lies that we start seeing as stark truths. NO. My advice is live in the best way you "want to" and can. Memories are going to all die with the people. Ask this question as you go along.... how many people remember me today and even if they remember, do they care?

We need to focus at not having unnecessary children + take care of health of the mothers first; the natural way by feeding them well and giving them happy frame of minds. A serious point to be understood is that women are designed to be mothers and not "wives". Men do not understand this and there is all this friction in this world.

A well- endowed household would then automatically take care of its children well too.

I am strictly against allowing divorces when children are born.

The message should be: you made your bed; now lie in it.

The Soul's coming. The very concept of "Having accepted to come here" is an over simplified error. The inner being is the Divine spark that needs to come out in the outer being - the life on earth. But it is prevented by the outer nature which is still in the clutch of the Devil's domain

The coming down on earth, rebirths this is an automatic process based mainly on a karmic program till the Divine spark has come to the fore and taken over the evolutionary process in all of us.

Essay.

The pain of watching the pain of humanity.

When you have distanced yourself away from the maelstrom of life you start to see the world pulsing on in a most peculiar way. Every individual's personal propensities, thoughts and preferences stand out and are visible for scrutiny.

It is a picture that is difficult to define and very nigh impossible to paint thru words.

At the core of each individual you see clearly his very tiny little spark of a personal agenda. Nothing else matters. His entire strength of body, emotional energy and thought are working to get this agenda off the ground and manifest it. Nothing else matters.

This is serious and deep. No individual is going to come out of this frame of his persona and will never work for anything else. But the outer persona is working hard to hide this selfishness and self-centered approach or at least it thinks it is doing a great job at it. In most cases it is as obvious as the sunrise and sunset but humans are great at persisting and maintaining an illusion.

The fun is watching this mass of humanity trying to show that it is working for the betterment of all, moving and acting in togetherness and that there is no personal agenda as such.

The insincerity and the stupidities, the pain that results from it is palpably painful to the watcher from a distance.

Many systems have been devised to avoid this pain that humans are collectively foisting on each other. There are things like drugs, alcohol, religion and their simple solutions like "Be Charitable", "Love is the answer" which is understood as finding a mate and being busy raising a family, psychoanalysis and war. But try as much as they will the maelstrom and the thunder of life only increases in intensity with every move because no one wants to touch the central source of this fountain of pain which is normally termed as the Ego and the absolute self-centered focus it creates and lives mostly in denial. With billions of egos clashing what would you expect? Humanity has also devised some escapist gods to blame it all upon and a greater sham is played out by asking these gods to make everything alright.

But it is also obvious that this is too immensely huge a cauldron and nothing can be done. We may add herbs after truckloads of herbs into the cauldron but the flavor adamantly remains the same. We can only watch and murmur oh my oh my!

The Action of the Grace.

People are not aware of the workings of Grace except when there has been some danger, that is, when there has been the beginning of an accident or the accident has taken place and they have escaped it. Then they become aware. But never are they aware that if, for instance, journey or anything whatever, passes without any accident, it is an infinitely higher Grace. That is, the harmony is established in such a way that nothing can happen. But that seems to them quite natural. When people are ill and get well quickly, they are full of gratitude; but never do they think of being grateful when they are well; and yet that is a much greater miracle!-THE MOTHER (Sri Aurobindo Ashram Pondicherry)

PK: We reach this state only when Mahakali has had her say and we realise that had it not been for her, we would be way far worse off. When we learn the Real state of things and become Grateful.

This is also the time when we understand that things go wrong when we are insincere. The Grace is helpless against our stupidity.

All these people who talk of love...what an illusion they live in.

I have often wondered when men dream of cuddles, being loved and pampered why do they think of the woman of the species and then eventually settle for dogs for companions.

The young female of the species looks alluring but what you see is not what you will live with. Within her is a spirit, a natural collection of emotions and wishes that you will never see until she is aroused in displeasure. That is when all her past, education, conditioning and experiences will talk thru. That is when the dam breaks and all hell breaks loose. That is when you wish yourself back to Mars.

What is imagined and what transpires are very different things and has been going on since millions of years but men haven't stopped hoping and dreaming that someday some loving woman will indulge them for love.

The men look for a female body and that is precisely what they get.

It is more economics than love and some happy emotions when wishes are granted.

Most people are running away from feelings, from letting go and letting themselves loose.

There is a great fear that they might merge and lose their persona.

What they call love is just accumulation of appreciation at best and passion with the hormones calling.

Most people, 9 out of 10 of them, never really ever experience love..... for the simple reason that fear of being disfranchised is way too high on our agendas and unfortunately the world is tuned to conquer, capture, lock-up and cheat.

It would be really not be very practical and best not to come out of it. We do allow rare instances of kindness to leak out. Become aware of emotions as they rise and engulf your mind. None of them that create violent impulses are going to do you any good

The mind cannot think up new thoughts on its own. It has to be fed. The mind starts as an empty box and from the minute it is exposed it starts collecting and storing every idea that comes to it thru the eyes, ears and sensations. This is why the politician is forever giving speeches and the TV is always blabbering. Those who would "run" our lives are constantly hammering at us with words -- and we, the imbeciles that we are keep all our portals open. Everything in this life is words, and more words. Those who know how to use the right words at the right time end up the winners. So ask yourself: How good are you with your words. Put all your energy in developing this side of your persona. The onus is on us. What are we going to allow to enter our mind-box? {width="4.5in" height="4.4771872265966755in"} The mind is designed to be overwritten. Old messages get forgotten. So it is a continuous process. The problems begin when the mind starts "owning" what it has received as messages. The thoughts merge with the "I" and it all becomes personal. The mouth is ever ready to let out whatever is stored in the mind. The lower and lesser the use of the reason and the will, the more talking is seen. People are not using the stored information but repeating it as their duty done and proof of their wisdom. This is why we have this old adage: Empty vessels make the most noise.

There is another box called reasoning but few learn to use it. And there is another tool called the The WILL but it has unfortunately got mixed up with the emotional desire thing; it is very strong and overpowers all behaviour. The "I" hates being corrected. Watch out.

Some notions and psychological factors have permitted some notions to be entrenched in humanity's psychosis. They are playing out over and over. Our minds are quite content to let them play. It suits our basic base nature. We need to literally grow up out of this childishness and rise above into the clear consciousness where rage, revenge, wars, envy simply do not have a place, not needed and clearly be seen as the aberration.

• The physical mind wants to encapsulate everything within itself and plans accordingly. How it arrives to ignore the Cosmos is a mystery.

The idea of robots and Chips in the brain is so grand and so terrifying at the same time and so Stupid as an end-solution.

• I think the human race is basically heartless - how can it be otherwise if it is to be selfish too? When and where the motto is "My wishes first" where can there be place for hearts?

There was a simpler time when there wasn't much so we were all kind to each other and the heart was in play. But now we can manage without each other and it has gone into disuse.

• Rest assured the Wise Ones will be back. When the batteries will run out the humans will need to hold hands again. The principle issue would be for them to work out if they are to use their hands to scratch their heads or hold each other. What a wonderful scenario we are heading for. A mass of humanity, less endowed in skills than the nearest ape trying to work out how to wash in the river!

• While the humans are literally bent on killing themselves with their binge eating, drinking and drugs...... the hospital industry is out to save lives (at least says so).

The contradictions in terms of "reality" are so glaringly living a "Lie" that it is incomprehensible to me as to what game is being played.

• Like also they have wars to end all wars and then promptly start another one. It seems they are happy only when death and mayhem surround them.

But then the virtuous, the self-claimed virtuous want to go around saving lives and the more pretentious ones focus on the Souls.

• Our principles of raising children are basically an extension of our vain delusions.

• Things are what they would be under the circumstances. Let them flow. Wishing only makes us miserable.

- Feedback from Nephew.

Last three days I have been meditating on the feed back received from my nephew: "After having a child you have changed considerably. From the PK I remember from 20 years ago you have become softer".

Point to consider and after three days I agree. Earlier I was strict and would not tolerate less than the best effort and would not tolerate lowering of what I called certain responsible standards. Mostly I would cut off relationship/conversation and avoid irritation. I wanted change.

But now I am softer in the sense that I couldn't care so much where others are going and tolerate if needed the other's presence. I learnt to live for my child and curtail my own vanity. I am quite happy to be what I am and let the world be. I love to share if anyone is interested.

The inner child now lives without. The child is my elder.

Hiding behind masks.

In the formal and capsuled environment of today we are training the minds to think linear and "ACCEPT" certain given parameters and ingest facts as ordained. It is even backed by law to think in a particular way. Non-acceptance of dictates invites punishment.

Is this conducive to "Learning"? NO.

This is creating the highly informed and computerized "personas" of today that are totally useless in an emergency, cannot and don't want to even think beyond the socially accepted norms.

This way of BEING suits the commercial world which is increasingly controlling governance. So now we have established a common syllabi, common fashionable trends, world organisations like WHO that decide what we should do and what is best for us.

Personal needs, and liabilities have been thrown to the wind.

Individuality is looked down upon as it has been since the beginning of time but now it is easy to enforce and spread because of education having gone large scale and customized. By coupling the education with Government approved Certificates and then making the Certificates the platform of all activities like running a school or teaching or stating an industry, the establishment has effectively produced robots who pay also pay for it to become it.

See how in the final analysis people now think and behave.

Fashions are dictated by industry. Psychology is dictated by the practice of psychiatry. Medicine is by protocols instead of wanting to cure the patient.

Mother Nature and personal experience has been trashed.

We do what others expect. We want only what others think is valuable.

The mass control and authority that was first intimated by The Romans is now a reality. "It has gone so deep into the basic human sub-consciousness that it has given birth to a special kind of character -- "Some people are so virtuous that they make it their life's work to fault others or find errors."

Can we have the courage to break away and even bring up our children otherwise?

More than forget I need to remove the traits that I picked up.

The saddest part is that the people who made me become what I am got the credit of doing their best and I got labeled as the rogue and even today this is all that is remembered.

Once labeled nobody ever forgets. That 50 years hence you may now be someone totally else is never considered.

The only way out is to create a new family in the big open world and forget the ones who have no place for you.

- It has always been my contention that children brought up with sincere love never go wrong; even with all the errors of judgment and faults.

ESSENTIALLY this is all we want and need but this is exactly what we DO NOT get. - PK

"She did not need much, wanted very little. A kind word, sincerity, fresh air, clean water, a garden, kisses, books to read, sheltering arms, a cosy bed, and to love and be loved in return."

Starra Neely Blade

Pradeep Pk Maheshwari

The Indian mentality: The beginning and end of life is to get married. Period.

As to the Divine (Isn't this the same thing as God?) he lives in our temples. We know. We made him..... Didn't we?

Sumer Sureka

Pradeep Pk Maheshwari please tell us more about your amazing mentality sir.

Pradeep Pk Maheshwari to Sumer Sureka

Do you realise I am being satirical? Any movie, any TV serial and all you have is "marriage" as the central base/foundation/goal of the narrative. In families, the day the girl comes of age and the man gets a job the entire social circle starts hounding you to get married. There doesn't seem to be any other reason to be alive. Next is to have children and get busy organising a life to marry them off as and when the time comes.

Young means being 20

Why this focus on life being life only in the 20-40 age period.

Why this thinking that we are best in this period and that life's focus should be on maintaining this period.

I am so certain that although not exactly 20-40, I really don't wish to remember my time from that period due to the stupidities I committed........as a person I am a far better version of myself now in the 70s.

I was happy then and am happy now.

Kevin Albert

Time is our only real judge.

Pradeep Pk Maheshwari

As I tell many times: "why judge or comment or explain; just enjoy the story"?

But then humans are not made that way. They have to put you down - it is a terrible necessity.

Half-baked anarchists

This is exactly what I have been saying since years. The voting is a sham, a tranquiliser for the people. The "clique" up there finally does what they wish to as they are all scratching each other's back for their profit thru us. The foolish public thinks it has a say.

The illusion is complete.

Exactly like our illusion that we are living in a given godly way and running the world by God's wishes. Everyone is voting for their chosen senator-god in their area and think they have a say in the running of lives on earth.

The average human has a very high opinion of himself. I suppose that is because he couldn't survive with himself if he didn't.

In the last 50 years we have unknowingly promoted narcissism. The parents have suddenly seen an upsurge in living standards and pride has blown out of proportions. This is showing thru their children who are being treated and protected as extra-specials. This attitude of "Don't say or do anything because this may cause trauma to their psyche." has only created spoiled brats, sissies and entitled bums who are offended all the time.

Not a single parent is seeing to it to prepare the child for a future; a future that will not provide them any protection. They are totally forgetting that 90% of the character, the traits, mannerisms etc will have already made their way into the subconscious by the time the child is15-16. The poor child is being sculpted for rejection and failure

Vandalism is the way of speech today. This is how humanity talks. This is the method of the jealous, envious and afraid that the world is passing by them and they will be left behind in the dust/mud. Totally disregarding the fact that they are already there.

They are unable to see their way upward by effort and learning so they put all their energies to bring you down and to your knees if they can so that you are forced to beg them for peace and give them something to live on.

It is called nuisance value.

I wonder if I ever told you about the times.....

1) A young lady in YWCA who filed and went and told the management that I failed her deliberately because she would not give the asked favours as if the answer sheets did not speak for themselves.

2) When I was cornered by my students of Alliance Française for asking them to keep their lover's enthusiasm under warp in the class

3) Of being held by the throat by a student because he was not learning by remaining absent most of the time but holding me responsible saying "It is your responsibility to teach me".

I left teaching that day.

What we are seeing today is a larger manifestation of this attitude that management takes of appeasement, of large scale teaching systems..... to bring "learning" to people who have no need, or no aptitude for it. The aim is funny. We need trained mechanics and specialists but we send them to school to become white collared clerks who find it beneath their standard to change their own car's tyre or clean the car.

We have created half-baked anarchists instead indeed.

We are intelligent enough to know that others will believe the guy who cries loudest and if it is a woman even more so. We are clever enough to know that people will believe the worst. If the interpretation of facts is plausibly couched and packaged then mud will assuredly stick. An average person may not be very savvy but understands very well that Proof/Evidence is very difficult to come by and to disprove or even prove next to impossible.

The abusive personality is nothing new. Wherever people feel they can get away with, this happens; in personal or professional situations. I just wonder why suddenly the numbers of cases of this nature are multiplying and it is happening all over the globe; there is vindictiveness in the air. The undermining of somebody's persona always goes with the hope - I may even say obviously -, that it will in comparison aggrandize our own.

One thing I have observed, there is an element of cunning always involved and to this is added a lack of maturity which in today's parlance would be called low Emotional Quotient; people who have suddenly acquired some status but have not had the pleasure of seeing much of the world outside their own family and locality tend to be easily drawn into these raging controversies. The self-importance and value of their virtues is inordinately & disproportionately high.

TWO THOUGHTS

Life was designed to help each persona grow in spirit. Every activity and time in life has its own activity and lessons. To learn these lessons well we need focus and time for the activity in question. For example the child till age of 5 is in play mode. From 5 to 15 in learning mode facts and skills. 15-21 is emotional maturing age. 21 -31 is experiencing age where we tackle life and learn about its pleasant and unpleasant side. After this age we are free to make a fool of ourselves and pay for it without others involved in the wins and losses. Specially in the losses. A huge error is mode generally around the ages of 21-24. A job is taken, soon marriage and children all at once. The people are unable to devote themselves to any of these properly and full time not at all. Resulting in bad negative outcomes at all levels. The bosses are unhappy because you are thinking of your wife. The wife is unhappy because she wants you for herself. The children are not cared for they need their parents full time to grow properly. The time lost is not coming back and things just go on and on. Sickness and sadness come fast and too early. What is the hurry? Why can't the job be done first and once well-established marriage can come after a few years. Children a little later. All in good time. Spread out for maximum efficiency and enjoyment.

..........

This is a value that few value.

Simple and minimal essential living with freedom to be and do what they please and when they please; they say is what they were working for all their lives. They amassed millions and created homes that they rarely are "in". They have created corporates that requires their constant attention and they are (they accept it or not) forever in battle mode with life to acquire more interacting with people they do not even like.

How can they call this life their own?

If this is their idea of freedom who am I to comment but I do question the value of this freedom which requires a lot of money power and a castle to maintain?

Creativity is a tool for success

Success and Creativity go hand in hand. They walk together like partners in life. Creativity is Life's Force expanding itself though you. This is a positive life-giving factor in our development and growth.

Wisdom lies in nurturing this Creative element in our lives and making it an essential part of our character. This will permit us to find solutions to roadblocks on the way and make every incident and possibility that crop up in life into a successful step to achieving our goals.

The ability to look for the extraordinary in the ordinary is the difference that differentiates between a successful person who is always cheerful and welcomes the next challenge and others who are always cribbing and complaining but doing nothing about what ails them. It is all about going around the problems of life and turning them into opportunities.

A creative Nature sees beauty and possibilities in everything around him. But this has to be cultivated by constant learning and doing. If this flame is not fed regularly it can easily die out. It has to be inculcated since very early days by encouraging the child to express himself fully through every means that you can make available to the child such as drawing, painting, photography, making things, helping in the garden & kitchen, letting the child "do". Instead of keeping him safe and protected, we should make it a point to be there, and "do" with him; help the child experience as many different activities and expose him to the world at large. The onus for this falls on the shoulders of the parents and teachers.

A creative child would know when to make lemon if life dishes him out a lemon. The ability to laugh at life's mishaps is one of the attributes of positive creativity. A child with this attribute would leave the past quickly behind and look for solutions and ways & means to achieve his goals by thinking at a tangent - focusing on what he wants to achieve instead of following a pattern. He makes his patterns where none exist.

Education in different disciplines also helps in "seeing" possibilities. So it is good to give the child not only book knowledge but also help to put his knowledge into practice and help him learn by experience. For example in our technology world of today it is best to learn basic physics and algebra alongside other artistic subjects like stitching and embroidery. It is important to understand the logic behind how things work to be able to find solutions later. These help the brain to grow and tackle problems head on. Learning to play chess is more important than playing video games. Chess not only enhances the neuron highway structure of the individual but also teaches him to strategise & win without arrogance or/and lose without getting depressed and blesses the child with the thoughts of hope that there will be another time and opportunity to win + solve problems and juggle possibilities in his head before taking decisive action.

The ability to tackle problems comes naturally to those who have played and worked in a team and indulged in sports like football, badminton, table tennis, cricket, swimming, mountain climbing and rafting etc.

Languages play a very big part in enhancing ones' ability to learn from others through books and listening. So great effort should be put into improving the child's language ability and give him the gift of expressing himself correctly and precisely. This will give him the upper hand right from the beginning as he would know how to get his point across and understand the other person easily. Make your child bilingual. Give him the edge.

Lastly give your child lots of love and positive reinforcement. Help him think and feel that if he tried hard and sincerely enough, he CAN. He is special and more potential is hiding in him and waiting for an opportunity to surface.

Give him the gift of the "URGE to Excel and continuously improve himself; happy to be but not satisfied as there is always room for improvement and change.

Getting my little one ready for school requires a lot of drama acting and acts that would be considered downright spoiling. She is only four-&-a-half. Being on time and such trivia has no importance for her. And we treat it as a game. Her mother has taken "spoiling" to the next level. I love the fun and mischief that goes into going to school every day. Every morning a lot of planning goes into making the waking-up act into a theatrical performance.

Which makes me think: When we act, are we moving about with conscious thinking or simply embedded reflexes with no real thinking behind them? Are we really bringing up our child or just letting him/her grow up?

Then there is always this question on how much freedom is to be allowed, for finally the adults have to clean after them. I have realized this truth: Adults are afraid. One would think that their little world is endangered overtime a child goes experimenting or on a personal voyage of discovery. But then they are afraid of other adults too. What are they so afraid of? From what is obvious to me it is the sense of control or not having any that is so upsetting.

I have been advocating seriously that people should not have children if they do not have time or facility to bring them up and provide for them properly. I had this exchange with another face book friend and I share it - just for info:

From a reader: - If we follow your agenda then, poor people can't get married and have children.

My reply: It is the responsibility of each individual to first promote himself, become aware and make a home where the child has to come. It would be criminal to have children to perpetuate your own miserable condition onto the child.

- I think if Allah is giving Parents the gift of a Child. This Child has a right to be born.

Allah will arrange their lives!

My reply:

Sorry do not agree. Children are the responsibility of parents. It is the result of sex that parents have for their pleasure. They have to be given a future. We should not bring in Allah. He has no role to play at this stage.

My friend: Then you don't believe in this! But I do!

My reply:

I care for children. I believe in the hand of Divine intervention but I am responsible for my acts. God/Allah cannot be made responsible for everything and should not be. This becomes an easy way out to suit our convenience - Then you are not a Muslim, and dont believe in this ! But I do !

Pradeep Pk Maheshwari:

Why should I be a muslim to care for children? I believe in the hand of Divine intervention but I am responsible for my acts. God/Allah cannot be made rersponsible for everything and should not be. This becomes an easy way out to suit our convinience-

Then many people came up with the objection to my contention that divorce should not be allowed. They talk of bad marriages which are in turn bad for the children. My conviction is that as long as there is this thought at the back of the mind that "we" can part (in occult parlance: run away), people do not make a wholehearted, concerted effort to stay together as couples and as parents not at all; so if they have any doubts, even a shadow of one, they should not have children.

The children have a right to NOT BE born to bad parents. They have a right to life and home. The parents lose all their rights except to care & nurture the children. And finally I ask this question: Do children have rights?

On divorces, this is my view: my understanding is that at the Mother Nature level, from the occult point of view, marriage is the only state which is akin to TAPASYA (spiritual life purposely for learning and growing into a better persona) that a common man experiences. It is necessary for the pair's personal growth/evolution and children born of it.

Some people contend that souls choose their place of birth and parents etc so birth should be allowed as a natural right. Now I feel this is taking expediency too far. If this premise is accepted, which I do, then the divorce will only upset the destiny of all involved; more the reason to keep the family together. Have children certainly but then keep promises made.

The case for taciturnity.

Now that my baby is over one year old, I receive instructions from all including my doctor to focus on teaching my child to articulate words and communicate in a spoken language that we understand. I am asked to repeat certain words and commands so that the child learns faster and we may be able to communicate more easily with the child. Every time we meet a friend or relative, the first question that is posed is "Has she started to speak? Which words can she speak now? Does she say mama, papa? Then their focus switches on to the baby and they start asking her "Where is your nose? Show me your nose?"

What in the name of heaven is the hurry? I have never really understood the need to bring speech so hurriedly and in such quantity and intensity in our lives. The stress on speech and talking is rather exaggerated considering the exchanges I see happening around me. I say that the time has come to consider this factor and stress a little on taciturnity. Let's bring a little silence in our lives.

As far as the child is concerned, she is already picking up so much from her surroundings that we are amazed at her ability to sponge in. She is communicating perfectly and we understand her. We are acting as gardeners. We are not trying to push the plant into over-growing itself by speeding the process.

NO! With Love

When I was young, in college and still sorting out the everyday contradictions in terms of human relationships, one of the features of my life was to understand the attitude of my parents towards me. From one angle it was clear that I was precious to them and from another angle, they seem to take me for a nincompoop. At one end of the spectrum I was supposed to do them proud by coming up to some standards that were never clearly defined while at the same time I was not supposed to show any initiative and do what I was told. On this point the directions were clear: as if the parents were saying "We are here and know what is best for you. We are doing the thinking for you, all that is needed will be provided; you just have to be a nice, sweet chubby child, the apple of our eyes." As if they had never bargained for the child to grow and assert some of his own personality.

When this time did come, it changed into a period of confrontation. It became a competition between two diametrically opposite tendencies. One set in their ways, afraid of change and the other experimenting and exploring, feeding and thriving on change. Eventually the situation came to a pass where all listening came to a stop. Every sentence of my father began with a "NO". This puzzled me to no end and unfortunately nobody was giving me the right honest answers either. Another of his attitudes was that his wish and pronouncements be carried out or taken cognizance in the here and now. No further discussion or questions were permitted. Even the smallest hint of non-compliance was taken as an aggressive opposition.

Then one day I went to somebody's house and there I saw a sticker. It showed an older cranky looking man shouting at an obviously younger child: "The answer is No. Now what did you want?" This was the beginning of wisdom finally coming into my life. I realized that a sticker made in the USA, if so universal in its character, is floating around then certainly this attitude of my parents which was puzzling me, is more universally prevalent than is honestly accepted. A little more close observation of all the parents around me, backed by reading The Reader's Digest made the answers come tumbling into my life.

Today into my late adult life, I am astonished to see how much this tendency to negate and contradict permeates life in general. As I see it, the seeds are sown when the child is growing into an adult and the parents are not grasping this fact in its entirety. They want to protect him and shield him. In their zeal they don't want him to act at all, as if this way they can protect him from all adversity. The child on the other hand begins first by seething inside and then hiding his true self and living a double life; so to say. The parents get more and more strongly into the denying and the child starts even more vehemently saying No to it. Is it any wonder that the adult who results is afraid that his life will be taken over and therefore learns to say No to everything. His relationships are all difficult; whatever kind it may be- professional, amicable or amorous. This way he gets into a perennial "denial" mode. This perverted character then gets passed on from generation to generation.

Look around closely. How often do you see people agreeing and accepting each other and in comparison how often we are crossing each other out?

Life is getting complicated. Interactions are getting more international, fast and furious. Yet our syllabi of life's values, especially what we teach our young ones, still remains tinged with the ethos of the 19th century. Just look at our moral education. What are we drumming into our wards under the consideration of morals? Is it really what they would be seeing around them? Today our wards, right from a young age are exposed to behavior patterns on the TV and real life around them which can be safely said leaves nothing to the imagination. Nothing really matches the education with what they see. Is it surprising that young people have only a very confused sense of what is right wrong and correct or incorrect?

Parents and educationists are not leading by example and this is very confusing. For every question the child has, millions of possible answers crop around him. Without personal experience to back this plethora of unexplainable and sometimes terribly contradictory scenes, the child remains in a state of utter melodramatic puzzlement. And, of course, when he asks his elders some very pointed questions, the elders who are still mentally locked up in their Victorian castles, give disjointed and embarrassed answers that only go to increase the child's consternation.

For example we teach our children to speak the truth and back it up with sayings like "God is Truth" but in practice we rarely show signs of it. Often we even forget that a child is around us and our acts belie our own teachings. When the child is young, the parents are the world in microcosm to the child. He believes in them. Yet ask any child who has traveled in the car with his parents and has ever been stopped by a cop for speeding or jumping a red light; what would he relate as to the exchange between his parents and the cop? He would tell you that the parents immediately began to explain themselves to the cop giving excuses and explanations which were outright fibs. In these kinds of situations, many children tend to correct their parents by blurting out the truth and only get their ears boxed for their effort. So what are we finally teaching the children after all?

"He was a tough teacher but the life lesson he shared was powerful". Not only teachers but good managers are also tough people. Why? It is the way human nature works. There is a very high component of insincerity in what makes us tick. We tend to be slack, excuse givers and liars on our own. We work better under fear of punishment or unpleasant consequences and therefore if results are wanted a certain amount of toughness is definitely needed at the management level. It goes without saying that to get the best out of humans discipline and honesty is basic but in reality we are not made that way because human nature is basically an inert piece of dumb sloth focusing on convenience, pleasure and physical comfort. Motivations are needed. And the best motivations are greed and fear. We have a mind but we find it too much of a bother to use it because it requires learning, focusing, discipline and then follow up with physical effort. This amounts to just too much. We never really forget the love and care and effortless life we had as a child hope this would be the norm for the rest of our life. We love being pandered and hate parents who are strict and push towards greater achievements and goals. This is one of the reasons why our laziness permits bad kings to rule unimpeded (and in the democratic set-up it has become even easier). The human make-up is founded on Tamas, Inertia and Inconscience. If we do not make effort to get out of its clutches we are doomed to a reckless and sad life. We will still know some pleasures but this will be only as long as we are in our physical prime which is about 30-40 years of our life on the average. Our judging is also based on "liking" things and people who help us promote these tendencies. Here we have to also talk of the Cosmos's make-up. Negative forces are running this planet for their amusement and we are quite basically their playthings. They are able to push our minds to do things thru our tendencies and they love mayhem. Our tamasic, lazy attitudes are helping them and we do not see the suffering that we are permitting to prevail on this earth. The joke is that we suffer in the process too but somehow we do not wish to or cannot see the connection.

We create a world special to us in our mind and live there most of the time quite happily and conveniently. It is the normal world for us. This was not much of an issue when we were living in less travelled and less informed, less knowledgeable times. Every country and region had its own make-up and people were content in their little world.

But today life is different. It is a borderless world and we need to be more than one personality to fit in with others. Instinctively it goes against the grain and creates a lot of stress and unpleasantness which we are not always able to take calmly.

Under stress our instincts take over and this is where the problems begin. Anger and violence breed in our instinctive behaviour and they rise to top and make us do wonderful and horrific things.

Watch out.

What we pass on to children

Dear Sir, Could you please share common negative thinking or notions or patterns which we tend to transmit unintentionally to the next generation.

Warm Regards - Vani

Dear Vani,

Thanks for your mail appreciating the points raised.

I can only give you some examples of traits that get passed on.

1) WE pay attention to our child only when sick - this reinforces the habits of whining.

2) Parents lie for small things - children become proud of their ability to lie out of a situation and become habitual fibbers

3) Parents may complain all the time to prove how much they are victims of circumstances, then they may blame their fate - children learn that nothing is their fault but of others and destiny and so they do not make effort to improve themselves.

4) Parents make promises that they have no intention to keep - this becomes a very nasty habit with children of never taking their own words seriously.

5) Then there are other attitudes like parents only thinking of their "fun" and neglecting their children - the children of course become selfishly oriented.

6) Parents do so much for the child that the child never learns anything or become self-thinking or supportive. The child lives in a dream state where he expects everything will be done for him and that the responsibility of his life is on others.

7) Then there are the fears; subconscious fear patterns that get passed on to give complexes. There are also prejudices like separatists thoughts against religions and entire communities, sense of superiority thru religious dogmas, castes and colors of skin.

These become huge stumbling blocks in life specially at the work-place, marriages and when you are in a team and later in society when others throw back at you your own reservations.

The world is not designed to correct and show the way - the world simply rejects or accepts us. People are not there to help you or educate you. The world is a huge market place where everyone is out to outbid the rest. You are totally on your own. So much misery can be avoided by inculcating the right attitudes and habits; parents alone can do this as the child is totally under care in the first few years. I say that parents have failed their children in this scenario. That is why I have always advocated that before we get into marriage and produce children, we should also take some courses in psychology, understand general medicine and management principles and some philosophy of life and training programs to live with others and consider others and life in totality. Become a little more conscious than we are. And if nothing else then at least consciously treat children as the most important part of our lives as we are playing with their lives in totality.

Generally speaking 90% of our character traits get passed on. And not only of the parents but also of the relatives and family around us; not forgetting the influences from the TV in which the subconscious messages are even stronger as they are absorbed without the backing of actual experience of life. So in the final analysis there is nothing that we can isolate as negative traits but we can say that all our negative traits get passed on but then so do the good ones. Humanity bumbles along.

The traits become our stumbling blocks and we are hurt by them, we ignore them, give excuses and find scapegoats etc. This is the game of life. Our ego and egoistic self is always in prominence

BUT...When we consciously try to become better people, improve ourselves, then we have to face this aspect and the subconscious does not lend itself to change readily in later years.

The importance of Positivity in raising children which I am afraid is mostly lacking.

At this stage one thing needs to be broached. A word on the ego. What is needed is Transformation - not annihilation.

We need to really change our basic thought process and patterns. We have been indulging in double-cross and talking with a forked tongue all this while. In most cases when we look at life from non-enlightened apparent cause and effect mind that has not learnt to see the world with detachment and intuitively, we see one the biggest falsities totally accepted and promoted by the influencers of spiritual attitudes that the ego has to be done away with. NO. Without the ego we would be non-entities.

The Ego is the primeval force that gives color to our otherwise bland persona. It is the motive force and the source of our vitality. It is an energy that has been under the influence of demonic forces and used by them to further their ends. The poor humans are their tools and they operate thru the subconscious on which the superficial human mind has no control.

The good news is that humans can use their discrimination using their reason and education and goodwill to put a stop to this by simply using their will. They can impose on the ego to do well and positively and lovingly by espousing only kind and compassionate feelings and transform the ego-energy in to something Divine.

What is needed is Transformation - not annihilation.

Educating the children with this mindset can bring in the change that has eluded mankind till now.

See how we promote the negative side of the emotions thru the ego:

- Success is in accumulating wealth and the power it brings in life. To achieve this end, dishonesty, cruelty and impartiality is tacitly acceptable as along as it does not become too obvious.

- All those who are not with us are our enemies. Enemies are to be destroyed. War is therefore acceptable.

- Women are a lesser species because they have to bear children and are basically kinder so not practical to the pursuit of wealth and war.

Q from a friend - What will be your reaction be when she will grow and not listen to you even? Will you feel bad or proud? That time will only take your final exam. It is really tough when somebody you like and trust is not reacting according to your will and wishes.

My answer

As for - if she will listen to me or not, I am not expecting her to listen to me. I am not a tyrant that I would expect my child to live by my wishes and will. Expecting children to be reflections of the wishes of parents is a huge mistake. This has been the major stumbling block of our people's evolution in India.

I am training her to think and decide for herself and showing her the values by examples, stories and sharing with her about my personal life, trials and tribulations and all the lessons learnt the hard way. My attitude is that I am here and I will stand by her and join her. I am not running her life but helping her to run hers. So it is up to her; even now I make her take her decisions.

Feeling bad is an ego thing which is there but in my case I think it will not be so serious a matter. I explain to her why I am doing things, why others do things and such discussions. The whole relationship is based on mutual regard, affection and trust and the understanding that we are two different persons with different fates and destinies.

When adults listen and talk to children, the children never become a problem and stay friends forever. Most adults do not listen to their children but keep on talking to them from high vantage point, ordering them, deciding everything for them and then later the children don't listen to them -- their first wish is to run away.

There is a saying: If we shall not listen to their small concerns now, they will not tell us their major/ big things later.

At the same time, every time an opportunity comes I put across my point-of-view based on the philosophy I have acquired. Hoping that she would be a positively oriented person with enough experience of life and things to know what to pursue and where to go on her own.

I am trying to pass on all that I have done and learnt and adding travels to her curriculum so that she has discovered "herself" by the time she is in her 20s without being contaminated with my wishes and pursuing life to suit me as parents are normally wont to make children do. They plan out for their children in detail and keep on misguiding them in subtle ways so that the children never go far from the agendas of their parents. In a very subtle way, with control on the purse strings the parents make their children carry the burden of their own ideas and weight of their dreams.

I remember the tons of negative thinking that was downloaded into me due to the family conditions and traditions coupled with non-educated thinking. All my life's energy went into cleansing myself of this burden which was totally misplaced and out of place as the world changed radically when my generation came along and their advice which was conditioned by the thoughts of security was rather trying to keep me back tied to their apron strings instead of letting me fly on my own powerful wings.

Hope I do a better job for her so that she can flower without the need to cleanse herself of our stupid notions.

One of the most important facets of my attitude to bringing children up is to make them realise that cleverness, subterfuge and drama do not take us far. That these are recognisable by others and we do not fool anyone. The route of clear-cut honest simplicity and honesty works better in the long run by making friends and confidantes that gives us a big supportive family worldwide outside our birth family.

All the disposition of friendliness, ability to make things, creativity, the artist in children -- all these need nurturing. The parents if they are sincere towards their wards need to make effort to promote and grow with their child.

One of the most strongly established thought in the human condition is the premise that the child belongs to the parents. Laws and legalities aside, this is a total error in the spirit world and in the subtle world of matured understanding.

The truth is that parents belong to the child. No ifs and buts and long explanations. When we have a child, we have taken the child from the spirit world. The moment we take it in our arms, the transaction is complete. We are sold. All that remains to do is to bring it up following the necessities and protocols of the spirit world. All cases are under strict surveillance of the child's guardian spirits. Misdemeanors, misbehaviours and laxity in bringing up the child to his full potential invite heavy penalties. Call it what you will but this is the truth of things.

Growing up scientifically.

From reading or observation, if you see anything reflected in you, become aware and change it. If you are wondering what to do about it in others, don't worry. We can only work on ourselves. The Universe will take care of its own.

I tend to think, that underlying laziness and wishful thinking is more in evidence in our decisions than the other way round.

We must dream with expectations and act but live ready to be disappointed.

Most good parents, so called good and virtuous by society tend to be rather arrogant and treat their young with some form of violence in their attitudes. Not being there for the child and not genuinely listening to them is the most subtle form of abuse.

Finally I have matured enough to realise that we are all perfect islands. Complete and irrevocable. We are what we are. They are what they are. Observe, note and make the best of it. There is nothing to be taught and no one is teachable anyway and does NOT NEED teaching. Get this into your head pronto. This is the route to joy and happiness. Do what you have to do and let them do what they have to do and they will anyway. It is all simple chemistry. The Creation has its own chemistry, you have yours and they have theirs. Then when the ingredients mix - often, more often than not, there is BOOM.

I can understand how the word manipulation may be understood or misunderstood. If you will notice this confusion comes from analysing the possible meaning. The word manipulation means much more than the negative connotation people know about. It also means the strategy needed to achieve an end. You have heard of reverse psychology and have definitely seen it in use. This is friendly manipulation. Most humans use direct strength - using their authority if they have or their position in the big wheel which can be something like black-mail which is also manipulation. So we use our understanding of psychology and assist/influence the other person to think on a given track of our choice. This is also manipulation. AND everybody is doing it all the time - it is the only way to live/interact that humans know.

Technically humans are not ready for technology. Humans don't use their minds to live better. If they want to kill, why not let them have cross bows? The time needed to load them will give some time to reflect perhaps. Even a karate chop can kill. So finally it is the mind that needs to be controlled.

Life, it is said, is a process of learning wherein we shed our sharp edges and mellow down. Yet, if you ask me, it is not a willing effort. We find ourselves in circumstances and situations that force us to batten down the hatch and plain and simple age melts down our ability to show off our arrogance. What if we did this willingly and with full knowledge and the cooperation of our will? This would be yoga. We may even encapsulate a few extra lives into one and come at the other end far greater as a Being than we could have ever imagined in the natural course of things.

Whole lives are spent in searching for tenderness. Quite contrary to this earthly life founded on thorns. The permanence of sweet embraces dreamt of Is in the final Great Experience of eternal Death... How does it matter in which hospital we took birth; or the date or thru who? Are we alive today? Live for today and the moment you are going through in the present. Your past is concentrated here. Your future is focussed in it.

The Lies we live with.

There is no doubt that we are living in a time of change but we have to as well counter the living conditions as they are after thousands of years of evolution and human development or/and interference. There is also the fact that considering all the factors, everything is in its rightful place but there is definitely room for improvement. This is where the difficulties arise. Sri Aurobindo and The Mother have shown us other possibilities but we have to live and survive with the world as others not-so-conscious people are making it and running it.

But even otherwise, in the normal state of things, leave out all the philosophy, there is a gnawing fact that has become obvious to the general, even slightly aware humanity, that we are living a life seeped in insincere considerations which forces us to put up a façade and live a charade that we at the bottom of our hearts we may not be wanting to.

Self-centeredness is at the core of human nature. Keep this mind when you take altruistic decisions. Specially when talking of things as they ought to be, should be, the right way and more in tune with generous, kind and compassionate ends. The doers don't really have the same thoughts. They mask it well and fool themselves & others.

This is the change humanity is expecting and waiting for but no-one is practicing; even the ones that profess and show the way to others.

I am giving here some instances to ponder over. Not only ponder but to meditate upon and see within how much of it applies to your own selves.

• You are friends with an artist or somebody who prides himself to be an artist and a good one at that. He considers himself really worthy of appreciation and regard but is not seeing so happening in life even after he put an exhibition and all. Anyway you are invited to look at his latest creation. .....Now this is where the game begins: You know in that he is not very good and perhaps even consider him a little presumptuous but now you have two options. Live by the truth of your convictions or play the game?

Most people would keep up the appearances, go to see the painting and even praise it, and then sit down to listen to the artist's explanations about how and what made him make this great piece of art. You will enjoy his coffee. You are of course not really bothered if the painting is good or not for you are neither being asked to hang it in your house nor buy nor recommend for a prize (which in real life is a distinct possibility).

Now tell me is this level of insincerity a good thing? What is to be done if we wish to strictly adhere to the directions of our teachers to be totally sincere because without it we cannot advance on the spiritual path?

What are the thoughts and factors that make you go on with the friendship and this support? Kindness, friendship for other reasons or just because otherwise than the artist he is a good chap over all? But then would it not be a good idea to let him grow up and know his real worth and unchain yourself from this charade?

• I bring up another instance. You are dating a young lady and after 2-3 meetings you are beginning to realize that she is not exactly what you had hoped for. There may be many reasons that you like her or were attracted such as she is pretty, her laughter is lovable, she is a trophy of a kind as she is desired by most young people around her and winning her over is a feather in your cap. For some reason she does like being with you, perhaps it is your rich father and your car but she is not letting you know that and she, very importantly, ready to cuddle up with you. At the young age of hormones in a rage, this is a very big factor.

Now here is the dilemma. To continue the relationship would be a long term disaster. It is trap of a kind and you know it and understand it. But the cuddling and the appreciative looks in public that you get are so exciting. So what do you do? Continue to tell her how lovely she is which is not a lie, continue to tolerate her boring inconsequential long descriptions of her days which is a big lie and enjoy the cuddles for as long as it lasts. There would also be this thought at the back of your mind, that you are clever enough to find ways and means to break it off at any point in time if you so wish it. Then what makes you think she will just disappear one fine day because you wish it?

I see only a lot of wishful thinking, over-estimated sense of worth and devout invitation to providence to give you a good whack on the head.

Now see the conundrum: at one end we have all the teachings, exhorts of our parents, teachers and seniors and at the other end the pleasure laid out before you. What would you do?

- The most dangerous sentence humanity has coined is:

- THIS IS FOR YOUR GOOD

• Let us take our health. Our education has taught us many things about many harmful products now masquerading around as food. We may have some general inkling of the harm they do but as it does not make us feel immediately sick we feel it is fine and here is the lie -- if everyone is having it, it can't be all that bad!

Today all journals, Sunday papers, blogs and such are giving away information on everything under the sun yet few take the trouble to read up and even if they do, put it in active practice in their lives. The question is why?

The trouble is listening and reading brings us face to face with choosing between our reality and our pleasures. The immediate pleasures and satisfaction is difficult to forgo.

• The day comes when we are sick. The pain and discomfort makes us for a moment reflect that we need to take better care of ourselves but what do we do? We go to the doctor and in a short visit of half an hour at most, we come back with a prescription that we hope will cure us totally. At the back of minds there is lurking the misgivings that how can a stranger doctor know more about us and cure us with a few pills but we would rather look away from it all because the enjoyment of life comes first. We have also realized that we get a lot of care and attention when we are sick so it becomes really an incentive to be sick now and then. Then we have convinced ourselves that medical science has all the answers and we can continue to pander to our frailties with impunity. This game of popping pills, trusting people who have no interest in our lives, keeping our eyes closed to warnings from all around goes on. It is a big lie but we are all merrily playing it because the alternative is too demanding and restrictive.

I see a total sense of childish irresponsibility in our living. Hardly the kind of resolve needed to go into Sadhana for self-improvement.

In the occult world all acts and actions follow some rules and line of action. It is like if you add white to black, you will get grey. It cannot be otherwise. In the life of humans things happen, situations present themselves and we often fail to read them properly because either we are not reading them objectively or with not enough sincerity. By this I mean that we all allow our personal agendas to interfere in the analysis process.

Human are very good at tricking themselves into believing that they have a lot of grandiose qualities & about themselves in general. Specially when the mind is full of great words that touch our spirit and we then easily see ourselves having become that. Those that have had the opportunity to be somewhat independent and living isolated lives, are the worst affected.

I think now let us move to the basics of all this. The examples we all know but we are gathered here to look into the deep aspect of the human psyche. The point is why we are not prepared to take the bulls by the horns?

We have to accept that living in sincerity would make us do without a lot of things in life for the simple reason that our honesty and sincerity may not be valid currency in this world.

The question also we need to consider is that can we live sincerely or not? My answer is NO; not by simply following a set of mental rules in which we consider some things right and other things wrong. The first step is to be certain that we want to live that way at whatever cost it entails -- all the trust and faith in our Guru notwithstanding? I think it is possible but first we need to start paying attention to small tugs your conscience and your Soul will and do make at every moment. These tugs are very small, easily overlooked and with time if not paid attention to tend to become silent. (It is a very unfortunate part that the opposite training is given to children and this conditioning becomes a huge mountain to surmount later. And it is the main reason behind the same old movements being perpetuated in this world.)

The Body as I

We are depending too much on the body for fulfillment. And not taking care of it. Cruel isn't it?

I have come to the conclusion that humans instead of improving mentally slide towards stupidity when they are given more. This shows most in the way they mess up and maltreat their own bodies that they identify with and all know that they are, their life is only as long as they are in a properly functioning body.

People live such self-centered and small-box lives that their preferences and opinions are mostly the same because in their minds they live at a level that they think is best that can be anyway.

Advice generally for humans is like playing the flute to the buffalo.

People can understand only what their minds have already decided. New info upsets the equilibrium: is unwelcome and not needed.

God you have touched a very deeply avoided subject. I was born with this instinctive understanding and fought parents and family and all instinctively.

Then to run away I married (late though at 46) but the wife came out to be a very hard task master but because of my Ashram background/study of yoga and applied psychology I saw thru it and instead of letting things snowball into a serious quarrel I would keep the tone at a level of letting have her say but not agreeing to the exaggerations and this required a definite control over my thinking process and emotions which were to let things fly. I have only become stronger and more of a dangerous ninja as you might say. But the situation had the effect of perfectioning my own behavior patterns.

Kendra Strand

Always have empathy & hold space for people during whatever process they are working through right now. God knows none of us are perfect! However, there are a lot of hurt people out there that want to hurt others just so they don't feel alone in their misery. People have sneaky ass ways of attempting to hook you into believing negative programs. 🤹🏻‍♂️ 🃏

They will often appear as a listening ear, and then try to siphon your light right out from under you. Or shame you for whatever you just opened up about.

It's very unconscious behavior and it takes a ninja to notice. Often the people have no idea what they are doing or saying because it's just part of their M.O.

If it's someone you care about, try to reflect it back to them.

Metaphors work wonders in attempts to not make it personal.

But if it goes that far then? ...

Nobody wants to battle all the time with "loved" ones.

Scary shit to navigate in this climate!

Hearts ♥️ wide open but take no shit.

(on the flip side a lot of fun energies too... those are easier to play with though 😅 )

What words are registered in your subconscious?

On what words were you brought up?

What words are you carrying in your subconscious? These words form the base of your persona. Everything you think and do is colored by these words. Have you ever thought how your decisions are modulated by the words that you carry within?

It is now a well-accepted fact that our personas are like icebergs. The greater, major part is submerged and remains unseen and yet upholds the little portion that is visible to the world. Every image that we carry since our day of birth is connected with words that went with the images. We interact with the world based on these images imprinted in our memory unknowingly and subconsciously.

Every world carries a little world in itself. It paints pictures in our minds and unleashes emotions in our hearts. So it goes without saying that we should be vary of the words we are bringing up our children on. And we should deeply meditate and focus on the words that we unleash from our mouth and the words that form part of our regular vocabulary. What words and phrases do you use most of the time?

Here is a small example:

A cyclist skids and falls down. These are the comments from passers-by:

- Are you hurt?

- Careless bugger.

- Watch where you are going.

- He wasn't paying attention.

- Hardly the age to go cycling.

You see from above what thoughts got motivated and what words were uttered it is not difficult to understand the state of mind of each commenter --

People who care and who couldn't care less or are just happy to advise and criticise. Why? Because that is how they were made to think when growing up. This is what they heard and saw around them and their subconscious is replicating automatically.

Over 2,500 years ago, philosopher and poet Lao Tzu taught that our words become actions, which eventually become our destiny.

In first century Greece, historian and essayist Plutarch declared that a speaker's state of mind, character, and disposition are exposed through their words. And Napoleon Hill, the twentieth century father of personal success literature, asserts that words plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.

"Across the planet, sages insist that words are potent and should be chosen and spoken with care, for they are 'the most powerful drug used by mankind,' as Rudyard Kipling warns," says Darlene Price, president of Well Said, Inc., and author of "Well Said! Presentations and Conversations That Get Results." If they're right, it stands to reason that what we say to ourselves and others plays a critical role in helping us achieve success."

Regardless of how you may define success, words will help manifest that vision into reality.

"There are also words and phrases that can damage your self-image, mar your reputation, and jeopardize your success," Price says. "To optimize your success, eliminate this language from your vocabulary and never speak it to yourself or another person."

Thoughts for would be parents.

Thoughts are entities going around in the Universe like migrating birds. They alight where the conditions are right.

The human mind considers itself as the thinker which we can all agree is an error.

When we make ourselves ready for a type of thought it comes to us. We have the option to accept its arrival or block it out (our emotional or/and physical condition are also instrumental in this decision). When our minds connect in the Intuitive mode the whole process loses its separateness and we merge. Then there is no thinking as humans know it. We are swimming in the thought pool and are welcome to do as we please.

We are not thinking but using the thoughts floating around and available to us. To receive new thoughts the mind has to be broadened and prepared by an all-rounder education + a lot of travelling outside one's comfort zone. Perhaps a little more reading by different authors (even contradictory) on the subject will enlarge your view to see what I was talking about.

Think about it.

A great lot of troubles that visit us are of our own making. (both for psychological and bodily health).

Some vibes that are being generated within us are seeking for corresponding response from the world at large. From both what is happening around us, and by meditating within. In quiet, we can understand what is happening.

The business of vibes attracting and responding to other similar vibes can be stopped only from within if psychic silence is maintained. It can be nullified by positive thoughts and intentions; the world rearranging itself around us differently. But IT HAS TO BE psychically, concretely - not just hopeful thoughts in the wind!

In general, for the humanity at large, the best I can say is that they should expose themselves. Speak about it. Understand the futility of hiding behind ideas "what will they say?" Let the world see what is happening. The people who start it and the people who let it continue, will both think twice and this puts a relative brake on things.

I have also learnt from life that ill-will and deliberate hurts from people should be treated as accidents of life. We carry and can carry anger in our hearts against other humans and beings only. For inanimate objects like stones and potholes on the way, rains and storms & other similar accidents, are we angry or can we be really angry?

I wish this had been taught to me early - this state of grace and understanding that there is pride and arrogance behind our need to forgive so if we do not take it personally and treat it all as incidents, we simply forget it and go forward with our lives.

It also puts a spiritual spotlight on us and we need to change our behaviour too to fit better into the exposed scenario.

This helps in keeping us safe from "sickness" too. Because as was well understood in the past, sickness in us is a response of some kind from within us. When we justify the possibility of sickness, it catches us more readily.

Does our Vanity have no limits? Billions of us. Millions richer and better than us in every way. Yet we are in our minds great and eternal. What subconscious patterns come to take roots and from where in us? Why is it that our reason never criticises us but rather goes along with the vane thoughts and backs it up with plausibilities? Somewhere in our deep down thoughts some cockroaches are nibbling otherwise we would not spend so much energy in pulling others down.

Whatever has come to us is thru parenting. Then why "parenting" as a subject never focuses on it and what we are sending forth out into the Cosmos as vibrations and thought patterns.

The Quest.

I have seen 20 or so chosen quotes can take you farther in your quest than most gurus can.

The trick is in reading them once every day. All that is asked of us & we need to do is contemplate.

The mind has to be made to think on those lines and repetitive reminders can eventually start influencing the subconscious mind and with changing thought patterns, life starts changing.

Every time you come across a quote that catches your attention or sort of speaks to you, NOTE it down.

Over a period of your life time, you will see your list of quotes changing as you do. Let in the change and remove the quotes that do not work for you. Try to keep the list at 20-ish figure. This requires a lot of meditation and deliberation. It is easy to collect but throwing out the not-so-needed requires contemplation.

I am not sure very many people want to have anything to do with this word "change" - of any kind.

They want their moods to be recognised, accepted and appreciated. Their moods are always justified. They don't see anything negative or need to change.

The CHANGE if any is needed in others around them.

All these people strutting about, hurting others, why does not the world censor them? The carelessness, the taking-for-granted, the hurtful words, the misuse and playing with emotions, the broken promises, the selfishness and the "Lost-in-their-I" attitude etc etc

Want to live in the luxury of certainty, un-encumbered mindless unperturbed leisurely state of total contentment?

- Follow tradition rigidly

- Follow your elders

- Do as you are told

- Never question the priest

- Don't read.

- Spend your life watching videos on your smartphone.

So the lesson is that instead of telling people to change and behave differently, let us learn to make our children strong mentally, give them enough motivating philosophy to live by and understand LIFE with.

Teach them the basic truth of life what people are in their core selves instead of the sugar & spice stories that we teach them. Let us be clear that lies, cheats, accidents & heart breaks are part of life so that they go into life with their eyes open.

I don't think parents are really playing their part and doing this.

Parents do not help the children to understand and realise that this world is made for adventure. Everything is so drastically important when we are children. Consequences are not really understood. A little philosophy goes a long way.

I remember when I was a tenant with a family who were old family friends. The younger son would come barging into my apartment telling his 3 year old son - go and raid the refrigerator. Nobody in this world will dare to stop you. Your father is here!

And that was when the child was actually being invited to raid the refrigerator!!

Now if that child grew up into a selfish bully can we blame him?

It is so sad that children who are our saviours finally also become so much of our critics that they decide to stay away from us. The fault is ours that we don't listen to them and of course, then they stop listening to us.

And we never do talk to them properly either. We never exchange our experiences and motives to take decisions that we do and that affects them. We simply never consider the fact that we need to befriend them and make an effort to maintain the friendship.

They talk of

Sadness/.happiness

Cruelty/Kindness

Fortune/misfortune etc

Yet note not.....

Nothing is being created specially for you.

Life is what it is.

All the elements are the same for each of us.

These elements were always here and will be for the foreseeable time to come.

Every one of us enjoys the same and gets hurt the same.

It is the same story being retold over and over with some twists that come with the permutations and combinations possible with the millions of factors in play.

Wake up and realise how self-centredness is the painful core in every story.

To avoid non-acceptance we all normally hide behind proverbs, traditional sayings and quotes of people (however stupid or out of context they may be) and worse - behind some book as authority.

We do not realise how untruthful and insincere our life then is and how we discourage and annihilate those who are living out of this "Dishonest and stifling bubble".

Dealing with Toxic people:

When older relations get upset & tick you off, it is time for NEW ones and new experiences but always based on past errors. Therefore pay close attention to past errors. Close the door to the imps in this Universe who are needling you. They are there to help you and serve as mentor and mirror; never forget the lessons learnt. Remember the stories and experiences from the "live lessons" but do cutout the nasty people that were involved.

If you are hoping that truth will reveal itself, forget it. Toxic people relate stories that others accept and they twist tales to make others look bad. People do not see thru the machinations. They rarely do (until it hurts them personally) and even if they do, they do not connect it to you.

Your reputation stays where it is.

We are not in our interest.

I have learnt that the human condition is such that the mind just yet always goes for the most opposite route in life. Humans seem to be wired to take the most diametrically opposite stance than they should be taking in any situation.

We speak when it would be best to be silent and let things flow and unfurl themselves.

We act when we should wait and watch.

We remain silent and inactive when we should intervene and stop malefactors...... etc etc etc.

I give 2 instances how we promote erroneous thinking.

1) I invited family to lunch. My granddaughter asked me what is this (her mother is nearby)? I reply it is something that I have specially made. Try it. If you like it or not does not matter but I'll tell you later.

The mother immediately comes over. I whisper: Don't tell her!

The mother tells her and tells me: How will she know if I don't tell her.

The child never even touched the dish.

Conclusion we are promoting predetermined conclusions instead of exploration.

2) There are a few grilled sandwiches on the plate. Some are a little over done. The child goes for an overdone one. The mother has to immediately intervene by saying "No you won't like that one. It is overdone. Take this one. This is ok."

What is she really finally teaching the child? -- or making sure that she remains a pet plaything of the mother and mentally a baby.

Intuition and the child.

We talk about it but don't really understand the importance of Intuition. The intuitive mind is open to the entire THOUGHT WORLD directly without the intervening human mind which is basically only an advanced computer with our emotions acting as a bug to derail it.

People who have not glimpsed it would not really understand but most would get some hang of it by the term GUT-Feeling. But the gut feeling phenomenon is basically an emotional affair of feelings.

In the domain of the Intuitive Mind, the connection to the world of mental knowledge is direct and without limits. Suddenly you know. You just know. You see the answer like a picture on the movie screen. A little energy has to be spent to manifest/materialise the "SEEING/KNOWING" into the material world.

This is not given to humans as yet unless they have bothered to develop and educate their minds and learnt to silence it enough so that other worlds can get in touch.

Most people who are called brilliant and excellent in their work domain and lead a creative life are basically in connect with the Intuitive Mind.

But alas this is not a subject of common understanding and not taught.

This is what is needed to raise children with a broad mind a broader more tolerant heart center. This is what gives children the desire to be greater than what is already known and excel.

For the now this comes as a gift to individuals from Mother Nature and the Cosmos as part of their natural bent. I believe this is so because these souls have worked hard in their preparation for a better life in their past lives.

My whole life has been an exercise in Applied Physics. All my inventions or the products I developed were not based on deductions but on a need to resolve an irritation and intuitively a solution or the possibility of one would show itself. ^Then I would start exploring the possibility of giving shape to the solution by deducting with my knowledge of physics/chemistry a manufacturing process how it could be done. But the first step was always totally intuitive.

The human persona is 99% subconscious which is a doorway to many entities and forces that have had opportunities to be established and use us as instruments. That is where the change is required. We should become "KINDNESS" so that the other forces cannot find a doorway to enter our consciousness and influence our behavior. Certain actions, Activities, Feelings and Responses should become impossible thru our persona.

How will you know where you are in your personal spiritual emancipation? The world will throw you in some cauldron and then you can see for yourself the responses that come out forth from you.

Do you think your prayers will reduce the sugar in the sweet?

Do you think that your "yagnas" will change the position of the planets and thereby change the outcome of your actions?

You think that there is someone up there listening but he is the one that has created it all and put you where you are! If you ascribe the events to the planets then if they change for you won't they also change for others? So how does it change anything?

So where is the answer?

The serious, real answer is in your nucleus. You harbour the entire gamut of vibes of the Universe in you. If you can change that and "this" is within your power you can influence the world around you.

Deep within our talk with ourselves gives to us the foundation of our self-centredness but as others cannot hear it we are happy to live with our pretend image.

The saga of Goddess DURGA is to bring this to the fore with an aim to destroy any vestige of arrogance.

When we talk of the lower class of propensities what are we referring to?

For me it means a certain class of habits that keep us down on the ladder of human emancipation. The consciousness is not broad or wide enough to understand how actions and reactions have a wider, world circling effect.

For instance here are some characteristics observed in people who could be classed as the lower class.

- liars and deniers; will never agree to be at fault and blame others and never acknowledge something they have said or done if it proves them to be at fault.

- accusers and criticisers

- never consider the repercussion of their actions; they'll dig holes and throw things out that will come in the way of others and then wonder when there is an accident why people are not careful.

- know best; it never occurs to them to not interfere or ask permission but they make changes to suit them and think that what they prefer is the best anyway.

- any hint that they are in error raises their hackles.

- other characteristics are like loud, never let things be, avenging spirit, hurt others willfully to show that they are better and should be acknowledged as such.

- very little regard and respect for Earth, other living things, anything except their own personas; wastage and litter comes easily to them. Very irresponsible and negligent of their duties. But very conscious of their rights even when there aren't any.

NOW IMAGINE THESE PEOPLE RAISING CHILDREN! (In their image? God forbid!)

I have lived through one mother, 3 aunts, sisters, cousins, 6 lady friends, guardians in hostels, teachers, 3 women bosses and workers, friends, associates of all hues alongside men of all hues too in every kind of situations in greater numbers in position of father, bosses, teachers and business associates, service providers and some friends.

In all this I realized one thing specifically. Anger develops where the mental maturity of an educated, well-travelled & widely experienced "MIND" is lacking.

I am often seething with anger but I control my thoughts and emotional responses and use my knowledge of human nature to manipulate rather than let loose my quarrelsome side which with my acting ability, control on words and understanding of reverse psychology can be rather daunting.

I have realized that I cannot reach these minds. The minds are set. The motions and notions are set. The subconscious is in absolute control and repeats itself.

If try to reach them with words, nothing will happen. It is back to square one when we meet next. Advice, orders all go down the drain; even when medically important. Nothing registers. No effort to change or understand is made. If too much of an insistence is applied you get back "argumentative backlashes".

It is frustrating, exasperating and that is how it is.

You can only back off if you can afford it.

The truth is emotional dependency makes us want to be together and mental disconnect separates us like a huge stone wall. Humans need to find a solution to this.

One of the ways that things could change is if children are taught about it from the beginning so that they understand in what kind of waters they will be swimming in life.

I am trying to relate a thought experience but the words are not coming to me easily. I have felt many times that in certain relationships that as and when closeness starts to grow, I can feel an opposite atmosphere also starts to develop. Soon a nearly deliberate situation is allowed to happen and evolve which blasts out like an angry argument that takes the relationship back to YOU & ME as separate beings. My explanation is that the Spirits behind our characters are often too selfish to let go and merge in love and friendship. In many cases I have myself stayed away from relationships because the ties of gratefulness would trap me in a long silk string that would curb my own independence to follow my route. The more friendly contacts we have the more compromises we have to make.

In Indian Tantric philosophy we believe to make the Human being at the general worldly level 3 beings get together. The physical, the Emotional (vital) and Mental. These are controlled mainly by a master being in general cosmological terms by the parent Vital being. This shows itself in humans as the ego.

Enlightenment happens when the mind after all the experiences in life, mostly the bad ones, realises that there has to be more to life than this and starts looking for answers in the and from the Universe. This opens the mind to the Intuitive mind where Truth can be learnt more easily.

Humanity accepts this as a Fait Accompli.

People who wish to go into the higher consciousness realms have to break this chain of old pattern of thoughts that comprise of platitudes, confirmed truths, accepted norms and such. We are using every old quote as authority to continue with our old ways.Where will the change come from?

Otherwise we condemn ourselves to remain stuck in the old way.

We have to find the way to live in friendliness, without compromising, without diluting the concentration of our yoga/sadhana( spiritual pursuit).

Of course humanity is not ready for it yet. It may even be another few thousand years.

There is a deliberate tendency in people to avoid being conscious. All the effort goes in avoiding reality because that would demand looking for answers.

They won't even acknowledge that they are in pain.

The need to prove that they are bigger than their weakness is very big.

What have we done to ourselves?

We have connected our egos to our sense of virtue.......

Slogging is respectable - taking it easy or in short steps is not.

Obeying is the right thing - questioning is being obnoxious.

Putting up an image of infallibility is essential - show of inability makes you a pariah. etc and so forth.

What did it prove? Teach? Achieve?

When we wish to take over the lives of others with a very set agenda of imposing our wishes on them, what do we start as a wave?

Can any good ever come out of this thinking?

Accepting others have different ideas is not difficult. It is when the others insist that they have to be taken as the only valid ones.

Like for example their views on God and how he works and how humans should behave in response.

I admit some viewpoints valid or not may be too far distanced to have anything common.

Opening rigidly shut minds to new thought patterns is not that easy. In such case distancing and maintaining a functional contact alone is best - if at all.

There aren't enough knowledgeable adults to teach the kids. This is what keeps IGNORANCE alive and kicking in perpetuity.

- Who is listening

Yes. I have much to say on this, but who is listening?

We can only re-say what we all already know. You particularly know it well and do not need to be told more.

The others couldn't care. The ones who really need to become aware of the pushes and pulls in our conscious and sub-conscious planes couldn't care less - they are so smug in their little worlds.

Humans started communicating with sign language and then words came in and then writing and more complex languages. To this was added printing that made long dissertations to be disseminated at long distances in long passages. People had the time and inclination to want to know more because they had this urge to find more about their world and how they could take advantage of it.

Today it is VISUALS. Everything comes to you as videos. Small and big clips that you can repeat as often as you wish -- something unprecedented in human history. There is nothing to absorb or retain.

Remembering and integrating any information and use to further oneself is not really that necessary.

We have happily, very comfortably allowed ourselves to think that we know, we have heard and that we have understood even before the point has been made.

The mind is an instrument. WE have to learn to use it. It has to be trained by rigorous methods. But our education system, the social system, our behavior and responses system have been re-calibrated by the focus on "LIVE WITHOUT EFFORT".

Digital technology has put stupidity into our hands literally and we are wallowing in it.

See how and what we have done with life in comparison with the life in 1920s. We have a commercially engineered answer to every wish...... You want to impress; go for the most impressive expensive car as alluded to by the media.....you need money; the banks are so ready to give you credit cards..... You need to be seen in a good light your Jeans and tee-shirt or jacket will do it......excitement is wanted in life: highly organised "safe" adventures are organised and waiting; you have to only pay a frightful small sum.......being knowledgeable; you need Google and an instrument......books? What a waste of good time..... etc etc and so forth.....and with a click you can let the whole world know.

We have actually sold ourselves out. Whatever little science of application and training of the mind we had learnt in the past 5000 years has been washed away in the last 50 years. Only pride and arrogance has overgrown and nobody is mowing the lawns.

I am afraid if I go on too long on this subject for surely somebody will come and say "So you think you are superior and can tell us what is wrong with us as if you are without faults - what an arrogant brute".....and that is that.

When it is never "THEIR" fault, there isn't much left to say. What we don't like we can easily avoid today both in people and experiences. Wonderful; isn't it?

- Parent-child time

It has more to do with the journey than any specific situation. Parent-child time is just a situation. The parent's job is to prepare the child for the life that is coming. Parents are not required to be soft or harsh but firm and educative but most parents treat children as an extension of themselves and personal property. Unconscious parents are passing on their lack of conscious awareness and instinctive hereditary memories. This cycle needs to break but HOW has always been the question. We can have aware parents only if their curriculum of family influences and education is changed when they were children growing up. A vicious circle that is difficult to break.

There is also this question: a drastically changed curriculum of bringing up can make the child unfit for the life & social circle he is born in.

In the coming "Future" of this Earth this cannot go on. It has to change. The more unprepared you go into it the more difficult it is for everybody and you can leave a huge sticky mucky trail (like snails) behind you for generations.

Now just imagine when everyone is doing it. How much muck is being produced and the "waste" being secretly dumped in the subconscious? We can't let the demons win, can we?

Difficult or not humanity has to wake up to this fact of the wastage and pollution we leave behind for a moment's fun on this earth because we are in a position to do so.

This has been the problem since always and now it can be seen as a "physical" aspect in the deforestation, radiation, monster-medical practices, plastic and nuclear waste being secretly dumped that is insidiously spreading and affecting lives and the very existence on earth.

The need of the moment is a rise in consciousness levels.

Humans have learnt to live upon certain glorified images of what is good and bad and they are content and satisfied when they have managed to ape and incorporate these images in their puny lives.

As individuals we live we very self-contained tiny lives; moving within some very limited parameters. All our energies are focussed on creating the right images for others so that we are appreciated and accepted in the society we move in.

As an aside I give this example: It was found in the 1950s that being seen on TV with dogs and babies increased the chances of being elected to office. So this became part of the orchestrated projection of the persona of the candidate. So much so that soon having a dog became the virtuous thing to do. Now people think of themselves as pet-parents. And human children are not having it half as good dogs are in many households.

This has been the problem of humanity since the time the mind woke up and began developing separately as an intellectual spirit. Religions came out with lists of good and bad "IMAGES". In the present state of things most people have only one goal - to be seen as "good" and this they do by fitting themselves into frames that have been already prepared for them.

The vibrations, the words and the images are being pumped into a person right from the moment of inception.

The big question therefore is how to break this vicious circle and raise the level of consciousness and change the images to be living for.

The climate issue is not yet hurting the individual in the city where most of the activities of humans is now centered. Where and what is the problem? Water comes in taps, electricity runs everything; for travelling there is the car and food can be ordered by telephone.

What crisis are you talking of?

As mostly history has taught, humans need crisis to get out of their stupor. And the earth is definitely moving towards one. Everything will happen in good time. It is a natural cycle that cannot be hurried without a raise of consciousness and the raise of consciousness will not happen without the crisis. The pity is that one crisis may not be enough. With each crisis humanity moves up one tiny microscopic notch. So we have a lot of generations still to go.

As individuals let us do the best we can.

(Although my feeling is that these few drops simply merge into the ocean only serve to delay the inevitable crisis.)

But I am seeing the mind now sticking itself on other fixations. This scientific understanding of the Creation is creating another shift in mentalising our world.

I will call it a change only when the nature of the mind itself sees a change where it stops being a tool of the "emotional center" and will stop seeing itself as the center of the world.

- On the art of looking within into oneself.

Why are you depressed? Even unhappy?

There is no reason really to be unhappy. The world is here. We are all here and all moving about with chin up.

If you are asking yourself this question then look deeper and wonder what started it. We usually feel unhappy when anticipated outcomes do not happen to our wishes and/or we are not getting to make the world move as we want it to.

This is a trait that we are all given as part of our nature by the Cosmos and Mother Nature. Normally hardships and good tough parenting strengthens our outlook to understand that this life is not a bed of roses.

But a tendency to depression can be increased by too much coddling picked up from bad parenting. We as parents need to teach our children that everything is not available in life on a silver platter by not overdoing the "kind and loving" thing to ensure that the child does not feel deprived or neglected. Another reason is that the parent has no idea how to deal with the child and just lets the child have his way because he is not psychologically ready to take the responsibility of "parenting".

But this happens specially with parents who had that kind of a life and try to ensure that their child does not go thru the same. They tend overdo it to compensate their own lack.

A good reason often is also the fact that parents can over-praise the child, making him feel superior. Parents should aim to give the child the confidence that he can do it and show that his parents have his back but honesty is also the policy in the household. In pursuance of this policy, live it also otherwise the consequences of a character built upon basic dishonesty will always be negative and attract trouble or failure and psychologically a lot of self-hurting thoughts and emotions.

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Making money should not be considered as success. Two elements go into its making. 1) Your ability to give what the people require along with your ability to gauge their stupidity 2) luck.

Most humans are not generous enough to share their abilities so selfishness has to be curtailed by law because otherwise the money power in the hands of humans can become very destructive. (The government unfortunately is also made of the same humans).

Accumulation of money and beating others down has been made the platform of considering "Success" (one of the many thought patterns that rule humanity) so we have war-minded people who mentally organise and make money and others who use their strength and the sword to go to war and grab what they want.

But what people conveniently forget to see is the luck part. Destiny/fate or luck puts you in a place where this can be done from. Opportunity plays a big role.

In short and simple language this means that when we find errors and faults in others we are seeing what our mind is showing us and what it sees is what is embedded and imprinted in it and the subconscious behind it ( it is following your wishes). That is all it knows.

"We are seeing what we are".

We appreciate what makes us content and makes us satisfied.

What we are not liking is what we are insidiously unknowingly/subconsciously not liking about us but cannot accept it to maintain the façade that life/society requires. What our outer nature brings out forth is contradictions and arguments trying to hide it all (I think the modern word is gas-lighting). Spiritually in philosophical language this is what we call insincerity of our Being that is generally the foundation of human nature.

Think this over. We don't need expositions of higher living philosophies for now. At the stage humanity is we simply need to learn to live wisely and kindly. Let us first arrive here. We have not even been able to arrive at the level of the 10 commandments but we talk of The Kingdom of heaven and spend valuable hours and energy in writing/discussing of consciousness levels that are way beyond our immediate need for the next step.

One of the things in the human ethos is our need to remain silent about disagreements or/and bullying for the consideration that "It will displease" and invite further ill-willed reactions.

There is no such thing as irrational. The rational may not be obvious. This is what we are expected to explore using a quiet mind without getting caught in the storm.

Let things happen in their natural flow. Some things will certainly offend some. Some do it on purpose to make a point. Do we have a right to offend?.... Though if truth and exposition of fact offends then so be it. The act of offending deliberately is war mongering.

The constitution of your country may give you rights but the consequences have rights too. Let us never forget that Mother Nature doesn't give any rights.

We are also easily swayed by gossip.

This is true; we are emotional babies and we are easily displeased, insulted, influenced and shamed. And these are attitudes that we promote religiously as indicative of our sensitive humanness. I see them as weaknesses.

The MIND is a world in itself..... Unlimited possibilities to imagine. It is a universe within the Universe.....endless & and no boundaries.

YOU dear sir, are in a mental public place. Shoulder to shoulder with a throbbing voluble crowd that is jostling you around. There is a commonness of thinking and beliefs so you are quite comfortable. You are all picking up some thoughts here and some thoughts there; exchanging them at the drop of a hat. It is a lively and an engaging scene.

But you are not one of the crowd even. You are THE Crowd with the great pride of being an individual just because you can see your shoulder separately from that of others. But at the mental level there is no intellectuality; whatever little there is gets submerged in the sea of thoughts around you.

One day you are Mr Goldegad, the next day it will be Mr Merton and some days later your mind will be Mr Osaka and some days later it will be again Mr Merton if not Dr Crook.

Who are you today?

And come to think of it you are one day patient and generous and the other day tired and irritable - now what initiated that? A bad digestion or the arrival of unwelcome news? Did the honking by the neighbor disturb you?

You have heard of SAD? You all accept that the weather has a great influence on your moods? Then why is it so difficult to accept that thought patterns from the world around you are influencing even more deeply?

So coming back to the question of "who are you?" It seems that you are basically all the people around you (and the more there are the worse it gets) that have been and are+ your ego who "simply cannot be wrong and cannot be faulted".

Why can't we be open, frank and honest?.... take things with a pinch of salt and humorously. It would cut short the duration of misunderstandings and pave the way for real development, action and development -- stronger deeper friendships.

If you allow your intuitive mind to grow and spread, you will see that although our stories are as varied as the number of people on earth, there is an extremely common thread running through it all.

We all have the same elements powering us. For a moment let me digress and compare it to cars - like whatever be the brand, shape or color and comforts added to a car the basic is an engine on 4 wheels with a gear system, brakes and steering wheel.

To elaborate further we humans have the same components as a body, a mind and set of emotions with lots of 'amour-propre'; the mind has a way of functioning which is quite similar in all of us and our actions and reactions are basically quite common. To mention a few to make my point clear: The art of listening and not paying attention, the art of looking but not seeing what is of no interest to us, the art of bluffing, the capacity to lie and forget, the capacity to create from imagination, to love intensely, to be kind and giving and forgiving and cruel at the same time, the way we suffer anxieties, fear and are affected by Nature, the way we desire and seek appreciation and approbation.......all these are the same and we all die. Yet we all believe in our exclusivity....hope keeps us alive and going. Shibumi is the art of rising above all our frailties by acknowledging them first, then honing the use of our minds, our talents, controlling our emotions and essentially become master of ourselves where every second is lived with purpose.

How we fritter away our precious lives: 1) Most people are just babbling; going in circles with their thoughts without thinking. Once the qwords are out of their mouth they are openly stuck with it and then they then need to justify it. So long useless and discussions and arguments ensue. But all this is considered "involved living" and rarely accepted as a waste of the time given to us on earth in this life-time. Humanity has not come to this point of purpose yet. "Whiling away time" is humanity's greatest sport. For thinking beings this attitude is so astonishing.

Why not challenge yourself to do something like a new hobby in which your capabilities are put to the test? Even a small safe activity like paining or photography would be a start. The joy and exultation one feels when we are praised for our work can do wonders to our spirit. It also helps become a little more introspective, quieter and less critical.

For me what is sad as we now float thru 2023, is the way people are becoming anti-people, subjective and distancing themselves from pulsating life by depending on technology and tech-products. On the matter of toxic I tend to agree. As technology renders "need-for-help" less imperative, the tendency to become selfish and ARROGANT is acutely visible. Have you looked at yourself? Friends and group activities are important for receiving feedback. By avoiding people we have only encapsulated ourselves in our arrogance and our narcissistic view of ourselves.

The corporates are subtly influencing thinking by harping on the frailties of humankind and building the foundation that without (their) help the human would be lost and sick; quietly they are adding poisons into our lives for profit and we are colluding with them as non-thinking isolates which suits them perfectly.

Since the beginning of the so called pandemic 3 years ago I am surprised at the insistence of some friends (from USA mainly) to advise me and insist on following their pattern of thinking. They seem to know what is best for me. Their thinking pattern is so corporate led that I am totally surprised. Besides being so totally influenced, from my writings they all have concluded that I am disturbed and need help and as good friends insist on helping me! Who needs enemies when we have such great friends?!!!

Steve Haag

We're among a mess of mixed messages. What are people trying to make you think?

PK to Steve Haag

Yes. Thru the TV, journals, fashion statements, medical pronouncements and advertising they are modulating and shaping the thinking of their clientele and social acceptances.

It is blatant and shameless misuse of the lazy factor in humans that philosophically would be called inconscient, indolent and irresponsibly ignorant. Everything goes straight into the subconscious bank and comes out thru their minds as knowledge.

Think this over.

We don't need expositions of higher living philosophies for now. At the stage humanity is we simply need to learn to live wisely and kindly. Let us first arrive here. We have not even been able to arrive at the level of the 10 commandments but we talk of The Kingdom of heaven and spend valuable hours and energy in writing/discussing of consciousness levels that are way beyond our immediate need for the next step.

One of the things in the human ethos is our need to remain silent about disagreements or/and bullying for the consideration that "It will displease" and invite further ill-willed reactions.

There is no such thing as irrational. The rational may not be obvious. This is what we are expected to explore using a quiet mind without getting caught in the storm.

Let things happen in their natural flow. Some things will certainly offend some. Some do it on purpose to make a point. Do we have a right to offend?.... Though if truth and exposition of fact offends then so be it. The act of offending deliberately is war mongering.

The constitution of your country may give you rights but the consequences have rights too. Let us never forget that Mother Nature doesn't give any rights.

We are also easily swayed by gossip.

This is true; we are emotional babies and we are easily displeased, insulted, influenced and shamed. And these are attitudes that we promote religiously as indicative of our sensitive humanness. I see them as weaknesses..

The MIND is a world in itself..... Unlimited possibilities to imagine. It is a universe within the Universe.....endless & and no boundaries.

YOU dear sir, are in a mental public place. Shoulder to shoulder with a throbbing voluble crowd that is jostling you around. There is a commonness of thinking and beliefs so you are quite comfortable. You are all picking up some thoughts here and some thoughts there; exchanging them at the drop of a hat. It is a lively and an engaging scene.

But you are not one of the crowd even. You are THE Crowd with the great pride of being an individual just because you can see your shoulder separately from that of others. But at the mental level there is no intellectuality; whatever little there is gets submerged in the sea of thoughts around you.

One day you are Mr Goldegad, the next day it will be Mr Merton and some days later your mind will be Mrs Osaka and some days later it will be again Mr Merton if not Dr Crook.

Who are you today?

And come to think of it you are one day patient and generous and the other day tired and irritable - now what initiated that? A bad digestion or the arrival of unwelcome news? Did the honking by the neighbor disturb you?

You have heard of SAD? You all accept that the weather has a great influence on your moods? Then why is it so difficult to accept that thought patterns from the world around you are influencing even more deeply?

So coming back to the question of "who are you?" It seems that you are basically all the people around you (and the more there are the worse it gets) that have been and are+ your ego who "simply cannot be wrong and cannot be faulted".

Why can't we be open, frank and honest?.... take things with a pinch of salt and humorously. It would cut short the duration of misunderstandings and pave the way for real development, action and development -- stronger deeper friendships.

If you allow your intuitive mind to grow and spread, you will see that although our stories are as varied as the number of people on earth, there is an extremely common thread running through it all.

We all have the same elements powering us. For a moment let me digress and compare it to cars - like whatever be the brand, shape or color and comforts added to a car the basic is an engine on 4 wheels with a gear system, brakes and steering wheel.

To elaborate further we humans have the same components as a body, a mind and set of emotions with lots of 'amour-propre'; the mind has a way of functioning which is quite similar in all of us and our actions and reactions are basically quite common. To mention a few to make my point clear: The art of listening and not paying attention, the art of looking but not seeing what is of no interest to us, the art of bluffing, the capacity to lie and forget, the capacity to create from imagination, to love intensely, to be kind and giving and forgiving and cruel at the same time, the way we suffer anxieties, fear and are affected by Nature, the way we desire and seek appreciation and approbation.......all these are the same and we all die. Yet we all believe in our exclusivity....hope keeps us alive and going. Shibumi is the art of rising above all our frailties by acknowledging them first, then honing the use of our minds, our talents, controlling our emotions and essentially become master of ourselves where every second is lived with purpose.

Until humanity agrees to look at itself, we shall only perpetuate a bad situation thru our children.

Brad Hercina

Life on Life's terms. Life will do as Life will do, arguing with it is futile, not to mention a little foolish. Hence, it is best to be totally unprepared - that way anything can happen!

PK:

One of the biggest issues that we adopt to complicate and destroy our lives are 1) Predetermined notions 2) The list of good and bad. To explain further... We rarely examine the notions that make the foundation of our reason, logic and behavioral patterns. These can be very simple to the very complicated. For example it is generally assumed that rabbits like carrots above all and cats like wool balls and dogs like it when throw a stick. On the complicated side we talk of God has said this and god's will is that. Or to be more precise the notions like "Honesty is the best policy", "Obey your parents" and that All service providers like doctors and priests have our best interests at heart. (Here I may add that they may have the best interest at heart if they knew exactly what is in our best interest). Our entire life is spent in justifying ourselves -- our ego demands its justification to exist; mainly our anger when you see others are NOT doing things the way you think it should be "correctly" done.

So what is stopping you from stopping your mind and wondering if its thinking pattern corresponds to the life you have had. Compare your past with your notions and if you are not comfortable then decide to change your patterns of thinking and reasoning. - this is not as easy it sounds and can be very disturbing to the psyche as it will to a big extent shake up our world. This is also why we need to be very careful about what all we are passing down to our children.

Some of the worst notions are based on religious texts of all communities and religions. The beginning of all arrogance and misbehaviors as license to be so is provided

The notion is right but in practice until you have really walked the entire route of the prophet and established Heaven's Truth in you, you will only use it as a shield to misbehave or an excuse to cover for your tendencies.

Watch out for these tendencies and learn to recognize and annul in oneself and don't let it come out into your behavior in any way. Usually we take our ire out on the most vulnerable like children spouses and employees. In the case of children the most harm is perpetrated.

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I see around me many women taking the initiatives, control and authority. With age, they behave more and more with the animus character. It looks like the motherly role being over, the place is open for the animus. Is it a correct observation and is there any work on the change in animus expression with age in woman?

[Debra Hollander](https://www.facebook.com/groups/436083526492180/user/669081562/?__cft__%5b0%5d=AZWGxNDKxP2rQfalKudHeKiNLN3i9t_xw794UVLMKWaD-pqJNQT2emQN2ao_7dLGMPKy3Yp9Cti4ULvjlssqB6gqRQOBVTPSymvEUVQL0_vh2tg5wV46C62It4ep8VBx73PK3mbl-GPnI0Di-zrDAyVY&__tn__=-UK-R)

Some women become that way due to necessity. They may find there is not a man in their life at all or one that gets things done. Someone has to get things done. Therefore, they end up in that role. Not necessarily a bad thing. That independence and new found courage can be wonderful.

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Agree. Sometimes or more often than not women have a very difficult job of making a home with not so capable or responsible men. And then often the women are really better educated and capable than the men that society backs as the lord of the family. But in my view the raising of children and running a difficult household brings out the basic arrogance of being capable and over confidence can come easily.

The permutations and combinations of the situation are countless.

The Art of withdrawal is an important one to learn. Instead of getting more and more "animus" and try to control the lives of children or things around us, we should aim at relinquishing hold and let things flow without forgetting to take care of one's own life and do whatever it takes to protect one's own life-path and interests.

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We need to really change our basic thought process and patterns. We have been indulging in double-cross and talking with a forked tongue all this while. In most cases when we look at life from non-enlightened apparent cause and effect mind that has not learnt to see the world with detachment and intuitively, we see one the biggest falsities totally accepted and promoted by the influencers of spiritual attitudes that the ego has to be done away with. NO. Without the ego we would be non-entities. The Ego is the primal force that gives color to our otherwise bland persona. It is the motive force and the source of our vitality. It is an energy that has been under the influence of demonic forces and used by them to further their ends. The poor humans are their tools. The good news is that humans can use their discrimination using their reason and education and goodwill to put a stop to this by simply using their will. They can impose on the ego to do well and positively and lovingly by espousing only kind and compassionate feelings and transform the ego-energy in to something Divine. What is needed is Transformation - not annihilation. Educating the children with this mindset can bring in the change that has eluded mankind till now. See how we promote the negative side of the emotions thru the ego: - Success is in accumulating wealth and the power it brings in life. To achieve this end, dishonesty, cruelty and impartiality is tacitly acceptable as along as it does not become too obvious.

- All those who are not with us are our enemies. Enemies are to be destroyed. War is therefore acceptable.

- Women are a lesser species because they have to bear children and are basically kinder so not practical to the pursuit of wealth and war. It is a fact that we act by habit.

- We deal with people more by habit than understanding. The habits develop from the conditioning we have received and known. Once our habits are set.......some cases of mistaken responses are bound to happen but if we are aware then this can be avoided. It is imperative that our children understand about this.

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About the author: From Sri Aurobindo Ashram, Pondicherry.

Consumer products Design Consultant. Internationally exposed to Teaching & Counselling, Marketing, Technical Joint ventures, Travel Trade. Speak: French and English. Hindi.

Management of French Academy, Delhi, CEO Sep Overseas P ltd, Country manager for European companies, Teacher in various institutions doing speciality programs etc

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This is my latest and last collection. A complete philosophical picture where the humanity is, why it is here and going and how to get unstuck to evolve into a grander future. It is more of a treatise in occult applied psychology. Even if the subject of life and "improvement" looks BS to you, I think all will benefit as we are all after all human. This is one collection I would advise to look into once just for curiosity's sake. This is a collection of what I have been shown by the Cosmos in my quest to get the evolution unstuck from its present state of grounding. All I need to say from the wisdom collected in this lifetime is here in a nutshell.

I have a request before you get into the book. I would like you to think that; 70 active and conscious years have gone into realizing the words I am putting down here. I have put a great deal of learning, study and effort in my knowledge of language and delivering messages. I feel I have done a good job of saying accurately what I wished to say.

Please start with this premise that I know what I am talking of and let your mind accept this as a start to a new wave of thinking. Kindly don't be in a hurry to interpret, rephrase and explain it all away.

If you find the ideas new to you, do let them sink in.

I say this because all the major religions have had centuries of time to embed many concepts and postulates as truth and the time has come to go further forward into the evolutionary future; a little against the old grain. It is 2 books in one. In the first I bring up the points of lies that we live in. In the second I show how parenting perpetuates the errors and how this can be corrected.

Best Wishes